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My son is 17 and recently started dating an older girl who has had sex before, while I suspect my son has not yet. I'm know it's gonna happen... I'm not a fool. I have told him no gf's in the house alone with him. I have bought him condoms and spoken to him many times about STD's and pregnancy. My big concern right now is that he is home alone a lot while I am at work. I am a single mother so dad is not around. Dad WAS around when his older brother was this age and so at that time I did not have to work. No sneaking girlfriend over in that house. With this guy though? I'm not real sure what to do honestly. I have been wondering how other parents handle this. Yes I know they can have sex anywhere and they will find a way, but what's to stop them from using the house as a motel room?
Even "good kids" break rules set up by parents they love.
Teens who decide they're gonna do something will find a way. You have equipped your son as well as you can, right? Short of quitting your job or installing video cameras to record his every move, you can't really stop him from doing things you'd rather he not do.
Make sure he is fully educated on safe sex and birth control and then let nature take its course? Make sure he knows he can come to you with questions or concerns, and you will love him forever no matter what. At 17 it's no longer really in your control, you just do the best you can to help him make good decisions for himself.
Get him gardasil shots. Urge use condoms. Then, try to remember the joy of your first sexual relationship and look the other way. It's not evil, or criminal. Be happy for him.
Get him gardasil shots. Urge use condoms. Then, try to remember the joy of your first sexual relationship and look the other way. It's not evil, or criminal. Be happy for him.
This. Its just pointless and slightly weird to stress about older teens having sex - its normal, its healthy (if proper precautions are followed) and its fun.
Time to cut the leash. There is no real differance between 17 and 18 so ide cut him some slack and let him do what he wants in his room. Once I hit 16 I was pretty much allowed to do as I wanted within reason. As my dad said, he would rather know what I was doing in his home instead of not knowing what im doing at some one elses place.
Parents tend to have a hard time letting go and letting their kids make their own stupid choices. Your roll now is more to point the kid in the right direction and let them decide if thats the right path. As long as hes not doing anything illegal ide let it slide.
I agree with that other poster get him the Guardasil vaccine and buy him a box of condoms. Teens will find a way to do whatever you don't want them too. It is better for them to feel that they can trust you with things, that you won't "freak out" at the first sign of sexual activity or drinking. It is definitely better for them to experiment in a controlled environment. I was the youngest in a large family and I loved my parents. I still did whatever I wanted and could get away with which was plenty! Thank God all of today's technology wasn't around then. Talk about a Buzzkill! Before you think that I don't know what you are going through I have successfully launched two kids into college with two more teens on their way--- so not in clear yet but halfway done. Currently teaching my latest teen to drive which while harrowing at times as brought us closer as we have spent a lot more 1 on 1 time together.
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