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Old 05-25-2016, 02:21 PM
 
Location: City of Trees
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Teach your son to defend himself and make friends to watch his back. That's the only way to deal with bullies.
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Old 05-25-2016, 04:36 PM
 
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This is why my future children will be in private school or home school. These public schools kill me with this "ohh that's what children do!" Until someone gets killed. They care about their own reputation and their funds before they care about their own students smh.
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Old 05-25-2016, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Ono Island, Orange Beach, AL
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Tell the bully's dad that if it happens again you are going to beat the crap out of the dad. Worked for me.
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Old 05-25-2016, 05:55 PM
 
Location: 30080
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Im going to give some going against the grain advice from someone that was small in school and had to deal with things like this early on. Going to have to teach him to stick up for himself. No I don't mean being a bully or anything like that, but generally kids that get picked on are often repeatedly picked on because they're easy targets. Won't say how I fixed my problem, but...he's going to have to stand up for himself sooner or later.
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Old 05-25-2016, 06:09 PM
 
Location: in here, out there
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Was your son wearing his pants below his butt when the incident happened?
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Old 05-26-2016, 06:51 AM
 
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Report it to the school and document it any way you can.


Then tell your son to do what ever he can to beat the sh*t out of the bully if he lays his hands on him again.

If they threaten to suspend him you threaten legal action as they did nothing to stop the bullying.


Your son will gain the confidence he needs to win high school and hopefully life in the end.
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Old 05-26-2016, 09:30 AM
 
Location: 30080
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Report it to the school and document it any way you can.


Then tell your son to do what ever he can to beat the sh*t out of the bully if he lays his hands on him again.

If they threaten to suspend him you threaten legal action as they did nothing to stop the bullying.


Your son will gain the confidence he needs to win high school and hopefully life in the end.
It may sound harsh to some but that turn the other cheek stuff simply does not work in these situations.
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Old 05-26-2016, 10:17 AM
 
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Tell the bully's dad that if it happens again you are going to beat the crap out of the dad. Worked for me.
Good for you, Ansley. Sometimes the parental unit (or someone acting on their behalf) has to weigh in directly. I'm simply not going to allow my younguns to be bullied.

The school still needs to be put on notice and they need to be alert for bad conduct and take action to prevent it. But that alone may not be enough.

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Old 05-29-2016, 02:53 PM
 
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There is a life lesson here. If you are going to agree to fight someone, make sure you can fight. Otherwise you get beat down and your mom will spread your humiliation online.
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Old 05-29-2016, 04:33 PM
 
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I know that violence is frowned upon on this board, but if this thing doesn't die a natural death, then your son will have to try to stand up for himself (again). He may not have come out on top in the first physical altercation, but he could do well the next time around if you put him in some self defense or martial arts classes over the summer. That way, if he gets back to school in August and the other child still wants to act a fool, your son will be better prepared.
I agree with this 1000% but to be a little more specific, please don't enroll him in a "McDojo" where they will happily take your money in exchange for teaching him how to do nice Katas. There is nothing more worthless.

IMHO he will learn more in one week of a boxing class than he will in two years of karate classes. Brazilian Ju-Jitsu is extremely good too. The point though is to not be a victim... Once the bully realizes his favorite target is not to be F'd with then he will simply move on and find another one. The amount of pride and confidence that the previously bullied child will discover will be immeasurable too.

Unfortunately that's how it is, and until human nature changes then that's how its going to be.
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