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Old 05-27-2016, 01:30 PM
 
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I wouldn't make a decision one way or the other based solely on a diagnosis of depression. I'd pay attention to the persons's affect, demeanor, energy level, speech, etc. After all, many ailments are never even diagnosed, and how would I know about it even if they were?
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Old 05-27-2016, 02:24 PM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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No. Years ago, when a good friend told me that when she babysat for a neighbor's small children, she gave them a dose of Nyquil so they would go to sleep for the rest of the night. I remembered that years later when I had my own daughter, and although she was a good friend and most likely wouldn't have done something like that to a newborn, I didn't trust her to watch my daughter - ever.

Of course one never knows what medications someone is taking, but if they have openly stated they are on anti-depressants, I would not consider them suitable.
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Old 05-27-2016, 02:44 PM
 
Location: WI
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Wow! I am surprised by the reactions here. I know many people on antidepressants (or are in therapy for depression) who are completely functional, normal people and would have absolutely no hesitation having them watch my children. Not to mention there are probably many people in my life who are on antidepressants that I don't know about.

For me it would not be a depression vs. no depression issue...more about is this person responsible, does she have good references/experience, does she seem good with kids, etc.

I am not in the business of asking people about their medical conditions/medicines they take.
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Old 05-27-2016, 02:50 PM
 
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Had this conversation with my wife (and a few friends) recently. I dont think I am out of bounds in saying "ABSOLUTELY NO WAY!!!".

Two ladies I know offered their services to us but both are open about their battle with depression and having been prescribed anti depression meds. Both seem to be nice, but I cannot ever see under any circumstances to hire, even for a few hours someone who takes anti depression (prozac, zoloft, celexa, ritalin, etc.) pills.

Would any of you hire someone like this to care for your child(ren) 10 years old and under?
Would you rather your child be cared for by someone with depression that isn't undergoing treatment. This is the reason mental illness has such a stigma.
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Old 05-27-2016, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Wow- good luck finding any sitter or nanny with any life experience who hasn't ben on depression meds at some point in their lives. Also please consider many people suffer from depression but exactly because some people hold such antiquated notions, DO NOT seek help or meds. This is the kind of person I would worry about most. Also do you know how many TEACHERS, Bus Drivers, Preachers, DOCTORS and NURSES, Politicians, on and on are on meds for depression.

A Nanny should be hired for experience with children, educational background, references, driving safety and so many other criteria way before what kind of meds she takes.
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Old 05-27-2016, 02:59 PM
 
Location: California
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Don't hire a nanny at all.

Be their parent
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Old 05-27-2016, 03:00 PM
 
Location: here
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No. Years ago, when a good friend told me that when she babysat for a neighbor's small children, she gave them a dose of Nyquil so they would go to sleep for the rest of the night. I remembered that years later when I had my own daughter, and although she was a good friend and most likely wouldn't have done something like that to a newborn, I didn't trust her to watch my daughter - ever.

Of course one never knows what medications someone is taking, but if they have openly stated they are on anti-depressants, I would not consider them suitable.
What does this have to do with depression and associated meds?
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Old 05-27-2016, 03:01 PM
 
Location: WI
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Okay, I am really wondering how this works for the "no, never." posters. Does this "not for any age child" go for *all* adults who might take care of your children (teachers, coaches, club/troop/whatever leaders, kids' friends' parents, etc.) or just babysitters? I mean, how would you even go about finding out what medications any of those people take?! I cannot imagine any circumstance in which it would be appropriate to ask an adult whom I entrusted with the care of my kids what prescriptions they take.
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Old 05-27-2016, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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This thread is terrifying in its ignorance. The reality is that a child is FAR more likely to be harmed by a male friend/relative/coach than by a woman who acknowledges she has and is treating her depression.


Knowing the real dangers to our children is key. There is no place for hysteria in parenting.
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Old 05-27-2016, 03:15 PM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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Wow! I am surprised by the reactions here. I know many people on antidepressants (or are in therapy for depression) who are completely functional, normal people and would have absolutely no hesitation having them watch my children. Not to mention there are probably many people in my life who are on antidepressants that I don't know about.

For me it would not be a depression vs. no depression issue...more about is this person responsible, does she have good references/experience, does she seem good with kids, etc.

I am not in the business of asking people about their medical conditions/medicines they take.
Exactly. Frankly, someone who is forthright about being treated for mild to moderate depression (whether it is talk therapy or meds or more likely both) is a significantly lower risk than many other categories of people, including people who are glued to texting others and oblivious to what my child is doing. If a person's references check out (with numerous other people who have used that person's service, whose opinions I trust), then I see no problem whatsoever.

Having said that, I would be more concerned about someone with bipolar disorder, because I had a good friend who has this disorder and he would sometimes purposely go off his meds because he felt like he was more productive when he was manic (though an outsider would disagree with his assessment).

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