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Old 05-28-2016, 08:34 PM
 
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Very good question!
To those people I ask: what if your nanny developed depression as a RESULT of working with YOUR child? (haha)
Anyone who develops depression due to their job tasks needs to find another job. A job that causes depression is not a good fit.
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Old 05-28-2016, 08:44 PM
 
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All these "never!" people are funny. Perhaps some of them are planning on homeschooling, but I'm sure not all of them are.

Something like 60% of my kids daycare teachers, preschool / pre-K teachers, and elementary school teachers were on some sort of medication for either depression, anxiety, adhd, or related. It's just a fact of life. They were all wonderful teachers and caretakers.
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:00 PM
 
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All these "never!" people are funny. Perhaps some of them are planning on homeschooling, but I'm sure not all of them are.

Something like 60% of my kids daycare teachers, preschool / pre-K teachers, and elementary school teachers were on some sort of medication for either depression, anxiety, adhd, or related. It's just a fact of life. They were all wonderful teachers and caretakers.
Nannies provide child care, not education - what I mean is that typically nannies and babysitters provide child care (historically, nannies provided education).
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:08 PM
 
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Absolutely not! Young children thrive in environments that are psychologically healthy, structured, predictable, and stable. People who have psychological problems to the extent that they require daily medication to manage those problems should not be around children. I would not take that risk with my own children - ever.
Really? Not even their own mothers who are being treated for postpartum depression?
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:08 PM
 
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Yes, so long as like any other medical condition they are properly monitoring it.

Had a babysitter for my kids that had a medical ailment and that did not interfere with how well she managed the duties.

Relieved that parents are mindful and do background checks. Maybe do a background on updating your mindset about depression and the mental health stygmatism.
The bolded above^^^^

This topic made me think about a co-worker whose husband was being treated for depression. Despite being on the meds, he tried to commit suicide. Apparently, from what the co-worker told me, he hadn't had a doctor regularly monitoring him because they recently moved. After his suicide attempt, he spent over a month in a psychiatric hospital plus he found a good doctor. This time, his meds were regularly monitored and he was also in therapy.

The sad thing was that once their kids' friends' families found out about his suicide attempt, they wouldn't let their kids visit. The thing is, he was never a violent person to begin with.

I mention this story because if the nanny is on depression meds and sees her doctor regularly, it shouldn't be a problem. Asking the nanny if she regularly sees her doctor, I don't think is inappropriate. If she is responsible and takes care of her health, that's definitely a plus.

Either way, it's a good idea to do a thorough background check on anyone you are considering hiring. Years ago, I read that people spend more time deciding what car to buy than they do choosing child care
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:13 PM
 
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Really? Not even their own mothers who are being treated for postpartum depression?
I think I'll go with the point that we are discussing the hiring of a babysitter/nanny who requires daily medication to manage psychological problems. To that, I say absolutely no way.

Regarding women who suffer post-partum depression, there are documented cases where women murder their children due to postpartum depression. On that basis, I would say that anyone who is that severely depressed should have help with the care of their own child(ren).
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:15 PM
 
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The bolded above^^^^

This topic made me think about a co-worker whose husband was being treated for depression. Despite being on the meds, he tried to commit suicide. Apparently, from what the co-worker told me, he hadn't had a doctor regularly monitoring him because they recently moved. After his suicide attempt, he spent over a month in a psychiatric hospital plus he found a good doctor. This time, his meds were regularly monitored and he was also in therapy.

The sad thing was that once their kids' friends' families found out about his suicide attempt, they wouldn't let their kids visit. The thing is, he was never a violent person to begin with.

I mention this story because if the nanny is on depression meds and sees her doctor regularly, it shouldn't be a problem. Asking the nanny if she regularly sees her doctor, I don't think is inappropriate. If she is responsible and takes care of her health, that's definitely a plus.

Either way, it's a good idea to do a thorough background check on anyone you are considering hiring. Years ago, I read that people spend more time deciding what car to buy than they do choosing child care
Everyone has a choice when selecting a babysitter. Given the choice of finding a happy, healthy, active, vibrant, enthusiastic, energetic, and psychologically balanced babysitter versus an emotionally unhealthy babysitter, how can there be any debate?
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:22 PM
 
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Wow! I am surprised by the reactions here. I know many people on antidepressants (or are in therapy for depression) who are completely functional, normal people and would have absolutely no hesitation having them watch my children. Not to mention there are probably many people in my life who are on antidepressants that I don't know about.

For me it would not be a depression vs. no depression issue...more about is this person responsible, does she have good references/experience, does she seem good with kids, etc.

I am not in the business of asking people about their medical conditions/medicines they take.
Exactly.
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Old 05-28-2016, 09:32 PM
 
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Nannies provide child care, not education - what I mean is that typically nannies and babysitters provide child care (historically, nannies provided education).
Preschool / pre-K / elementary school teachers all provide childcare in addition to education. People don't generally attend school with their children or send the nannies in order to provide the childcare while the children are being educated. If your children go to school under the age of 10, they will most certainly be cared for by someone on medication for depression / anxiety / adhd. The only way to truly prevent this is to homeschool, and never send your kid to any parents night out / summer day camp / vacation bible school, etc.

Come on, this isn't rocket science. Don't pretend that you don't understand.

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Old 05-28-2016, 10:30 PM
 
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Preschool / pre-K / elementary school teachers all provide childcare in addition to education. People don't generally attend school with their children or send the nannies in order to provide the childcare while the children are being educated. If your children go to school under the age of 10, they will most certainly be cared for by someone on medication for depression / anxiety / adhd. The only way to truly prevent this is to homeschool, and never send your kid to any parents night out / summer day camp / vacation bible school, etc.

Come on, this isn't rocket science. Don't pretend that you don't understand.
Apparently my rocket science skills are lacking here.

We're talking about hiring a babysitter; someone who can watch the children when the parents are at work, or out for the evening. A babysitter is not The Teacher.

Everyone can choose a babysitter, but the schools choose which teachers to hire. I'm a bit confused about why a discussion about babysitters on drugs has been connected to professionals who work in education. What's the connection?
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