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Old 05-29-2016, 06:35 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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Glad it worked for you. Still doesn't mean the children of those who use sitters are less important to their parents than those who don't use sitters.

The topic is depression. No need to pull out the high horse.
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Old 05-29-2016, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Encino, CA
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Reading through all the replies now. Im glad that I am not the only one here who would not put the health/safety/well being of my kids in the hands of someone battling a mental disease that requires Rx drugs.
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Old 05-29-2016, 06:38 PM
 
Location: here
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Reading through all the replies now. Im glad that I am not the only one here who would not put the health/safety/well being of my kids in the hands of someone battling a mental disease that requires Rx drugs.
Again, how would you know?
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Old 05-29-2016, 06:48 PM
 
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We rarely if ever used babysitters. Our children were that important.
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Reading through all the replies now. Im glad that I am not the only one here who would not put the health/safety/well being of my kids in the hands of someone battling a mental disease that requires Rx drugs.
And again, I'll ask the question you haven't or won't answer.

What if your spouse takes psych meds? What if you do? Or your parents or your sibling?

Where do you draw the line?
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Old 05-29-2016, 06:54 PM
 
Location: WI
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And again, I'll ask the question you haven't or won't answer.

What if your spouse takes psych meds? What if you do? Or your parents or your sibling?

Where do you draw the line?
I am wondering the same thing. I am also wondering if this goes for all people whose hands you would put your kids in, such as teachers and coaches, or just babysitters.
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Old 05-29-2016, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Leaving fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada
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And again, I'll ask the question you haven't or won't answer.

What if your spouse takes psych meds? What if you do? Or your parents or your sibling?

Where do you draw the line?
And what would you do if the person you hired later developed depression and began taking antidepressants to treat it? Would that be grounds for dismissal?
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Old 05-29-2016, 07:26 PM
 
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I am wondering what is all the fear of depression? And - all the more so - depression "requiring psychiatric medications"? (the horrors!)

Lots of people have depression and mask it, certainly at work.
Again, someone on meds for depression will likely NOT have symptoms of depression and will NOT be depressed anymore (that's why they take meds after all!)

People with depression are not "dangerous", are not more irresponsible, are not lazy/less hard-working, are not psychopaths.

Honestly, I don't see where all the fear about people with depression is coming from...

I can see not wanting to leave your kid with a schizophrenic/someone not based in reality/delusional, etc.
But a little depression? Or anxiety? I don't really see the issue here.
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Old 05-29-2016, 07:31 PM
 
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Again, it would be illegal under the ADA act to discriminate in hiring due to mental illness or any other disability.
This law applies to employers with over fifteen employees, and a few other groups. It would certainly not be illegal for parents to discriminate in hiring a babysitter/nanny because of a disability.

"How would you know" if someone has a certain condition or takes a certain medication? Obviously, you would not know unless you asked and they told the truth. Of course, they might lie or you might nor ask about that particular thing. How would you know if your babysitter was an alcoholic? You might not know, unless you came home one day and found her passed out on the couch. You would hardly be the first person to find out such a thing after the fact.

The question is not "how would you know," but "what if you did know."

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Old 05-29-2016, 08:08 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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Glad it worked for you. Still doesn't mean the children of those who use sitters are less important to their parents than those who do use sitters.

The topic is depression. No need to pull out the high horse.


There is no need for you to straddle a low horse, my dear. Sitters are just absolute last resorts for some of us. And if forced/ necessary to utilize one, we would only hire the cream of the crop. Mental issues? Too much risk involved.
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Old 05-29-2016, 08:22 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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There is no need for you to straddle a low horse, my dear. Sitters are just absolute last resorts for some of us. And if forced/ necessary to utilize one, we would only hire the cream of the crop. Mental issues? Too much risk involved.
1) I am not your dear.

2) Your attempts at some imagined superiority are really irrelevant considering that sitters are not alone in their potential for depression. Many parents themselves deal with depression. Kids could potentially be with a sitter with no depression and a mother who has depression. Then what? Who cares more, the parents with or without depression? How on earth can we assert superiority in that case? .....

*For the record, I believe people who are dealing with their issues are generally perfectly capable.

My guess is, if one is going by risk alone, driving around town carries more risk than a caregiver who is actively dealing with their depression. Consider that - do you also avoid driving because it carries too much risk?

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