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Old 07-15-2016, 10:47 PM
 
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Better be careful. I grew up in a small town with quite a few drug dealers and knew a few young women that would trade sex for drugs in a heart beat. I know one of them was raped and killed at 18.
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Old 07-16-2016, 12:11 AM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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You need to talk to specialists about how you can support your daughter, without also supporting her drug use.

My first instinct would be to make the next ride, and residence in your home, contingent on getting clean (rehab or other medical detox), working a program, and seeing a shrink.
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Old 07-16-2016, 04:25 AM
 
Location: Happy wherever I am - Florida now
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The meth gives her the high of feeling energized that the bipolar gives her when she is up. The miserableness of personality she displays is par for the course when crashing from it. She needs to see a psychiatrist who has dealt with both conditions. Not sure if you can get her committed for a period of time. There are also alanon type groups that deal with drugs.

I would search her room when she's out for any contact info that could be turned into the police. If there's a way to get a license plate number when she gets picked up that would be good too. Id tell her when she's home that the next time she sneaks out and wants a ride you will be sending the police instead. Tell her she is not only ruining herself and her health but ruining yours and the familys too and you can't let everyone else be dragged into the pit with her.

She needs to see what people turn into after years of abusing drugs, anorexic, teeth falling out, living on the street, etc. a ride through an area like that may wake her up. She also needs some alternative way of living, some responsibilities, some better friends, some activities. Try not to let her out of your sight. Let her know that you are disappointed in her stealing and that will lead to a life in jail if that's what she's aiming for. Tell her her activities have long term consequences and she needs to decide which way she wants to go.
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Old 07-16-2016, 05:36 AM
 
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I think you need to accept the fact that she isn't your daughter anymore. she belongs to the drugs.
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Old 07-16-2016, 08:48 AM
 
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a good rehab can cost in the six figures. how do you think all the hollywood stars & celebrities can do hard drugs all the time and get clean without anyone really noticing?
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Old 07-16-2016, 09:24 AM
 
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Your daughter was diagnosed with mental illness 6 years ago and you don't even know what type of bipolar disease she has? You failed her years ago. Way to jump in and enable her now
No no no no no no. Mental illness isn't simple to diagnose in children. The OP likely got several diagnoses on the way and the final isn't final, its just a best guess. I have a child with mental health issues and I can't tell you exactly what his diagnosis is because it seems to change each time we see the doctor. Its not black and white like a provable, testable medical issue like diabetes type 1 or 2. Its very murky! Don't be so rude when you aren't living it.
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Old 07-16-2016, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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No no no no no no. Mental illness isn't simple to diagnose in children. The OP likely got several diagnoses on the way and the final isn't final, its just a best guess. I have a child with mental health issues and I can't tell you exactly what his diagnosis is because it seems to change each time we see the doctor. Its not black and white like a provable, testable medical issue like diabetes type 1 or 2. Its very murky! Don't be so rude when you aren't living it.
I agree with you--I'm a special ed teacher and they don't pin names on these things till they're over 21.
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Old 07-16-2016, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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Something bad has already happened to her and you need to stop.

Cut her off financially.

Go to an Al-Anon meeting.

Stop driving to pick her up, don't pay for her cell phone.
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Old 07-16-2016, 11:27 AM
 
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Also inquire about getting her into a detox program. Or, once she is in jail, perhaps that will be an option when she comes before a judge. DON"T opt for one of those short-term programs, or something that she would just go to during the day. It takes a long time to relearn how to live--at least a year. And, after her mind clears, she has to want to stay sober.
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Old 07-16-2016, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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You are clinging to hope with every phone call she makes. Hope is good. But.....


She has to WANT to stop, and there are risks in having her in your home until she decides to clean up her act. She will continue stealing from you. And severe bipolarism is a big enough problem on its own without meth in the picture.


I assume that you are paying for her phone service so that she can call you for rescue, but you need to stop doing that. When she wants to come home, she will. You are being used. I certainly understand your worry, but you don't know what kind of people she surrounds herself with in Phoenix, so you could be placing yourselves in danger. So, yes, you are enabling her. If she was under 18, it would be different (and I have no problem with aggressive intervention). But she's responsible for herself now.


I had a co-worker whose son did the exact same crap. I don't know if he's still on hard drugs, but he's in his 30's now and has yet to get a job. Doesn't do a thing to help his mother. She never wanted him out in the streets, so she enabled him and there you have it.


I am sorry that you're having to deal with this sorrow, though.
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