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You are still a parent even when kids are grown. Just because you are discussing adult children, doesn't mean your kids are still living at home on your dime.
When our kids are out living their lives on their own, there isn't much to complain about, other than not seeing the grandkids often enough; and those posts go to the Grandparents forum.
Why are more than half the threads about ADULT children? Is CD THAT skewed toward the over 50 crowd? Is everyone SO wimpy that their kids never get kicked out of the nest? Young parents, take note and save yourself another 20 years of torture once your kids are grown...don't do what you see on CD!
I suspect many parents of younger children do not have time to post.
Well, since you don't have the demographics of people who log on to C-D to post, your data is useless. Maybe there aren't that many younger parents with younger kids here because they are all over at the babys-n-kittens forum. I had a 'mommy' forum when my kids were little and I posted there for YEARS. My kids are at a different stage of life now, I read C-D for other reasons, and occasionally ask for suggestions/info.
You can't even accuse these older parents with older kids of over- involvement, because you don't actually know what they've gone through to get where they are now. They are just asking for help now. If they know how to avoid the situation, they wouldn't be asking. Lots of times, once we type out the details of our problem, we realize it isn't that big a deal, sleep on it, and feel better then next day. Crisis averted.
A lot of posts are not about how to RESOLVE the problems of the children (adult children) but how to manage their own emotions when uncomfortable situations arise. We all benefit from a little venting, sympathy, feedback.
Does it cost the OP anything for parents of adult children to post on C-D? nope? Then stop worrying about it.
Geezus! I must have struck a nerve! I made a casual observation. I'm glad I wasn't the spoiled child of a helicopter parent. My parents had their own lives and their own issues. Whether or not they felt the need to "solve" my problems once I moved out I didn't really "overshare" with them and they certainly were not involved enough to need to vent to anyone!
When our kids are out living their lives on their own, there isn't much to complain about, other than not seeing the grandkids often enough; and those posts go to the Grandparents forum.
I guess it really depends on the people involved. I moved far away and was a very independent young adult. My problems were not my parents issues. Now I am on the other end. My older stepdaughter and her family live 4 miles from me. I hear about every drama in her life
This is the parenting forum. Yes, some of us are the parents of adult children. One thing I have learned is that as long as they call me "mom" and ask my advice I am still parenting.
Throughout all our child rearing years we have gained much wisdom, not to mention experience with about all the phases, training, illnesses and temperaments of childhood through the teen years and beyond.
What we know may benefit some posters here.
Personally, I feel like I am doing MORE parenting of my adult son for the simple reason that now he is actually LISTENING to me!
Why are more than half the threads about ADULT children? Is CD THAT skewed toward the over 50 crowd? Is everyone SO wimpy that their kids never get kicked out of the nest? Young parents, take note and save yourself another 20 years of torture once your kids are grown...don't do what you see on CD!
Horrors! People over 50 posting on the internet. Plus...the news just keep getting worse.....they reproduced and lived long enough to be parents of adult children. Hmmmm..... This seems to be causing you some distress. Speaking as one of those old biddies taking up space in the ether.....I suggest a nap.
You will always be a parent and what a parent goes through with all the phases and ages is just as important as when children are grown. The problems with grown children are actually more complicated and can have much more direr results.
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