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We live right by a state line and have been looking for about the past month at homes. We DO NOT have to move bc of a transfer of jobs or we're getting kicked out, we just finally have a down payment and are really looking forward to home ownership and a backyard for our kids Since we don't have to "get out" of anywhere, we have a few options since school for my 5 year old starts in a month and she's already registered at our local school.
We could continue looking, and if something pops up before the holidays, take it and move meaning a switch of schools and location beginning of the school year. Stop completely, pick up in the spring meaning we may have to rush and perhaps settle on a home since I 100% would want us settled and her to start school in the new state first day of school. I also have in the back of my mind, say we find a home soon, would it make any sense to have her start a school only to be pulled out after a month or so? Personally, I think she would adjust 100%, although I would feel bad doing it. In Ny grade k is mandated now, while in NJ where we are looking to go, it's not. But I would 100% enroll her in K in the new state.
I may add too, she doesn't have any friends she sees out of school, other then her "class friends'' in pre-k from last year (who she'll never see again since no-one is going to her elementary school). She hasn't mentioned any of them since her last day of school lol. It's like they never existed. So I'm not pulling her away from a group of friends or anything. What do you think would be the best transition for her?
Just move when you find the right house. She'll adapt, adults typically have more issues with change than kids. At her age it's not like you have to worry about graduation or state testing requirements.
Just move when you find the right house. She'll adapt, adults typically have more issues with change than kids. At her age it's not like you have to worry about graduation or state testing requirements.
That's how my husbands feels, and I think she will do fine too, but the momma bear in me feels bad lol.
I understand the worry but I think she will be ok. As long as you are honest with her and support her through the move, it should be ok. If she is *very* shy, that could raise issues. Is she usually pretty resilient or does she have a hard time with change?
I moved in the middle of Kindergarten (military family) and I was sad, but it was fine. My parents told the school when I would be leaving, and my class through a farewell party for me, and they all drew me a picture and made a book out of it. That made me feel special, and made it okay.
Go ahead and move, but see if they can do something special for her at school, like a cupcake party or something, to say goodbye.
She's little and won't have created any deep friendships at that point, so go for it. She will fit into her new school quickly and it will feel like home to her before you know it.
She's young enough that it won't matter. Just start here where you are and move her when you find a house. It will be stressful for you more than her. Eventually you'll look back and wonder what you were so worried about.
If you find a house and the move date is a week or two after the start of the school year, I would just wait until you move to get her started. If you don't have a place and a firm move date before the school year starts, get her into class. Kids are endlessly adaptable. If you treat it like it's not a huge deal, so will she.
If at the start of the school year you haven't found a house and at least set a closing date, understand that it might be weeks, months or more before you move. Don't stress about it, just take it as it comes.
I wouldn't worry about it, either. If you are going to move schools, Kindergarten is a good time to do it. It becomes more difficult when they are older and more established.
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Since we don't have to "get out" of anywhere, we have a few options since school for my 5 year old starts in a month and she's already registered at our local school. 
