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Old 02-20-2008, 02:04 PM
 
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I have nothing against those who are into watching porn/erotica (heck, I do it myself) but I don't think a 14 year old is ready to process some of the stuff that can be found online. Some of it is too disturbing even for adult viewing.
There are some really disturbing sites out there for sure.

 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:09 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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Am I missing something ? whats the porsche girl ??
Sorry thought it was something rude !!!
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Rance, I hope you don't take this the wrong way - I have been reading you for some time and I have great respect for you. But I have to admit, I feel a bit of relief that it isn't a "single mom w/son" phenomenon. I realize that boys at my son's age are going through the "hormones" phase, and I hope that he will eventually grow out of it (not the lust part, but the trashy website stuff).

Maybe I will manipulate access somehow - anyone know of the cheapest and easiest way to filter access to webpages?
I was a single Dad and had the same phenomenon. It's not about the parent. It's about the kids being curious. But having seen a few computers get fried from porn sites (not mine) I figured they could pay for that kind of activity themselves. Now that they have actual girlfriends...they seem to have forgotten porn sites even exsist.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:18 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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But when they get girlfriends is when the brain disengages !!!
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:23 PM
 
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But when they get girlfriends is when the brain disengages !!!
Nah, that happens after the wedding.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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All I know is they are not accessing porn sites via my computer anymore!
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:35 PM
 
Location: Branson, Missouri
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He's your average curious teenager.
My nephew was doing the same thing and my brother somehow blocked the computer so it wouldn't give him access to porn sites.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Ocean Shores, WA
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Why don't you get the kid his own computer then you won't have to worry about him messing up yours.

As far as him looking at porno, forget about it. He's going to do it and it's not going to hurt him other than maybe making his little 14 year old weenie a little sore.

If he's a normal person, he isn't going to be attracted to the weird stuff other than maybe once to see what it's all about. That's for perverts not normal guys with normal sex drives.

In my opinion, for a teenage boy to enjoy a good pornowhack is a lot healthier than for him to read Playboy which espouses an artificial chauvinistic materialism which is far more damaging to male/female relationships and societal health in general than a little erotic friction could ever be.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:38 PM
 
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sounds about right. I started looking at porn on the net around 15-16. Been looking at it ever since. It is a good substitute for the real thing until I get a vasectomy.

You shouldn't really be concerned. When someone watches porn they are choosing to satisfy themselves in the safest manner possible (abstinence) rather than with the real thing. Oh, and yes the girls at that age do start looking for boyfriends to you guessed it, have sex with them.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 02:46 PM
 
Location: California
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It depends on what he's looking at. There are a lot of things out there that are NOT normal. And this is from my standpoint as a very open-minded person about human sexuality.
I agree there are plenty of things out there that kids should not see... we simply created on our computer personal log on for each of our kids and we limit what sites they can go to. The older boys have My Space as do we, however we have friends on thier friends list and we are on thier friends list as well, plus we have all log in passwords etc....

They have yet to violate our trust because the basic rule for our house is:
Until your 18 I own you. After 18 you can do what you want in your own home, until then, I feed you, clothe you and take care of you with love and respect.. You will obey my rules as they are simple.

In our house there are no "what if's" or questions, we do not rule with iron fist, but we do prepare them for adult hood. They have chores and they get allowances accordingly.
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