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Old 02-20-2008, 07:55 PM
 
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And it might be a surprise to some but no, I didn't get addicted. Yes, I grew out of it. Yes, it was totally a phase.
Hey, I'm a "grown girl" and I still look at porn. Not addicted in the least. But, yeah, I just pulled out my DVD of "Behind the Green Door" to bring up to my man's place this weekend. Why? Because it's just FUN.

 
Old 02-20-2008, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Tampa
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OK, so I'm obviously not trolling - and also hoping I won't receive a bunch of nonsense for this thread. Last night I discovered that my son has yet again betrayed my trust by cruising for porn sites on my personal computer. I was so grossed out by the names of the websites alone that I couldn't even bring myself to click on the links.

The irony of this situation is that my son is so ashamed of this episode that he could barely focus on his homework project last night. He felt so bad about it he even suggested different (extremely harsh) forms of punishment that I could mete out against him.

The reason I am here and discussing this extremely personal (to me) info is because as stated earlier, this is not the first time this has happened. We had an incident a little over a year ago, and that actually fried up the whole operating system on the old PC and now I'm worried for my new laptop.

I would like to find out if anyone has experience with something like this, and what I/we can do to curtail this nasty habit of my son, going forward.
its just a phase hes going thru

that will last for the rest of his life...
 
Old 02-20-2008, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Tampa
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If you cannot remove the computer from him (which is what I'd do) then what you need to do is set up a specific user profile for him that locks him out of everything you don't want him to access, including the ability to install/uninstall any programs. Then you need to lock down YOUR profile with a difficult password. You also need to install nanny-ware to prevent access to inappropriate websites.

Then you need to make sure he doesn't touch that computer without an adult being present, which means he doesn't get to take it to his room or away from the public area of the house, period. Since he's a repeat offender, chances are he's not "sorry" but only "sorry I got caught".

a smart kid could get around that pretty ez...
 
Old 02-20-2008, 08:57 PM
 
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Sorry, but how is porn any different from those trashy romance novels females read...other than the fact that porn is usually graphical as erotica is literary?

Must disagree with you here. The sexually oppressed are more likely to have emotional, relational, and perhaps even physical problems as it is part of the natural human development process to explore sex in its many aspects. It only becomes addicting if its portrayed as perverted and forbidden or if the individual is precoded with an addictive personality.
Wow...Smerky, you seem to be an authority on this subject ! Im only joking...Smerky!

Btw, men/ boys are wired different then we are ( especially with sex). You may not have been addicted, but you're a woman so that could explain a lot.

I do agree that healthy sex shouldn't be portayed as perverted or forbidden, but porn is just a tool, iykwim !
 
Old 02-20-2008, 09:36 PM
 
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Get a Mac.. Won't have to worry about a virus.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 09:44 PM
 
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Why don't you just install spyware on the system. I use Spectorsoft and you could put up so many blocks, that he find logging on the sysem useless. If he knew that he was being watched, will he still go on. The answer is no. He has teenage hormones and don't know what to do with them. Next, it will be ordering movies on cable.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 09:48 PM
 
Location: still in exile......
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OK, so I'm obviously not trolling - and also hoping I won't receive a bunch of nonsense for this thread. Last night I discovered that my son has yet again betrayed my trust by cruising for porn sites on my personal computer. I was so grossed out by the names of the websites alone that I couldn't even bring myself to click on the links.

The irony of this situation is that my son is so ashamed of this episode that he could barely focus on his homework project last night. He felt so bad about it he even suggested different (extremely harsh) forms of punishment that I could mete out against him.

The reason I am here and discussing this extremely personal (to me) info is because as stated earlier, this is not the first time this has happened. We had an incident a little over a year ago, and that actually fried up the whole operating system on the old PC and now I'm worried for my new laptop.

I would like to find out if anyone has experience with something like this, and what I/we can do to curtail this nasty habit of my son, going forward.
trust me, the LAST thing you want to do is go on a rampage and yell and scream at him, i'm 15 years old and i looked at porn until recently, trust me it's JUST phase.
 
Old 02-20-2008, 10:45 PM
 
Location: Polish Hill, Pittsburgh, PA
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Yes, he is definitely ashamed beyond belief. He is totally aware that it is wrong, yet he says he couldn't stop looking because it was addictive (I'm paraphrasing here). I am curious about this book you mentioned - I'll check it out. Thanks for the tip!
I'm ashamed to admit myself that I likewise have an Internet pornography addiction. This is not any different than having a gambling, alcohol, drug, cigarette, shoplifting, etc. addiction. I like to consider myself to be a mature, rational individual, but you'll have to expect a boy your son's age to have these hormonal urges for a number of years to come. I myself probably stumbled upon my first pornographic site when I was 14, and now at age 21 I'm still as addicted as ever, despite having a (somewhat) healthy physical relationship with my long-term partner. I'd let this continue for a little while longer just to see where it leads, but if you notice this becoming a constant problem, then you might indeed wish to contact a licensed professional who specializes in breaking Internet and/or sexual addictions. I feel guilty as if I'm "defiling" my partner's trust every time I access one of these sites, but the allure is just too strong for my meager willpower.

On a side note I'm also addicted to City-Data, but that's for another discussion. LOL! Best of luck to you and your family as you trudge onwards through this trying time!
 
Old 02-20-2008, 10:47 PM
 
Location: Polish Hill, Pittsburgh, PA
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trust me, the LAST thing you want to do is go on a rampage and yell and scream at him, i'm 15 years old and i looked at porn until recently, trust me it's JUST phase.
Not necessarily. You say this now, but there's no guarantee that you want saunter into another pornographic site at age 16, 17, or 21 like me. If you're just looking at this briefly and occasionally it's no problem, but if it becomes habitual, then you have developed an addiction and ought to seek professional help. It's all part of the "joy" of being a hormonal teenager. LOL!
 
Old 02-20-2008, 10:52 PM
 
Location: still in exile......
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Not necessarily. You say this now, but there's no guarantee that you want saunter into another pornographic site at age 16, 17, or 21 like me. If you're just looking at this briefly and occasionally it's no problem, but if it becomes habitual, then you have developed an addiction and ought to seek professional help. It's all part of the "joy" of being a hormonal teenager. LOL!
trust me, i've STOPPED looking at porn, i got busted a few weeks ago, and haven't looked at porn since.
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