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Old 08-21-2016, 08:06 PM
 
Location: New Yawk
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My 11 year old nowvknows that I am Santa. And that if he still wants a present from santa, then he better not spoil the fun for his younger siblings. Or me

Hey, I never had any of that fun stuff like Christmas, or Santa, or parents, so I'm going to keep it going long in to their 30s if I can.
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Old 08-21-2016, 09:52 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I was probably about 8 or 9 when I already knew, and I remember when my mom told my younger brother of about a couple of years. She finally had to tell us because kids at school would always say he didn't exist, so when we kept asking her, she couldn't keep lying to us. But my brother cried when she told him, and I felt so bad for him because I knew how it felt when I found out.

But I loved believing in Santa Claus, and I'm glad she did it. We would leave cookies and milk out for him, and after we went to bed, my mom would eat the cookies and drink the milk, leaving several crumbs on the plate. In the morning, we'd be delighted to see he had eaten them. lol
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Old 08-21-2016, 10:38 PM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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My family did the whole Santa thing (and Easter Bunny, and Tooth Fairy) but I don't recall ever believing-believing in Santa. It was more of a make-believe game. Everyone pretended to believe, but it was a bit tongue-in-cheek.
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Old 08-22-2016, 07:04 AM
 
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My kids probably all knew by 3rd grade. The last one won't admit it.

I didn't do Easter baskets this year. There were unhappy people. I bought three sets of the huge Easter eggs the day after. I'll be hiding those in the bushes next year.
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Old 08-22-2016, 07:07 AM
 
Location: God's Country
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My 11 year old nowvknows that I am Santa. And that if he still wants a present from santa, then he better not spoil the fun for his younger siblings. Or me

Hey, I never had any of that fun stuff like Christmas, or Santa, or parents, so I'm going to keep it going long in to their 30s if I can.

I say good for you and all the other parents here who feel that way.
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Old 08-22-2016, 08:10 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Do parents generally break the bad news about the Easter Bunny at the same time?
And the tooth fairy? I was always torn between letting the kids believe in these fantasies and not wanting to lie to them. I mean what if one day they come to us and say "hey if Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter Bunny aren't real, why should I believe you now when you say there IS a God?" My boys were probably around 7 when they found out the truth.


But I admit Christmas was never the same to me when I found out there was no Santa Claus.
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Old 08-22-2016, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Georgia
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My next door neighbor had 4 kids and a very strict view of the Bible -- no Santa Claus for them. So of course, the daughter couldn't wait to tell MY daughter, at age 5, that Santa Claus was just made up, and her parents were Santa Claus. My daughter cleverly didn't tell me she was on to me until she was 8 or 9. :-) As far as I know, my 28 year old son still believes in Santa Claus, it never came up. :-)
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Old 08-22-2016, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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My 8 year old claims to believe, but I think she lies :P She asks me lots of scientific questions about the speed of Santa's sleigh and weight of the presents etc... Basically, as another poster said, she is moving from the concept of Santa as a person to Santa as an idea.

My 6 year old asked me this Easter (just after she turned 6) whether the Easter Bunny is real, since we decorate the eggs, and as her classmate told her it was not real. I just told her that people believe different things (she has Jewish and Muslim kids in her class too), and what did SHE believe? She said she believed in the Easter Bunny, because it brings chocolate and she wanted Hershey's cookies-and-cream this year.
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Old 08-22-2016, 08:45 AM
 
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My older daughter figured it out at 4. She had lied about something (washing her hands, I think), and I sat her down and had a talk about lying, and told her it was bad. She then says, well okay then, is Santa Claus real? Little stinker.

My younger son who is now 5 is a little behind the game and hasn't figured out who Santa Claus is yet. As far as he's concerned, presents just magically appear from no where. I think he may start to get it this year though. It's a good thing his older sister LOVES the idea of Santa (even though she never really believed), I'll have to get her to help me sell it to him this Christmas.
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Old 08-22-2016, 08:53 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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My child never believed in Santa. He was told right from the beginning that it was a fun game and he was quite willing to participate.

He was also told that many children believe it is absolutely true and that it would not be a nice thing for him to tell them and ruin the game for them, so he kept it as a secret.

I made it a point to never lie to my child. Even today, he absolutely trusts me to never lie to him. As far as I am concerned, the Santa thing is a lie to trick your child into believing a falsehood. Many parents use the lie to manipulate their children. Not such an honest relationship.

At any rate, my child had just as much fun with it a anyone else did, so he wasn't cheated out of any childhood fantasies.
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