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Old 09-13-2016, 12:28 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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I don't have any kids but this reminds me when I was 12(29, will be 30 in Dec),my pediatrician wanted to check my private parts and I put up and big struggle. The nurse came in to help him, meanwhile I started cussing and screaming at my mom who just stood there like an idiot .

She finally told them to stop and they gave up. No way was I going to let them do it. If I have a child I would allow a doctor to do if they my child is unconfortable.

OP allowing doctor to touch years foreskin and all???!!!!! Sorry but I would never allow that to happen to me. Your kid is tolerant, I was not as a child.

 
Old 09-13-2016, 12:32 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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Some doctors do it and others don't. We switched pediatricians because our daughter refused to go to a male doctor anymore, even though he had been her doctor since she was born. The female doctor we switched to insisted on a fairly detailed exam and made me hold my daughter down while she had a look. We never went back. In hindsight, I should have refused that part of the exam because my daughter was so obviously uncomfortable.

The first time my daughter saw her current doctor, she said, "I just want you to know, my underpants are never coming off in this office. If you're going to think I'm weird or have something wrong or insist on having a look when I've said no, then I'll just leave now and not waste your time." The doctor said that was fine as long as my daughter would tell her if there was ever a problem inside the underpants.
Yes I was u comfortable when I was kid, so much so that I shouted and hurled abuse at my mom to do somethig, and she did.

I just find it YUCK.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 01:47 AM
 
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Some doctors do it and others don't. We switched pediatricians because our daughter refused to go to a male doctor anymore, even though he had been her doctor since she was born. The female doctor we switched to insisted on a fairly detailed exam and made me hold my daughter down while she had a look. We never went back. In hindsight, I should have refused that part of the exam because my daughter was so obviously uncomfortable.

The first time my daughter saw her current doctor, she said, "I just want you to know, my underpants are never coming off in this office. If you're going to think I'm weird or have something wrong or insist on having a look when I've said no, then I'll just leave now and not waste your time." The doctor said that was fine as long as my daughter would tell her if there was ever a problem inside the underpants.
You do realize that could have really messed up your kid right?
 
Old 09-13-2016, 01:49 AM
 
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You are responding to a Mom that has three sons--all au naturale.

The foreskin keeps it clean. Do they check to make sure girls are keeping all their crevices clean?
Normal bathing will keep it clean. No, I really don't think it can tighten back up. LEAVE it alone! Teach your sons normal hygiene rules.
You are exactly right.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 01:54 AM
 
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Yes, very normal, and very important. Sadly now many pediatricians are hampered by either keyboard physician parents or paranoid parents who see a pedophile around every corner.


Usually in girls a look, in boys a touch to check on the testicles.
No, it really isn't very important. Between a couple of years old and puberty, there isn't that much that goes wrong down there.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 02:56 AM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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My son (11) has always had his privates parts checked by our pediatrician at his yearly check-up. At the end of a check-up, she'll take a quick look down the front of his boxers to see if hair has sprouted, then have him pull them down to his ankles and she checks for a hernia and pulls back his foreskin to make sure he's keeping it clean and it isn't too tight.

I've never had any problem with this, but I recently talked to my sister and she was shocked. She said her daughter (who's 14) never gets her privates looked at.

Is it normal for doctors to be checking all this? How much does your kids' pediatrician check?
I've never had sons but I think your sister being shocked is a bit silly. There is a difference (in the sexes). You have a boy with intact foreskin, and I don't find it odd that they'd do a hernia check. Whole different story with a 14 year old girl. When my daughter was a baby I remember her ped checking her genitalia (I was present) but not during her elementary years unless she was experiencing a UI or something. Your sister is comparing apples and oranges.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Raleigh NC
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My son (11) has always had his privates parts checked by our pediatrician at his yearly check-up. At the end of a check-up, she'll take a quick look down the front of his boxers to see if hair has sprouted, then have him pull them down to his ankles and she checks for a hernia and pulls back his foreskin to make sure he's keeping it clean and it isn't too tight.

I've never had any problem with this, but I recently talked to my sister and she was shocked. She said her daughter (who's 14) never gets her privates looked at.

Is it normal for doctors to be checking all this? How much does your kids' pediatrician check?
I'm fairly certain your pediatrician is not remiss in failing to check your daughter for hernias and a clean foreskin. Different genders have different health needs. I can't believe you are even wondering about this.

I'm pretty sure my girls never got more than a peek down their panties.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 07:46 AM
 
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My son (11) has always had his privates parts checked by our pediatrician at his yearly check-up. At the end of a check-up, she'll take a quick look down the front of his boxers to see if hair has sprouted, then have him pull them down to his ankles and she checks for a hernia and pulls back his foreskin to make sure he's keeping it clean and it isn't too tight.

I've never had any problem with this, but I recently talked to my sister and she was shocked. She said her daughter (who's 14) never gets her privates looked at.

Is it normal for doctors to be checking all this? How much does your kids' pediatrician check?
They are definitely NOT checking for hair growth. Lol.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 08:12 AM
 
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They do this for checkups for adults as well, they look for early signs of testicular cancer.
 
Old 09-13-2016, 08:51 AM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Some doctors do it and others don't. We switched pediatricians because our daughter refused to go to a male doctor anymore, even though he had been her doctor since she was born. The female doctor we switched to insisted on a fairly detailed exam and made me hold my daughter down while she had a look. We never went back. In hindsight, I should have refused that part of the exam because my daughter was so obviously uncomfortable.

The first time my daughter saw her current doctor, she said, "I just want you to know, my underpants are never coming off in this office. If you're going to think I'm weird or have something wrong or insist on having a look when I've said no, then I'll just leave now and not waste your time." The doctor said that was fine as long as my daughter would tell her if there was ever a problem inside the underpants.
How old is your daughter? That sounds like a fairly sophisticated statement for a child to make. How is a child supposed to know if there is a problem inside the underpants? If the child was very uncomfortable the first visit, I can see deferring, but at some point in time a quick glance would be a good idea to check for normal hair distribution and the like. My daughter was getting a sports physical at 14 and was dressed in a patient gown. The doctor examined her abdomen and saw a mole in her groin area which was normally covered up with underpants or a bathing suit bottom. She (doctor) said the mole should be removed. It turned out to be melanoma. I am grateful for doctors being thorough.

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You do realize that could have really messed up your kid right?
Oh, for pity's sake!

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They do this for checkups for adults as well, they look for early signs of testicular cancer.
I've read chart notes on the older boys and seen that the doctor taught testicular self-exam.
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