if you could change one thing about how you were raised , what would it be? (teaching, divorce)

[chiluvr1228]

Wish my mother would have stuck around and not dumped us with my paternal grandmother who obviously did not want the responsibility.


Wish my father had showed a little more interest in us girls but this was the 60's and men weren't "involved dads" as much back then.


Wish my parents would have put us up for adoption (we were 3 & 4) instead of sending us to live with my grandmother. I might have had a chance at a normal upbringing.

[pinetreelover]

I wish my parents would have pushed me a little more. Everything I did was wonderful and I was loved unconditionally, but I could have benefitted from a bit more pushing to achieve more.

[IndyDancer]

1. I wish I had had more household responsibilities as a child. When I moved out on my own after graduating college to start my first "real" job, I had virtually no experience in cooking/cleaning/basic maintenance.

2. I wish my parents had taught me to negotiate. I had very authoritarian parents (the kind that older sancti-mommies and -daddies like to look back on with rose-colored glasses) - "no" meant "no", the first time, and I heard it a lot. I lacked (admittedly still do to a great extent) the skills needed in the real world to recognize when and how to push back, bargain, negotiate, or make judgments about where the line in the sand really is. It turns out that obediently and unquestioningly following every stated rule is convenient for parents but not always as useful in adult life.

[Serious Conversation]

A kid would certainly have many more advantages growing up in a rich area like Boston, DC, etc., than they would in small town rural areas.

[Miss Blue]

I have no complaints or wishes to change anything about my childhood. I forgave them years ago and in my heart and mind thanked them for showing me what NOT to do to my own children.

R.I.P. mom and dad. I love you

[Extraction]

1. I wish they had let me make my own decisions, instead of making them for me.


2. I wish they had hugged me and told me that they loved me.


3. I wish they had realized how introverted I was/am.

[Corvette Ministries]

I wish I were brought up more independent. It took me many years - most of my adult life -to feel self confident and self sufficient.

[Mr Bruce]

It would have been better if they had made my curfew much later (midnight? 1am?) the first semester of my senior year, and then done away with a curfew the last semester of my senior year. Going from a 10:30pm curfew to infinite freedom was overwhelming and dangerous. I did a lot of stuff just because I could and not much of it was a good idea.

[Lost Roses]

I wish my mother hadn't died too young leaving seven children and a spouse who had no clue how to raise said children. What a mess. Life-long repercussions.

[rugrats2001]

Originally Posted by Miss Blue

I have no complaints or wishes to change anything about my childhood. I forgave them years ago and in my heart and mind thanked them for showing me what NOT to do to my own children.

R.I.P. mom and dad. I love you

Simply beautiful. Thank you.