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Old 10-04-2016, 06:50 PM
 
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Do you mean diapers or just pull ups at night? Either way, it's pretty common..

My kids were all potty trained between 2-3 years. I think it probably had something to do with the fact that the preschool that my older kids were transitioned from daycare type setting at age 3 to preschool and wouldn't accept your child if not potty trained. Put the fear of God in me.. I didn't want to go find another school as DH and I both worked and i liked the school so we started at 2.. though and go for a while but kept at it and they got it. They were good to go during the day just around 2y9m and went to preschool with underwear.

During this time, I did use pull ups on flights because we travel internationally quite often so easily over 10 hours and I wasn't trying to prove anything by taking the risk of an accident on the plane seat and then having to sit there for hours till we got to the destination. By 3.5 years, they didn't need pull ups on flights.

My girls wore pull ups at night till around 4 and my son till close to 4.5y. he would have continued, he didn't really care but I told him that they didn't sell it any more in the stores :-) and that we would get lots of Paw Patrol underwear for him since he was now a big boy. it worked.

Funny enough, my son was easiest to potty train. He's also the youngest and decided at around 2y3m or so that he wanted to wear underwear like his sisters to school and had a meltdown because we didn't have any boy underwear. I bought some that day (Friday) and he was ready on Monday. He wore underwear to preschool. His teacher didn't believe because she said he wasn't ready. No accidents that day made her a believer:-) he's the kid that seems to just decide when he's ready for something and does it

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Old 10-04-2016, 06:50 PM
 
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All 3 of mine were in diapers until a little past 3.5 years old.
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Old 10-04-2016, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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The long car trip thing is iffy, but it is very, very, very common for toddlers, and preschoolers up to age 6 or so, to need a diaper at night even though they are completely reliable during the daytime. Their bodies have just not matured enough to stay dry while they sleep. It's not fair to say a child is not toilet trained because they wear a diaper or Pull-Up at night.
Age SIX? I was called a "bed wetter" at that age and went to the doctor to get the problem fixed. And yes, it worked.
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Old 10-04-2016, 07:34 PM
 
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Age SIX? I was called a "bed wetter" at that age and went to the doctor to get the problem fixed. And yes, it worked.
The doctors kept telling me it was in normal range to still need a pullup at night until about age 7 when I insisted we see a specialist.
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Old 10-04-2016, 07:43 PM
 
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Old 10-04-2016, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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How common is it for 3 year olds to wear diapers?
I was told my daughter had to be potty trained before she could attend preschool. So I started getting her on the potty at 2 in hopes that she would be good to go by the time she was 3. She was doing great till my second daughter was born and it all went out the window! At that time she was 28 months. She didn't fully regress, but she refused to "poop" on the potty. She wasn't completely potty trained till she was almost 3 1/12. Then she never had another accident again. Ever! My 2nd daughter wanted to go to school so bad just like her big sister. I told her that she had to go on the potty first and that was it. She went into the bathroom and went. She was 2 1/2 and never needed another diaper or pull up! It was amazing! Neither of my girls needed a pull up at night either. My first daughter wet the bed once and never again. My second never we the bed. I have been told though that children who sleep very soundly often wet the bed because the urge doesn't wake them.

I have a lot of friends who have boys and they have all been 3 1/2 to 4 before they were potty trained. They also used pull ups at night till about 5.

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Old 10-04-2016, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Mt Shasta , Ca.
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Oh yeah , I let my kids "tell me" when they were ready . People got onto me but I didn't care. My ex husband tried to force potty training on one of our kids and she now has chronic intestinal issues in her 20's ( the only one of the kids too) and eventually took forever to potty train. They all were ready on their own anywhere between 2 and 4 .

If people gave me a hard time I just said that I was completely confident that by the time they got their drivers license they would be potty trained - that shut everyone up .
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Old 10-04-2016, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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IMHO, it is a lot more common than people realize, especially for boys. I remember a co-worker who constantly bragged that her son was "completely toilet trained at age 2 1/2". But, when you questioned her about the details she would back track and say "Well, of course, he wears diapers at night and during long car trips."
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The long car trip thing is iffy, but it is very, very, very common for toddlers, and preschoolers up to age 6 or so, to need a diaper at night even though they are completely reliable during the daytime. Their bodies have just not matured enough to stay dry while they sleep. It's not fair to say a child is not toilet trained because they wear a diaper or Pull-Up at night.
I don't think that people were concerned about the night time diapers or even the diapers on long car trips but the woman bragging and bragging about her "completely toilet trained" son wearing diapers during the day at sporting events and at the shopping mall and other places.
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And, during a different conversation she would mention, "The bathrooms are too far away when we watch his older sister plan soccer so he wears diapers then."

And, then another time she would say, "Well, he does wear diapers when we are shopping in the mall as it is too big a hassle to stop shopping to take him to the bathroom."

Yeah, sure he is "completely toilet trained." NOT!
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Old 10-04-2016, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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More common now than it used to be, for several reasons:

Disposable diapers don't feel as uncomfortable when wet as cloth diapers.

Many toddlers are in full-time or part-time daycare. This environment makes it hard to be consistent in focusing on potty training for the couple of weeks it typically takes.

Many parents are uneasy about initiating potty training, either because they think it will be scarily difficult, that it will be useless because their child may not be "ready," or they are afraid of psychologically damaging the child.

ETA: All three of my children were trained between 2 and 2.5. I took the lead. I'm sure if I had waited for them to take the initiative, it would have been much later.
It also is less common to be "potty trained" earlier because with more working parents, no one has the time or inclination to take baby, and run him to the potty 20 minutes after he drinks anything.

Whether a child is potty trained at 15 months (as my mother claims was typical "back in the day") or 3 or 4 won't matter in the long run and isn't worth stressing over. Past 4 and I'd discuss with a pediatrician to make sure nothing else is going on.

He or she will be potty trained when ready.
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Old 10-04-2016, 08:38 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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More common now than it used to be, for several reasons:

Disposable diapers don't feel as uncomfortable when wet as cloth diapers.

Many toddlers are in full-time or part-time daycare. This environment makes it hard to be consistent in focusing on potty training for the couple of weeks it typically takes.

Many parents are uneasy about initiating potty training, either because they think it will be scarily difficult, that it will be useless because their child may not be "ready," or they are afraid of psychologically damaging the child.

ETA: All three of my children were trained between 2 and 2.5. I took the lead. I'm sure if I had waited for them to take the initiative, it would have been much later.
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The long car trip thing is iffy, but it is very, very, very common for toddlers, and preschoolers up to age 6 or so, to need a diaper at night even though they are completely reliable during the daytime. Their bodies have just not matured enough to stay dry while they sleep. It's not fair to say a child is not toilet trained because they wear a diaper or Pull-Up at night.
So if other parents are willing to "wait until they are ready" it's a worthy of a snarky comment about psychological damage, but if you wait until they are ready at night then it's different.

I dunno. I waited until my kids were "ready" not because I was afraid of psychological damage but because it really wasn't worth the frustration it caused either one of us. They were each around 3. I think my son may have been close to 3 1/2. Guess what - once they made the decision they each had about 2 accidents. Total. And it was only a few weeks after that they didn't want diapers at night either. Again, accidents were rare.

Every child is different.
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