How do people feel comfortable raising a child with low incomes ?
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I've seen several posts about not being able to feed the kid, but haven't seen anyone show that someone making $30k won't be able to feed a child. They probably won't live in a large home, and some furniture and clothing may be second hand, but I bet they'll eat.
I make about that with two kids! We live in a 5 bedroom home, which is one of the largest of all their friends homes. We also have nice furniture that I bargain shopped for. my kids eat well and have never gone hungry. My youngest loves second hand clothes. He was deciding between polo, and under armour today.
Ty, DDI, but LOL, I didn't realize this was a boasting contest until stellastar2345 decided to pretend to read that into my post.
I don't get these people, seething behind their monitors, looking for posts at which to direct some false outrage over something that isn't there.
There are so many of them, but usually on P&OC, not Parenting!
I, too, didn't realize it was a boasting contest. But I thought, "What the heck...I'll play" and listed the first four things that popped into my head.
I can assure you my kids have never gone without, and they have no idea they are poor. Honestly I think in many ways they have more than kids raised in two parent households.
I can assure you that many kids know they are poor because their peers never let them forget that. I am glad that your kids don't have to go through that. But that doesn't mean other children of poor parents don't suffer some negative impact from it. KWIM?
You come here humblebragging about your salary, whining about your alma mater and sticking your nose in the air. You are clearly unhappy and have nothing better to do than post online to strangers looking for kudos. And you have the gall to judge and disrespect grown adults, who have worked, saved and raised children the best they could.
Stop. Just stop.
Grow up, get a life.
Stop complaining and whining and judging and actually live.
Come back in 20 years and tell us how things went.
I've stated it's a low salary often. That's not a humblebrag. and my alma mater is a terrible college. I don't come here to look for kudos. Asking people how are poor people happy about having a child isn't looking for kudos.
I come here mostly to tell people that going to a state school is a bad idea.
"grown adults who have worked and saved". uh, I've been working and saving for 5 years now.
I have a life. You've spent this entire summer coming after my posts judging me. I don't go looking for you. Also, I have significantly less total posts than you do, so really, tell me who needs to get a life?
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OP...I don't have a dog cause can't afford it and could not care of it. Babies are even more costly. Although the moms may be able to finance it with social subsidies.
I like how everyone assumes the situation of the Secretary. I know plenty of people that have kids and the employer offers insurance to pay for it. No going to the Government for that, it is part of working. We don't know from the OP what the financial situation is of the woman. We don't know what her health insurance package is. We don't know if she has assistance from a family member. I did not read if she lives on her own or is living with another family member or.
I don't make it a point to figure out how other people run their life. I have plenty of work trying to figure out how to run my own life. No reason to complicate things with someone's troubles. As far as having kids when you don't have a lot of money, when the kids are young they don't know that you don't have a lot of money. They are just being kids. No need to buy them all kinds of things. So much better to just spend time with the kids and build memories. As a dad of 6 I can tell you that my kids talk about the places we have been, the things we did, the time we spent together as a family way way more than they talk about some toy or item we bought for them.
Baby Daddy may have a good job - if let's say he is making just shy of 6 digits a year, she can stand to make about $800-1000 a month from child support. Factor in the tax deduction for having a kid, government benefits from WIC, ACA subsidies, she may qualify for SNAP, energy assistance, section 8, free internet (which is offered now in the greater Philadelphia area for low income families) , plus "grandparent" and other family member perks that are not included in her taxable income, free stuff from friends, etc. She may actually be in better shape that you! Trust me, I have family members that have kid after kid and the benefits they score are PHENOMENAL, but only IF you understand the system and how to get the most benefits from it! Then again, some people just have the kid first and worry about the financial details later. If she makes more money, she can stand to miss out on those benefits, so hopefully she does take advantage if she needs to.
And just because the previous secretary made the salary that your mother knew about, doesn't that this secretary makes the same amount of money. Her salary may be higher than you think. She might also have a second job to earn more money,
And when you apply for government aid, people should know that you are not getting top of the line health care or benefits. There are limits to which hospitals and clinics you can go to and what kind of food you can buy (of course certain CDers always seem to know someone who is gaming the system but in general this is not the case).
First of all, it's "WIC" (Women, infants, and children) not "WICK"
I do agree that you don't know the situation and what else is in her life.
Are you living in an area where 30K isn't enough to live on? In many places, it's plenty. Why shouldn't she be happy about having a child? If she feels she's ready, and she can support her child, then great! Lucky child to be born to a loving mom who wants her. Many children wouldn't be able to claim the same thing. There are children born into families with two parents and plenty of money who have awful childhood experiences because of other circumstances. Why are you worried about "how" she can be happy about this?
Well said!
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