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I would call the woman and have a frank talk with her. TODAY.
I'm going to disagree here and say this is NOT about the woman.
This is about setting boundaries with your kid.
The second I found out my kid was doing chat rooms or making these late night phone calls, all that crap would be cut off (internet, phone, etc).
And I can't BELIEVE the op is worried about "violating trust" of her son?
Seriously?
You're a parent. Parent.
What would a 40 year old woman want with a 16 year old boy? What's wrong with her?
Wild guess is that she is very unhappy in her current relationship and it is causing her to have emotional problems and feel desperate for any way of ignoring the issues, but again it is only possible to guess.
That's very interesting. I had read that USA was 18. I didn't know the legal age of consent was younger in Ohio, just that 16 is the legal age of consent in randy ole SCOTLAND.
IN NY, the legal age of CONSENT is 17.
MANY states are LOWER for the age of consent.
Most people ERRONEOUSLY think its 18 nationwide for the USA.
Still, even if I had a 17 y/o son involving himself with a woman in her 40s who keeps him on the phone at all hours of the night IN MY HOME, I would LAY DOWN the 'proverbial "law" and put a stop to it.
She still should NOT be discussing her personal intimate marriage and divorce details with a 15, 16, 17 year old, regardless of age of consent. They {the teen} can't handle it.
And the news here USED to feature only men who were predators, NOW they feature MANY WOMEN who are predators amongst teenage boys. Teen boys are GULLIBLE, and IMMATURE, and just waiting to "get some" anywhere they can get it. Even well into their 20s MANY young men are NOT fully mature yet, and NOT capable of RESPONSIBLE decisions.
I was very rebellious as a teen, FWIW. While I did not engage in any relationships as strange as this, if my parents had issued an ultimatum about the people I could talk to, I would have used the money I earned from tutoring to buy my own phone plan and sneak out at night to continue. Yes, I was that rebellious!!!!
Sure.. I had one knocking on my door last night at 11:30..
Or he's deleting messages because he doesnt want his parents to know he's contemplating running away, or that he might have a drug issue, and she's trying to talk him into stopping etc..
Under any context, conversations in the middle of the night, are not illegal..
Parents' responsibilities to their children should be set at a higher bar then ensuring their kids aren't doing things that are illegal. Many things are improper, but legal. Heck, there's a rather funny thread in this forum about a 3yo who likes to play with his junk. Nothing illegal about that at home, but everyone pretty much agrees to tell the kid to go to his room and go to town in private. LOL
I have teen age boys. I would end that relationship in a heartbeat. Be a parent. Your not there to be your kids friend. You are there to be their parent. I would be monitoring what your kid does all the time. I would also have him paying for the large phone bill. Since trust was mentioned, your kid has lost your trust. No teen age boy needs to be talking to anyone all night long on the phone. Talking to a grown adult? That would not work for me.
I would call the woman and have a frank talk with her. TODAY.
I would call and tell her that he is 16 and that if she contacts him again you will call the police and have her arrested. And make clear that she is to ignore ALL attempts by the 16 to contact her or you will still make that call to the police!
Sorry, but I wouldn't worry about my son not trusting me anymore. This is ridiculous!
I would call and tell her that he is 16 and that if she contacts him again you will call the police and have her arrested. And make clear that she is to ignore ALL attempts by the 16 to contact her or you will still make that call to the police!
Sorry, but I wouldn't worry about my son not trusting me anymore. This is ridiculous!
Won't work if the age of consent is 16 in OP's state.
Won't work if the age of consent is 16 in OP's state.
I wasn't aware what state they were in. 16 is ridiculous. Nonetheless, I would still confront this woman!
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