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I just don't get it. My parents NEVER tried to push us out. We had our freedom to come and go and we contributed to the household. My brother was in his 30's when he got married and THEN moved out. I was 27 when I got married and THEN moved out. I don't get these parents that try to push their kids out especially at a young age (yes, 23 IS young) and they're not even making that much money to support themselves.
I sense no loving relationship at all.
27 and over 30? At anytime did you look back and say, wow, this might be a little pathetic that I still live with mommy and daddy and can't support myself, as a fully grown adult? Are there a-lot of similarities between how your wife interacts with you, and your mom did?
27 and over 30? At anytime did you look back and say, wow, this might be a little pathetic that I still live with mommy and daddy and can't support myself, as a fully grown adult? Are there a-lot of similarities between how your wife interacts with you, and your mom did?
Not at all. We were independent and encouraged to save money. I don't have a wife--I have a husband and there's nothing wrong with our relationship or how we treat each other. Growing up we weren't babied or spoiled. We weren't forced out of the house. If we wanted to leave, we could. My brother and I turned out to be very successful individuals, married successful individuals and both of us have independent willed kids.
You have the right to decide who gets to stay in your home and he should respect that. His response was uncalled for frankly.
He has options, he might not like them, but he has options. Although tbh he sounds kind of spoiled so I can see how he might think that throwing a tantrum might get him what he wants instead of what he should be doing. Part of being a grown up is rolling with the punches life throws you. Your landlord says you need to move, you find a new place to live. If your current job doesn't pay enough, you get another. It's what you do. He needs to start being a grown up and you need to start making him.
As for your relationship - yes I can see why he would be upset after you told him he could stay and have now changed your mind. But he's not entitled to unlimited free lodging in your home and at the end of the day, he was going to have to get his act together at some point. You're doing him a favor by making him stand on his own two feet now while he's still young enough to turn things around. He will thank you eventually.
Easy--call up at least 4 sympathetic male family members (uncles etc) with burly physical attributes and THROW him out physically, then change the locks and install a burglar system. Done.
He told me I was selfish and didn't love him, and also called me a traitor and other horrific things.
He also didn't mention you are a bad parent, because you didn't fully prepare him to join the work force. You weren't active in his career plans and how he was going to implement them. I never returned home to live with my parents after college, because I got their proper guidance to not have to do that. You failed as a parent, and now you are blaming him. You don't care what he does, you just want him out. Shame on you, that your entire motivation is to have your own space. You talk like someone who wants to divorce their own child.
You sound like such a selfish and cold hearted mom. He's not a random stranger, he's your son for goodness sake. You already said he doesn't make enough to contribute, so you're basically telling him to hit the streets.
He also didn't mention you are a bad parent, because you didn't fully prepare him to join the work force. You weren't active in his career plans and how he was going to implement them. I never returned home to live with my parents after college, because I got their proper guidance to not have to do that. You failed as a parent, and now you are blaming him. You don't care what he does, you just want him out. Shame on you, that your entire motivation is to have your own space. You talk like someone who wants to divorce their own child.
You're saying it's my fault that he hasn't moved out? Last time I checked, adults were responsible for their own actions. Honestly, I'm quite jealous of your parents, because they were blessed with a responsible child who made smart decisions.
Must be a troll post. No mom can be that heartless but you never know. Moving along....
Newly created account, you think?
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