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Old 04-06-2017, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Concord NC
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A married couple who engage in the parenting of "x" number of children that they can afford to care for can't really be called "breeding". Having children and being parents are two different things.
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Old 04-06-2017, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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I associate the word 'breeder' with the fundies like the Duggars.
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Old 04-06-2017, 04:55 PM
 
Location: 500 miles from home
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I think it is meant to be offensive, but I also think it is in reaction to a term they find offensive "childLESS".
Agree. It's absolutely offensive.


What if we went around calling all childless people 'barren'?
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Old 04-06-2017, 05:06 PM
 
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It's not that it's offensive. It's that it is MEANT to be offensive.

As in: Ugh, that breeder. God, she's stupid.

NOT: Wow, she's quite a breeder. I admire her.
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Old 04-06-2017, 05:42 PM
 
Location: Pacific NW
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I thought the term breeder was a gay euphemism for straight people. In that sense, I've referred to myself as a "breeder" here and on other discussion forums. I don't find *that* usage of the word to be offensive in the slightest.

Full disclosure: I am a straight married male who is child-free entirely NOT by choice. It's a lonely type of existence as I have nothing in common with people who are parents, and also people who are child-free by choice. There's not a lot of MeetUp groups out there for someone like me.
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Old 04-06-2017, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Lafayette, LA
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I have to wonder how much time is given to contemplating this stuff. I mean seriously? "I'm not childLESS, I'm childFREE"?

Jesus. Who cares? If you don't want to have kids, don't have kids! If you do, then have them!

Come to me in 30 years and tell me what difference it made as to what you were called during your childbearing years. "Breeder", "Childless", "Childfree".

It's kinda like the importance put on what age the baby rolls over. 1 month? 3 months? 6 months?

In 5, 10, 15, 20 years.....it makes no difference.

Do we really need more stuff to be offended by?
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Old 04-06-2017, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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It's not that it's offensive. It's that it is MEANT to be offensive.

As in: Ugh, that breeder. God, she's stupid.

NOT: Wow, she's quite a breeder. I admire her.
The first might be offensive but the second is downright creepy.
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Old 04-06-2017, 07:21 PM
 
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Breeder term used to cover people who just live to have kids. I mean, there are other things in life to preoccupy your time.....get a hobby...
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Old 04-06-2017, 08:05 PM
 
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I think it is meant to be offensive, but I also think it is in reaction to a term they find offensive "childLESS".
Completely agree. And I feel "childless" and "breeder" are offensive on about the same level. "Breeder" implies an animalistic tendency to have babies. "Childless" implies you are lacking something. I'm on board with the term "Childfree," but I don't want to be called a "breeder." It doesn't bug me to any great extent (my panties aren't in the bunch over it), but I'd prefer other terms (e.g., "parent" ).
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Old 04-06-2017, 08:08 PM
 
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I'm in the minority, I don't find the term offensive in the slightest. Letting it offend you is giving those who use it offensively power over you. I also don't worry about the people who try to use it as an offensive term against parents, since they are leaving the gene pool anyways. Everyone makes their own choice and needs to live with it. Trying to be offensive to people with different views than your own solely because of said views is childish in my opinion. Which as a parent, I can ignore to focus on the more important things in life, such as my family and friends.
I agree with this! I see it as silly and very immature to call someone a breeder. I stop paying attention and taking someone serious the moment they mention breeder.
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