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Right, I'm questioning things, and whether injuries I sustained as a child, were actually accidental.
Apparently, as a toddler, I was "found" unconscious after falling out of my cot, and my parents say they don't know how long I'd been that way, but I was unconscious for at least half an hour longer. I'd been locked in that room so my mother could ignore me while I was in pain. (Apparently, her doctor told her to do so!)
No doctor or ambulance was ever called, so I was never checked out for injuries.
This is just one of many niggling questions, that seem only to be able to have answers that point to abuse of one kind or another.
Why, if there is a reason, wouldn't someone care enough about their child, to call for, or take it for help?
I won't be getting into the usual arguments about this, but would just like to throw the question out there, just for answers.
Depending upon what year you were born, there really were doctors who advised to lock children in isolation when they cried, or to spank them when they misbehaved. Parents did those things following expert advice.
Again, depending upon what year you were born, it didn't used to be normal to rush to the doctor for every little thing. I don't think an unconscious child is a little thing, but I think it is not actually child abuse to wait for a bit to see what happens. Doctors are expensive and many injures are self-limiting and recovered from quickly. With some kids, you'd be in the doctor's office twice a day of you went every time the kid hurt himself.
So, the answer is that I would take an unconscious child for medical help, but it is not unusual to wait for a bit to see if the kid will be OK on his own. Doctors cost a lot of money and that can be hard on the family bidget.
I suspect that answer isn;t of much help. Sorry about that.
20 years ago my friend's son fell 8 feet...he was 9 months. She called me hours later and I scream at her to take him to the ER. He did have a major skull fracture. She didn't hurt him on purpose, but she wasn't emotionally mature enough to make a proper decision in that case.
She was fearful that it would be reported to CPS...and it was. But the investigator had known her for years and knew she wasn't malicious in her poor decision making. And she did love her children...but she just wasn't a good mom. (She continued to make poor decisions about her kid's health and safety until there was a bad outcome).
So it could be poor parenting, neglect or even abuse. But was it malicious? Its hard to tell.
But I would, without a doubt get my kid to the ER if there was anything even close to a loss of consciousness.
I worked in a pediatric office from 2004-2015. Over those 11 years, we became much more pro-active about head injuries. In 2004, if a parent called and said, "Johnny was in a bouncy seat on the kitchen counter and managed to bounce it off the counter and hit the floor" (this was a common type of call mind you), we'd ask a few questions and if the child seemed OK, advise the parents to observe him for vomiting, behavior changes, uncontrolled screaming, etc and if none of that happened, to go on with "business as usual". By the end of my time there, the answer usually was, "He's probably OK, but bring him in and let the doctor examine him".
Of course a call about discovering a kid unconscious would be handled differently. We'd probably advise ER.
"Apparently, as a toddler, I was "found" unconscious after falling out of my cot, and my parents say they don't know how long I'd been that way, but I was unconscious for at least half an hour longer. I'd been locked in that room so my mother could ignore me while I was in pain. (Apparently, her doctor told her to do so!)
No doctor or ambulance was ever called, so I was never checked out for injuries."
Your mother was told by a doctor to do a thing, did that thing, then you claim that your mother never called the doctor?
Your tone is strange- the whole first paragraph is essentially you being upset at your mother for doing exactly what a doctor told her to do (this was in the past, times were different), and now you're upset that she didn't take you to see that doctor afterwards. Do you think he would have given a better answer in the office?
Nowadays, would I take my kid to the doctor for being unconscious? Sure. But 20 years ago, I suspect a phone call to the doctor would have been sufficient.
Depending upon what year you were born, there really were doctors who advised to lock children in isolation when they cried, or to spank them when they misbehaved. Parents did those things following expert advice.
Again, depending upon what year you were born, it didn't used to be normal to rush to the doctor for every little thing. I don't think an unconscious child is a little thing, but I think it is not actually child abuse to wait for a bit to see what happens. Doctors are expensive and many injures are self-limiting and recovered from quickly. With some kids, you'd be in the doctor's office twice a day of you went every time the kid hurt himself.
So, the answer is that I would take an unconscious child for medical help, but it is not unusual to wait for a bit to see if the kid will be OK on his own. Doctors cost a lot of money and that can be hard on the family bidget.
I suspect that answer isn;t of much help. Sorry about that.
That in itself sounds like neglect if a child is unsupervised and allowed to be in such situations as to be injured so frequently (whether you literally meant twice a day or not).
"Apparently, as a toddler, I was "found" unconscious after falling out of my cot, and my parents say they don't know how long I'd been that way, but I was unconscious for at least half an hour longer. I'd been locked in that room so my mother could ignore me while I was in pain. (Apparently, her doctor told her to do so!)
No doctor or ambulance was ever called, so I was never checked out for injuries."
Your mother was told by a doctor to do a thing, did that thing, then you claim that your mother never called the doctor?
Your tone is strange- the whole first paragraph is essentially you being upset at your mother for doing exactly what a doctor told her to do (this was in the past, times were different), and now you're upset that she didn't take you to see that doctor afterwards. Do you think he would have given a better answer in the office?
Nowadays, would I take my kid to the doctor for being unconscious? Sure. But 20 years ago, I suspect a phone call to the doctor would have been sufficient.
The being told to lock me in the room, was just because my mother was neurotic, and needed drugs to calm her down, constantly, and nothing to do with said incident.
Yes, my tone, is strange.
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