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Old 05-14-2017, 10:10 AM
Location: Paranoid State
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When I headed off to college 40+ years ago, mom said "Don't you dare get married while you're in college. You can shack up with some girl; just don't tell me about it. Don't get married before you have a chance to see the world. Don't get married before 30."
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Old 05-14-2017, 11:36 AM
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by elyn02 View Post
"Get out of this town. There is nothing here for you." when I felt bad about leaving her to go to college 6 hours away.

Thank goodness she listened to her own advice and is happily married now.
I got advice similar advice to this which was ironic because the year prior she got upset at me when I got an apartment on my own.

I had just finished college in Louisville, KY when I got considered for a job in Washington. I told my mother and she said, "I'll be okay here, you get the job, go, there isn't anything for you here." I ended up getting an offer two weeks later and was back in Washington a month after she said that.

I'm pretty sure this was a replay for her since she joined the military to get out of a dead end existence in Arkansas and to this day still gets resented by her family for leaving and not coming back. She didn't want me to experience the same thing.
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Old 05-14-2017, 11:41 AM
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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It's impossible to be too picky when it comes to guys. Be as picky as you want.
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Old 05-14-2017, 12:34 PM
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I really can't remember a thing but this thread is making me wonder what my own children would say.

I can give her credit for my work ethic, I guess.
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Old 05-14-2017, 04:31 PM
Location: South Carolina
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my mothers advice to my brother "never leave dirty socks on the floor , especially if your wife works all day , aint no woman going to want to come home and pick up after you ". I said that to my sons as well and one day I heard my youngest repeat it to my oldest after he left his dirty socks on the floor of the living room . My mothers advice to me" get away from home and live your own life " some mothers tell their kids they are not allowed to leave the same city they grew up in , much less the same state . To me that is selfish , let your kids live and be happy .
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Old 05-14-2017, 04:42 PM
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My mother always told me and her nieces to go to work and have your own money and your own property.

Fall in love, get married, have children if you want to , but always put enough away that you can survive successfully on your if you have to. Never depend totally on a man. Life is a question mark- you never know what may happen.
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Old 05-14-2017, 05:30 PM
Location: Saint John, IN
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Don't worry about what others do, worry about what you need to do!
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Old 05-14-2017, 08:49 PM
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My Mother told me, after meeting my girlfriend at the time:

" If you don't marry her, I'll kill you."

That was good advice.

She's gone now and her advice has made all the difference in my life.
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Old 05-14-2017, 09:12 PM
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You never know what's around that corner until you go around to meet it"

"never seek revenge, life will take care of the person who wronged you, and you won't have the aggravation of being involved with them"

"just worry about yourself, you will find in time the people you think have it better than you don't have it half as good, they are just trying to make you as jealous of them as they are jealous of you"

"every baby comes with his own set of instructions, you just have to seek it"

"Any darn fool can hit, it takes some brains to figure out what's wrong with a child and how to fix it"

"always look forward, never look back"

She passed away 25 years ago, but she's still with me......
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Old 05-14-2017, 09:23 PM
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Get a good education and a good job so you can take care of yourself (and your children) financially without the help of anyone else.

Thank goodness I listened to her since I married a deadbeat loser.
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