Adulting (divorce, babies, 10 years old, techniques)
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Forget roasting a chicken. I know a young man who recently started living on his own and had to call his mother to find out how to make coffee using a Keurig. He's also learning to cook chicken on a George Foreman grill and has to have his mother walk him through it.
My daughter's chem class (seniors in high school) did a project where they made grilled cheese sandwiches and she was amazed at all the students who had never made one. She had to show them how.
I'll add that these are just examples and certainly not true of all young people. But there is some truth to the OP's post.
Ah ha! there's the chicken roasting reference!
Thanks for the links. The OP should have included at least 1 in the first post.
Forget roasting a chicken. I know a young man who recently started living on his own and had to call his mother to find out how to make coffee using a Keurig. He's also learning to cook chicken on a George Foreman grill and has to have his mother walk him through it.
It's all in italics in the quote. It was a personal story. What's to disagree with?
Calling a parent is a good way to get help with something you don't know how to do. The coffee he probably should have been able to figure out. The chicken, meh. We don't come out of the womb knowing these things. He didn't learn before he moved out, but his parent still taught him when he called, right? Is there any winning here?
It's all in italics in the quote. It was a personal story. What's to disagree with?
Specifically the "has to" and the "had to".
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Calling a parent is a good way to get help with something you don't know how to do. The coffee he probably should have been able to figure out. The chicken, meh. We don't come out of the womb knowing these things. He didn't learn before he moved out, but his parent still taught him when he called, right? Is there any winning here?
Winning what? Are we in a contest?
I guess from my perspective, I have a hope that my college aged kid would be able to figure this stuff out without calling Mamma. In the scheme of things it is pretty small potatoes. If were were chatting anyway and they said, eh I bought this Kurig and I have no idea how to use it, that would be one thing. But if the felt they "had to" call me to figure that out, I would feel slightly discouraged at failure to instill confidence and resourcefulness.
I will say, some of that class material may be obsolete before they get out of the classroom. Not to get political, but who knows what's going to happen with health insurance and when?
I took my 19 year old grandson to the post office to mail his tax form this year. I told him he needed to send it certified mail. To my surprise he did not know how to address a letter. I knew cursive was now obsolete but I was shocked to know he never learned how to mail a letter.
I took my 19 year old grandson to the post office to mail his tax form this year. I told him he needed to send it certified mail. To my surprise he did not know how to address a letter. I knew cursive was now obsolete but I was shocked to know he never learned how to mail a letter.
My son learned cursive last year in 3rd grade. After he learned it, he wrote everything in cursive. I think the cursive lesson was a couple of weeks if that but they picked it up quick. I noticed his whole class writing their names on their papers in cursive (I did the Friday folders for his class).
Can you imagine the uproar when "home ec" was initially offered in school? "Where is the mother?!" Why are our tax dollars being used teach girls to do basic cooking and sewing? Who gets to high school/Jr. High without learning this stuff? Kids today are coddled!"
I took my 19 year old grandson to the post office to mail his tax form this year. I told him he needed to send it certified mail. To my surprise he did not know how to address a letter. I knew cursive was now obsolete but I was shocked to know he never learned how to mail a letter.
I don't know what that has to do with the part of my post you bolded. I was referring, if you recall, to insurance. We don't know what's going to happen on the federal level in the next few weeks. Also, when I first started working, there were no 401Ks, just pensions. Who knows what will be next?
I guess from my perspective, I have a hope that my college aged kid would be able to figure this stuff out without calling Mamma. In the scheme of things it is pretty small potatoes. If were were chatting anyway and they said, eh I bought this Kurig and I have no idea how to use it, that would be one thing. But if the felt they "had to" call me to figure that out, I would feel slightly discouraged at failure to instill confidence and resourcefulness.
"Winning" in regards to this argument and the subject itself. If they learn it in school, they should have learned it from their parents. If they didn't learn it be age 18 apparently we've failed. Now there is a resource that people apparently have to pay for themselves, but that's not good enough either. If we taught them to cook, but not change their oil, apparently that's a failure too. We can't win.
I am a full grown adult and I have to watch YouTube to learn how to do things I don't know how. Its a fantastic resource. Just because I don't know how to roast a chicken doesn't mean I am not overall proficient in life. It seems to me it shows a level of "adulting" to know where to go to learn how to do things they need it instead of sitting and crying over a raw chicken in their kitchen.
I used YouTube to learn how to remove my stitches! I'd injured my leg in another city while on vacation. We went to an emergency clinic, they stitched it up. If I went back to them, or one of their clinics, they would remove it for free. However, there weren't any of their clinic in my town. My doctor was out-of-town, they referred me to their ER, which wanted $500 deductible just to walk in!
I figured its not that tough---and the clinic that stitched it up gave me a suture removal kit in case I wanted to remove them myself. Just to give myself some confidence, I watched 2-3 youtubes about suture removal, then did it myself.
There's a ton of such videos out there that can help you do things yourself
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