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All well and good, as long as the DIL plays along. Mine will not. I am willing to see the good in her, she prefers I have absolutely no part in their lives, so, frankly, I don't. It's really a crap shoot when it comes to sons and their spouses.
But yes, my husband and I have our own lives, and other sons, so we've pretty much gotten over it. And we do have some limited contact with our son.
But, I have to stand up for the OP, who said right from the get-go that "worship" wasn't the word she was looking for. People need to stop making it the focus of their replies.
to be fair not everyone wades through all the posts and finds a clarification of the original post, they respond to the original post. Even with the clarification I don't agree with the post.
I totally agree about our sons and daughters and their choices of spouses. Even if they seem great at first there can be insecurity and petty jealousies by spouses that can hurt parent/adult child relationship. I loved my aunt but she made my uncles life miserable and he had to resort to seeing his mother, my nana, behind her back. It's not like my nana was interfering person, she was a quiet sweet women, but my aunt's jealousy knew no bounds even though she loved my nana too.
It would be interesting to see a refinement in meaning so we could reply more meaningfully. I have not seen that.
OP said it was her husband's word and not quite the right word but she couldn't think of another one. That happens to me at times, too.
Regardless of word choice, the OP does make me uncomfortable. It does sound like the OP has a romantic, or semi-romantic relationship with her son. OTOH, she and DS live 1500 miles apart, so it's not like they can't live without each other.
The 26 year old son of a friend recently became involved in a relationship with a woman, something he hasn't done since high school. My friend said "She has replaced me in his life". This is as it should be.
The 26 year old son of a friend recently became involved in a relationship with a woman, something he hasn't done since high school. My friend said "She has replaced me in his life". This is as it should be.
I don't even feel my dil has replaced me, I am his mother, however his wife is his priority which yes is as it should be. I just feel glad she likes us 😊
I don't even feel my dil has replaced me, I am his mother, however his wife is his priority which yes is as it should be. I just feel glad she likes us 😊
I think my friend meant she was replaced as confidant, person to take out to dinner, etc.
I have no idea what kind of woman my son will choose -- he's pretty much all over the board with his dating. :-) All I want for him is someone who will love and adore him. I pray very much that we will be close, too -- but I know that sometimes it happens (luckily for me, my MIL and I are very close), and sometimes it doesn't. Fingers crossed. I've had a lifetime of a terrific example of being a stellar MIL, thanks to mine, I just hope I have a chance to put it into action with the woman that my son marries.
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