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That would apply to at least 50% of the threads on cd then... not all threads here on cd are directly involving the op of the thread--- many of them are about concerns or questions with what others do or certain events-- such as threads written about someone who disagrees with their friend letting their little children wear no clothes at home (doesn't hurt the poster or anyone else ), or why some people don't tip (not their concern or business yet it's still a thread with replies) or why some people post awkward pics on social media-- those are just a quick few I skimmed off for an example...
As for a question if I'm in that position of expecting multiples- no I'm not...don't worry I'm not expecting quads, if I had taken drugs knowing it could result in quads I would humbly and on occasion ask for *some* help and not expect it or make shift charts and have other people calling other people to feel pressured to help with what I signed up for. A humble non-pushy request on occasion is one thing- a concerted effort to call people to come in and help almost around the clock, not. Actually if I recall an episode on Jon and Kate from years ago if I remember correctly to their credit I thought she had commented that they didn't feel right about putting off their parenting on teams of people and they plowed through and for the most part did the job themselves. So I'm not criticizing parents who ask in a humble thankful manner for *some* help, what I find entitled is the attitude of expecting constant help. On one documentary the mother of quints is trying to fill time slots on her chart she made to have all hours covered and exclaims how she will have to keep calling her sister (who has her own kids) because that time slot wasn't signed up for yet.
During the babies infancy, Jon and Kate had people scheduled to come over and feed babies at scheduled times. They had a friend who folded their laundry. Don't be so quick to pat them on the back.
It seems like a valid musing to me. But probably explainable by:
What if you were a parent or, say, pastor ... who raised your children/ lectured your congregation ... according to your belief that abortion ... was wrong.
A sin. No matter what.
Then, your kid/parish member has problems with infertility & it is determined to do IVF.
They become that rare case & are expecting multiple multiples. The doctor has advised regarding terminating some or trying for all. They are torn ... they ask mom. They ask their pastor.
And you both say; “abortion is still wrong; we won’t let you come home alone with too much to handle. We ... will help you.” That would explain how grandparents & church members get on the clock, at least.
Maybe it’s looked at as more as a chance to prove you are not a hypocrite thing vs a entitlement thing.
There are a ton of twins being born. True, more than twins less common. I think people are terribly selfish that do not adopt. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. There are ways around that. People that tend to adopt had parents that were absent or not great and they know the importance of loving a child that doesn't have love; instead of just bringing in another one that looks like you. If they adopted they would know for certain one is coming home not two or three. And less help needed.
[quote=fly_me;49842550]There are a ton of twins being born. True, more than twins less common. I think people are terribly selfish that do not adopt. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. There are ways around that. People that tend to adopt had parents that were absent or not great and they know the importance of loving a child that doesn't have love; instead of just bringing in another one that looks like you. If they adopted they would know for certain one is coming home not two or three. And less help needed.[/QUO
What exactly are the ways around the exhorbitant costs? What are the ways around the often decades long wait for an infant? I worked with a woman years back who was on the list for 10 years before she got a baby. 10 years of having to gently pull her aside and watch her burst into tears when we had to tell her another co-worker was expecting....who are you to judge people who want a baby more than anything in the world for having one through whatever means will result in a baby?
I don't mind babysitting my nieces or nephews, babies etc if it's a one night the parents wanna have adult time. But to basically beconeca caretaker for someone's kids no it's not gonna happen.
There are a ton of twins being born. True, more than twins less common. I think people are terribly selfish that do not adopt. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. There are ways around that. People that tend to adopt had parents that were absent or not great and they know the importance of loving a child that doesn't have love; instead of just bringing in another one that looks like you. If they adopted they would know for certain one is coming home not two or three. And less help needed.
As an adoptive mom, I don't think you know a lot about adoption.
I guess if you think so..let's hurry and get those kids skedaddled off to adoption agency
I’m sorry I thought that was what you thought! Better than inconveniencing others or neglecting the children? Maybe we follow Swift’s A Modest Proposal and eat them?
There are a ton of twins being born. True, more than twins less common. I think people are terribly selfish that do not adopt. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. There are ways around that. People that tend to adopt had parents that were absent or not great and they know the importance of loving a child that doesn't have love; instead of just bringing in another one that looks like you. If they adopted they would know for certain one is coming home not two or three. And less help needed.[/QUO
What exactly are the ways around the exhorbitant costs? What are the ways around the often decades long wait for an infant? I worked with a woman years back who was on the list for 10 years before she got a baby. 10 years of having to gently pull her aside and watch her burst into tears when we had to tell her another co-worker was expecting....who are you to judge people who want a baby more than anything in the world for having one through whatever means will result in a baby?
What, no one advised your co-worker that SHE, was the selfish one for actually wanting another family to lose their infant so she could have it? She needs to be gently reminded that a child who is waiting for a home for any amount of time is ten times worse than her ten years of human shopping. I don't judge her despair but how she handled it, pathetic.
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