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My boyfriend's 7 year old son spanks other girl's butts. He knows he's not supposed to do this.. we've told him several times it's bad, yet he still does it.
OP, you haven't given us much information. Where does this occur? Is he doing this at school? If so, how does his teacher handle it? Does he also have ODD in school? Does he defy the teachers? If so, you have a serious problem. If he's able to control himself in school, it means he can control himself anywhere, anytime. It's just you and his dad he chooses to be ODD with. How long have you been with the dad? Is the ODD a new behavior, since your arrival in the boy's picture?
It should be clear to you by now that simply telling him that spanking girls is bad isn't enough. I don't even think denying computer privileges, or TV, or whatever his favorite activity is, will be enough. Have you ever seen the Supernanny shows? I'm thinking that a time out in a designated "naughty chair" in the corner could work. Kids seem to REALLY hate that! Some cry and scream. It seems to work; eventually they learn to avoid behaviors that get them in the chair. It's worth a shot. Repeat as needed, until the kid changes his behavior for the better.
My boyfriend's 7 year old son spanks other girl's butts. He knows he's not supposed to do this.. we've told him several times it's bad, yet he still does it. If anyone has suggestions on how we can explain why this is bad for him to do, it would greatly be appreciated.
A good butt spanking for him does help explaining. Gosh, people. Have some common sense.
It was a sport for us girls back in the day to kick boys in the nuts. We did not get counseling. We did not get pills. We did not get a diagnosis. We got told to not do it. We did it again. Got a spanking by our parents and never did it again.
Someone encouraged him the first time or two he did it - and I'm not talking about the girls.
Probably adults (maybe even his dad?) laughing and saying how cute and precocious he was. Of course he probably likes getting the girls all flustered too - so a lot of positive and negative attention will make this difficult to break. At the very least, no adult should even crack a smile when he does this (a total mixed message and the roots of the old "boys will be boys" message) and immediately put him in time outs to start and becoming more severe if it continues.
A good butt spanking for him does help explaining. Gosh, people. Have some common sense.
It was a sport for us girls back in the day to kick boys in the nuts. We did not get counseling. We did not get pills. We did not get a diagnosis. We got told to not do it. We did it again. Got a spanking by our parents and never did it again.
Exactly! I agree! The sad thing is that these days parents are told not to spank their little darlings and these days, even kids can get charged with sexual assault.
My nephew went through a really embarrassing phase albeit much younger, around age 4 when he would look at a woman present ( cashier at grocery store, friend, even me once) would smile and say "boobies!!" His parents would discourage it **but here and there would kind of chuckle, hat gave him more attention but after a while not sure how he stopped as much older than that and people would no longer think it was funny! Sometimes parents unknowingly give some sort of attention that can encourage repeats of unwanted behavior.. not saying at all is the case w you.. it's sometimes a subtle thing a parent isn't really aware they're doing to give attention to it..maybe make sure you have a poker face- no angry look or sigh, or raised eyebrows smirk/ smile etc, just a bored poker face, without further ado take his hand and in a monotone firm voice tell him "you spanked her, now you have to go home ( or sit on bench or not watch tv- etc, whatever will show him spanking means not only do I not get attention, I also can't do fun things.
Eat a well balanced organic whole foods diet and ensure he has plenty of regular exercise.
In a manner which appeals to him (cycling, playing soccer, etc)
Food is medicine. Funny how behaviors tone down when kids are not fed more drugs via their food
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