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Old 11-09-2017, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Left coast
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I tried researching this but could not find an answer-is this a thing now? that in addition to the baby gift there is an expectation of one for the sibling ( the baby is some years apart from the first, so the sibling will be in attendance), it was mentioned on the invite...
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I tried researching this but could not find an answer-is this a thing now? that in addition to the baby gift there is an expectation of one for the sibling ( the baby is some years apart from the first, so the sibling will be in attendance), it was mentioned on the invite...
OMG they put it on the invite???

I've seen people bring a little something for a sibling, but they did it to be sweet.

I also would not have my toddler in attendance, but that is just me.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Denver CO
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they demanded you give a sibling gift for a shower? That's disgusting. I'm not saying I haven't brought a little something for an older sibling when I've gone to visit when there's a new baby. But a baby shower is about the mom and the new baby. A toddler can be made a part of it by helping open gifts for "their" new baby or something like that but they are creating a monster if they are raising a child to assume that they get a gift any time someone else gets a gift.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:20 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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That's a new one. And another gift-grab.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:26 PM
 
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I'm not sure, it seems kind of rude and entitled. To be honest I'm of the camp who doesn't subscribe to the notion of throwing baby showers for every subsequent baby--- I know there's a lot of people now days who do, I'm more traditional and feel like for a couple having their first, a baby shower and then if there's subsequent pregnancies and the couple wants to have something I feel like it should be more of a informal type thing like maybe a BBQ with close family. But if there's a long time gap between the two it seems okay and appropriate to do so. I just feel like it's kind of grabby and gift getting entitled type feeling if a woman has a full on shower every two years, that sort of thing feels a little too attention and gift hungry.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Left coast
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Ok thanks all, there is an age gap (so the second shower does seem useful)
the gift request for the sib was phrased that that they should be sent to their home (not a the shower itself), huh I just reread this.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:36 PM
 
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Ok thanks all, there is an age gap (so the second shower does seem useful)
the gift request for the sib was phrased that that they should be sent to their home (not a the shower itself), huh I just reread this.
Wait... that Sib gift they want "Send" to the home... What a gift grab...
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:37 PM
 
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Total gift grab.
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Old 11-09-2017, 06:40 PM
 
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i believe that offering the sibling a gift ( to be nice ) is helpful to the child, do not ask guests to do it, the parents should do it first and foremost- since small ones can not understand certain things of what being social is, to be included in in the festivities is good for them
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Old 11-09-2017, 07:23 PM
 
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How exactly was it worded?
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