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I had a healthy baby via csection and did allow grandparents to come visit baby the first day. It was nice to see their joy at the new addition no complications. Baby and I are both healthy and good. Exhausted but good
The only downside is my MIL is still here and refuse to leave. And insists on being here for the remainder of our hospital stay. Which is basically 4 full days
Congrats!
Are you saying your MIL is trying to stay in your room, day and night?
If that is the case, have a private chat with your husband and tell him to set her straight. If he won't do it, tell the nurses. They WILL get her to leave.
This is an important issue because many people think it's their "right" to be in the patient's room (new mom's room) or even in the delivery room. There is no such right. Patients can insist that everyone stay out of the hospital room and delivery room.
I had a healthy baby via csection and did allow grandparents to come visit baby the first day. It was nice to see their joy at the new addition no complications. Baby and I are both healthy and good. Exhausted but good
The only downside is my MIL is still here and refuse to leave. And insists on being here for the remainder of our hospital stay. Which is basically 4 full days
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
Congrats!
Are you saying your MIL is trying to stay in your room, day and night?
If that is the case, have a private chat with your husband and tell him to set her straight. If he won't do it, tell the nurses. They WILL get her to leave.
Why is she still there? Her presence is no longer required at the hospital- it's not like they are going to let her have the baby when your child isn't with you. Tell her to go home and rest.
And please tell her that she can't just move in/drop in on you when you get home without calling first. You and your husband need alone time to bond with the child, set up schedules, etc. She has to contain her excitement and follow your lead.
I had a healthy baby via csection and did allow grandparents to come visit baby the first day. It was nice to see their joy at the new addition no complications. Baby and I are both healthy and good. Exhausted but good
The only downside is my MIL is still here and refuse to leave. And insists on being here for the remainder of our hospital stay. Which is basically 4 full days
Those are going to be 4 very long days. They’re long anyway but now verrrrry long.
Yippee! Sounds like love from the MIL side. Hope you recover well and have a happy ti
Thanks you so much for sharing things going on in your life.
Does Baby have a name to share yet?
Barf. Sounds crazy and intrusive to me. Son needs to grow a pair and think about his wife.
Congrats! Yeah, that would be too much visiting for me....but I suppose she traveled a long way. Personally, I always prefer to come as needed from a distance.....than you are so much more appreciated.
You would need the help at home more than while you are being taken care of in the hospital.
I had a healthy baby via csection and did allow grandparents to come visit baby the first day. It was nice to see their joy at the new addition no complications. Baby and I are both healthy and good. Exhausted but good
The only downside is my MIL is still here and refuse to leave. And insists on being here for the remainder of our hospital stay. Which is basically 4 full days
Congrats on the baby! I'm glad everything worked out.
It's okay for MIL to have that sentiment but she needs to back off when you tell her no. Ugh people like her can be exhausting. I can tell she means well but this isn't about her. Family needs to realize the new baby isn't theirs and mom and dad need the well-deserved time alone with the baby, to adjust and get used to one another. Newborns are cute and cuddly but not everyone has the right to be with them 24/7.
As others have said, you need to set clear boundaries ASAP or they'll be taking advantage of you for years to come. But considering she's your MIL and not your mother, I think your husband needs to have a talk with her, as someone else said. No reason for her to be there so much, whether it's literally 4 days straight, night and day, or just coming all day all 4 days. Unnecessary. You definitely need and probably want some time alone in your room, just you, baby, and your husband. MIL needs to back off.
Congratulations! I hope you are managing to rest some.
Regarding your MIL, this is the time when the boundaries are set with regards to how much of a say she gets in how you raise your kids. Your husband needs to nip this in the bud right now. Can she visit for half an hour each day? Sure. But she does not need to be there all day, every day. And yes, get the nurses to do the dirty work if needed, but your husband should be putting you first in this moment.
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no complications. Baby and I are both healthy and good. Exhausted but good 
