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Old 12-19-2017, 07:40 AM
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Your whole problem seems to be you fight over the driveway.

Couldn't you just park in a different spot?

Also, your post is confusing. You said she "stares down at me with her playground friends"

Is this a high school dropout couple or adults?


Really - you couldn't work out that means that when the OP is at the playground with her kids the neighbor in question, with her friends, stare down the OP? You don't even understand what the word "threat" means yet you are going to get picky on something which is obvious on its face.
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Old 12-19-2017, 07:53 AM
 
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Are you out of your mind? That's not a "serious" threat?


If they did it - its not a threat its an actuality. Do you even know what the word "threat" means? Threatening to beat someone with a shovel is one step below threatening to shoot someone with a gun. You seem hecka confused about the word threat.


OP - these people are absolutely low lives - they'll ruin the street for many. The chances you'd end up next to such antisocial losers again is low. Move.

It's just a phony threat that an older person uses when they don't get their way.

I'd equate it to a 6-year old claiming they are going to run away from home.

Yes, it's a threat, but it's not serious.
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Old 12-19-2017, 09:39 AM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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It's just a phony threat that an older person uses when they don't get their way.

I'd equate it to a 6-year old claiming they are going to run away from home.

Yes, it's a threat, but it's not serious.
The neighbor who threatened to attack the OP has already attacked her husband. He also blares rap music out the window and tried to break the OP's windows and glares at them and all kinds of other things. I would take the threat very seriously indeed, as it seems that these low-life scum neighbors are perfectly willing to back up their words with actions.
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Old 12-19-2017, 10:55 AM
 
Location: Central Texas
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It's just a phony threat that an older person uses when they don't get their way.

I'd equate it to a 6-year old claiming they are going to run away from home.

Yes, it's a threat, but it's not serious.
And you know this for a fact exactly how?
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Old 12-19-2017, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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Threatening to beat someone with a shovel is not a serious threat unless you actually do it.

It sounds like the neighbors are mediocre types with one bad incident.

You shouldn't judge people with one bad incident.

Who says this new family can even get a loan from a bank for a house?

If they move into a new apartment, they could move into an area with even worse neighbors.

Picking an apartment is not like picking a dress. You have to live with that decision for years.
Zesty seriously I cannot believe you say that is not a threat.
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Old 12-19-2017, 11:24 AM
 
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You said you have a first grader and a pre-kindergartner? It would not be hard on them at all to take them out of school after the Christmas holidays. I mean, come on, it's not like they are in middle school or high school. They will make new friends immediately, both of them.

You should keep your family together, for goodness sake. It is not safe where you are, and you will never forgive yourself if something happens to one of the children, or to your husband; and where would your family be if something happened to you? I would run, not walk, out of that situation. Why on earth would you let yourself in for some possible violence when you have somewhere to go? Most people would thank their lucky stars if they had somewhere to move to immediately.

Sorry to come on so strongly, but most people will sit and let a situation get out of hand before they feel they have to act, and then it's too late because someone got out of control. These people can't be trusted to behave.
I don't know. I'm a 40 year old adult and I had to move half way through kindergarten and it did effect me greatly and I had trouble making friends moving to a new town and new schools mid year. I was "the new kid" for that first year and nobody would talk to me. I definitely wouldn't keep my kids in a dangerous situation but I also wouldn't discount the effect of uprooting kids even at that age
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Old 12-19-2017, 12:08 PM
 
Location: The Heart of Dixie
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Threatening to beat someone with a shovel is not a serious threat unless you actually do it.

It sounds like the neighbors are mediocre types with one bad incident.

You shouldn't judge people with one bad incident.
All I can say to this mess is

Despite what "zesty" may think, people have snapped and killed over lesser things. Like others, I hope the OP has used this time to get out of there.
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Old 12-19-2017, 01:36 PM
 
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I know many of you give some great advice and really am just full of anxiety, which I already have an issue with to begin with. We've rented in a 2 family home with our ll's upstairs, for almost 5 years. We have a thuggish couple, and I mean mentality, who we have had on and off issues with for the the entire time we've been here. Current state of the relationship is if husband says hi, I'll give a hi back, wife doesn't make eye contact with me (but talks about me to her playground friends and then they will stare me down) and husband is on full speaking terms with them.

Well to make an extremely long story short and yes I have to leave out tons of back details on what they have done over the years, I was verbally threatened to "shut the blank up before I slap you across the "blank" face with a shovel along with my stupid husband) when I honked and asked the husband to move his car (which he blocks the driveway in on a consistent basis or hangs over where I can't get in.) I had my child with me too and have NEVER been threatend by anyone, let alone a male "good" neighbor (yes they called themselves that before lol). I was scared and I sure as hell told my DH. Well he confronted the guy , I'm sure many of you think he shouldn't have, which ended in a psychical altercation. The wife bum rushed her husband, ran up my steps and proceeded to pound on our glass window, brake 3 brackets, and turn my door knob trying to bust in. At his point, my ll was outside, neighbors and then the cops. I was told by wife to "watch my back" which everyone heard. The husband DENIED ever saying anything to me Shocker right..

My husband and I already have a downpayment for house, made 2 offers this summer that were rejected and decided to start the school year (1st grader and pre-ker) here and pick up in the spring. I no longer feel safe here, yes, I am afraid of retaliation (DH's car was keyed both sides front to back 1 summer ago when he was parked down the block and we still don't know who did it). My DH is the most passive (probably too passive with this situation from the beginning), and non-confrontational person there is. The above incident was his breaking point unfortunately. I just went back to work this year and do per diem work, so am home a lot during the day when the wife is home. We also share a driveway. MY ll and DH think this guy may have a record or some legal issue going on already based on comments he made with the police. DH and I both come, and have lived, in nice residential areas our entire life, NEVER had issues with neighbors, until we came upon this nightmare. Just 2 weeks ago, my 85 year old grandpa almost got knocked over getting out of his car to come in my house by said neighbors greyhound that they allow to run off leash all over the neighborhood and pee and poop on our side. You can bet my grandpa told this guy to leash up his dog.

Would you even consider riding it out here with kids until the Spring and moving once my kids are done with school? We plan on moving over state lines BTW bc we are priced out of the housing market here. I have no family here for us to stay with. I even considered contacting my estranged mother, well for a split second. Only other option would be to take both kids out of school now and move to my inlaws an hour away. DH thinks we should start house hunting again, but I know that could take quite some time and 60 days or more for closing. These peoples kid also goes to my kids school.

Any advice? Does it sound unsafe for my kids?

Consult an attorney. See what action you can take to force the landlord's hand.
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Old 12-19-2017, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Move.
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Old 12-19-2017, 02:10 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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I don't know. I'm a 40 year old adult and I had to move half way through kindergarten and it did effect me greatly and I had trouble making friends moving to a new town and new schools mid year. I was "the new kid" for that first year and nobody would talk to me. I definitely wouldn't keep my kids in a dangerous situation but I also wouldn't discount the effect of uprooting kids even at that age
Nonetheless, when a move is called for, a move is what should happen.

We moved several times. Second grade. Eighth grade, which was very difficult but I adjusted eventually.

Life is about adjusting to conditions.

Not doing that, or keeping kids, and yourselves for that matter, in a situation where a couple of head cases are one six-pack away from doing something that we read about in the newspaper, vs. moving your kids to a new school...the choice is clear.
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