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Old 12-22-2017, 05:51 PM
 
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I didn't say pre-calc...I said calc. Keep up.

10th graders aren't taking calculus. If we pretend they were, what math are they doing in 11th grade and 12th grade?
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Old 12-22-2017, 05:54 PM
 
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So tell me why after being married 20 years, you can't hang out with another guy without your husband present?

That doesn't sound healthy at all if it's not culture related.
I didn't. I said I don't usually because it doesn't feel appropriate. I do hang out with a male friend...on occasion but spending a lot of time with another male would be akin to an emotional affair and could cause jealousy. I don't want my husband to feel that (although he is hardly, if ever, jealous). I wouldn't be ok with him spending a bunch of his free time with a female friend. I am not sure how that works for some marriages, but I doubt many function well that way.

I also hang out with male friends in groups often and it is not a big deal. Its the one on one time that could get problematic.

Anyways, as a married mother, those are the people I tend to bond more and have more in common with.

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Old 12-22-2017, 05:55 PM
 
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10th graders aren't taking calculus. If we pretend they were, what math are they doing in 11th grade and 12th grade?
Good god just google it
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Old 12-22-2017, 06:05 PM
 
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I "get" her having a lot of guy friends and think it's fine. I had a lot of female friends at that age. If you're smart, you look for other smart people to have as friends irrespective of their sex, age, color, background, etc.

However, this thread seems to have drifted. A two-person, coed "sleepover" at 15 just might have been more than I could handle. We're human and we tend to want to make more humans.
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Old 12-22-2017, 08:35 PM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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I think no in it of itself. Maybe depending what guys she hangs out with. But in general, no issue.
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Old 12-22-2017, 09:10 PM
 
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10th graders aren't taking calculus. If we pretend they were, what math are they doing in 11th grade and 12th grade?
I took Calculus in 11th grade at 16. I didn't take math in 12th grade, as I had received credit for advanced math classes as took in middle school. I believe statistics was one of the math classes I could have taken my senior year if I really wanted to take a math class. I chose to take classes at the local community college instead.
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Old 12-22-2017, 10:32 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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10th graders aren't taking calculus. If we pretend they were, what math are they doing in 11th grade and 12th grade?
You are incorrect - Apparently your particular high school does not offer this but you can google the math curriculum flowchart for most any GT school system in the U.S. 11th grade is Linear Algebra/Analytic Geometry or AP Statistics. 12th grade is Math Topics/Differential equations or AP Statistics.

Do I really need to post math curriculums for you here? Google it.
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Old 12-22-2017, 11:27 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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To summarize, are you saying that males and females should be quarantined into separate cultures, except for married couples?

It sounds like you would ban ANY platonic relationship between a boy and girl.
Judaism does it already; I know from experience. It's called it "prohibition of yachud"---"yachud" means "seclusion" in Hebrew. According to Jewish law, unrelated non-married men and women cannot be together in an enclosed room, nor are they allowed to touch, not even shake hands. Which creates all sorts of problems, like not being able to privately interview a candidate or hug a childhood friend. That just smacks of an "opposite sex has cooties!" mindset. It's one of the reasons why I became an atheist.

I get the "emotional affair" risks and what-have-you, and the dangers of coed sleepovers for teens. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with genuine platonic friendships between guys and girls. I said before that one of my good friends is a woman. Our personalities mesh very well; the only difference from guy friends, is when we went swimming together, we used different locker rooms. That, and we hug as a greeting, instead of shaking hands.

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Old 12-23-2017, 07:54 AM
 
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I have a 15 year old and she does well in school and is very smart/intelligent and is overall happy, but one thing that bothers me is her lack of girlfriends. She does have one that she spends time with, but she also has more guy friends that she does stuff with as well. When I have talked with her she just says she likes hanging out with guys more. Would that concern you? I have met the boys and they do seem nice.
Yes it would.
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Old 12-23-2017, 10:19 AM
 
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Pre Calc isn't real calc FYI

Very few kids take IB Calc in 10th grade or earlier.
Wrong actually. While not many do, the kids who are in gifted classes in 6th or 7th grade can and do. It's AP calc, btw, not IB calc though I suppose IB also has such a class.
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