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Old 12-27-2017, 07:53 AM
Location: NC
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Originally Posted by emm74 View Post
I don't generally deliver it, but yeah, we've gotten into a habit of my mom coming over for dinner every week or so, and then she leaves with leftovers for another meal. We don't go out to eat together anywhere near as often as I've been cooking lately!
He lives two doors away, so delivering isn't a problem. We make sure he's got enough for a couple of days worth of meals (we always cook too much food, part of coming from a large family!). We almost never go out to eat and if we do, it's for lunch.
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Old 12-27-2017, 08:12 AM
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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Usually I pay, mainly because I have more disposable income. lol

My sons are just starting out after finishing college and starting their first very low paying jobs. **smile***

Hopefully when they have kids, they'll treat them.

They always pick up the tab on my birthday and Mothers day.
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Old 12-27-2017, 08:59 AM
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Location: Brew City
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Originally Posted by saibot View Post
We eat out frequently with my in-laws, and who pays generally depends on who invited whom. Often we'll pick up the tab; other times they say "this is on us." It all evens out in the end and no one is keeping score.
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Old 12-27-2017, 09:51 AM
Location: here
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I don't see what's "shocking" about it. A meal is a small expense in the grand scheme. We tend to trade off, but our parents always offer to pay. Both my parents and my husband's parents bring in more money than we do, and have fewer expenses.
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Old 12-27-2017, 09:55 AM
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My parents always insisted on paying for us when we went out to dinner, even when they were retired and we were working. For them I think it was a matter of nurturing and pride. I imagine we'll do the same for our daughter.
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Old 12-27-2017, 10:00 AM
Location: Canada
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We pay when we invite our adult kids/spouse/child out for supper. We love enjoying a social outing with our kids and we are very close to them. Footing the bill works for us but if we weren't in decent financial shape, we either wouldn't take them out often or we'd split the bill or take turns.

If we have them to our house for supper, my DIL will offer to bring a dish of something or ask what I'd like her to bring.
Vice-versa the other way.
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Old 12-27-2017, 11:15 AM
Location: Somewhere in America
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Originally Posted by cyberous View Post
A very successful friend of mine is married with child (40's). Her father lives a more modest life but always pays for the family’s meals. I have other friends who are in their mid-30s who also let the parents pay for meals (his and her parents.)

I’m shocked at this behavior. My father is retired in his 70’s and has done ok, above average but not early retirement or anything. He comes to visit twice a year for a week at a time. When he does he pays for nothing (including meals.) I cant remember how long I've footed the bill for my parents but its been a long time, probably since my mid 20's

I moved out of my parents’ house at 18 and never looked back. My friends mentioned above were both sent away to college (Parents paid for everything.) Is that the difference?

How does it work with your family?
Been paying for my own meals since I was 16. I got my first job at 16 so that's when I started paying for myself. Once in a blue moon, my parents will pay for dinner. It's usually because they're staying at our house and it's their way of paying us back/thanking us. But as an adult in my 40's, I would never want my parents to pay for me. I'm an adult for crying out loud.
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Old 12-27-2017, 11:21 AM
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If I am the Hostess (person who offered to invite others out), I pay. If I am the guest, They often pay.

I do often consider those with hardships and will do my utmost to regard their challenged budget. In which case I offer to assist on the receipt. Most times ppl are gracious.
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Old 12-27-2017, 01:57 PM
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Sometimes my mom, who is 89, insists on paying. Sometimes I insist on paying. It makes her feel good to treat me to lunch, so I let her, but other times I want to treat her.

My daughter, on the other hand, always lets me treat her, lol. She is a student, though, and her income is low, so I don't mind.
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Old 12-27-2017, 03:47 PM
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We've always paid for our children and grandchildren AND my 94 year old Mother In Law (Thank God we can)
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