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Old 12-28-2017, 02:46 PM
 
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parents pay, unless adult kid "hijacks" the check before they can get it. I hope I'm never at the point where I cannot pick up the check when with my kids.
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Old 12-28-2017, 04:35 PM
 
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I've paid for my kids for 32 years. It would be lovely if they offered to pick up the check occasionally. Except for the youngest, a grad student, they can well afford it.
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Old 12-28-2017, 05:05 PM
 
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I'm in my 40s. My parents live in another state. They always pay when we're visiting and go out to eat. When they visit us, we don't dine out, but do occasionally get take-out for all of us, and I pay for that.

My sisters and I did pay for our mom last spring when we all went out for lunch.
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Old 12-28-2017, 05:42 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I've paid for my kids for 32 years. It would be lovely if they offered to pick up the check occasionally. Except for the youngest, a grad student, they can well afford it.
Have you actually told them "Next time we go out to dinner it will be your turn to pick up the check" or broadly hint "Hubby and I have picked up the check the last thirty times we went out to dinner together, so ..."?

If you don't say something now you may end up being a elderly woman trying to live on a limited income and your wealthy adult children are expecting you to pick up the tab for them, their spouses and their four children (and maybe a few of their grandkids, too) every time you go out to dinner together.
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Old 12-30-2017, 08:31 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Every now and then our kids will ask to pick up the check. We always accept.
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Old 12-30-2017, 10:37 PM
 
Location: 60630
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Mine and his parents always paid until we started to make more then they did, then it stopped. Since they retired we always pay. I think it would be plain rude otherwise,
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Old 01-01-2018, 11:21 AM
 
Location: The analog world
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Depends on the occasion and the people involved. We pay for my parents, we usually split the check with my in-laws, and my grandfather always picks up the tab for everyone in attendance, which has been the norm forever. I would never dream of insulting him by refusing his generosity..
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Old 01-01-2018, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Manchester, MO—>East Cobb, GA 30062
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When my husband and I were dating and engaged, my dad kind of expected him to pay. Now my parents and in-laws usually pay, but occasionally we’ll pay still. It’s adtually kinda strange because we'll pay only one out of five times or so. Like a previous PP, we don’t go to expensive and will only go to places like Olive Garden and Red Robin where it’s $10-15 per person.

Different strokes for different folks.
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Old 01-01-2018, 05:02 PM
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Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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No hard and fast rules for our group. It depends on the who and where and most importantly the why (celebration for someone? ) BUT if my son is out with a new girlfriend and he wants to impress I always let him pick up the tab under those circumstances. Hey big spender, lol!
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Old 01-01-2018, 05:33 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Our kids all make more money than we do, now that we’re retired, and they’re all pretty good at picking up the check. Sometimes if it’s our idea, we pay, and if it’s an expensive restaurant we go Dutch.

We have a relative who is very comfortable financially, and I think he always pays.
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