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Old 01-02-2018, 07:02 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I would think you don't have to worry so much about hs romances and couples they usually don't last long as a senior in a year will be going off to college and meeting different people and most likely will not be interested in the one he or she left behind . And the one left behind will most likely be interested in someone else soonafter . That is the natural order of things .
Very few people meet the one they are going to marry in High school .
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Old 01-02-2018, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Winterpeg
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Let me introduce myself then. Hi, I'm RP, married 30 years to a man I met in college who is one year my senior.
My husband is 18 months younger than I am. I hardly think being close in age is odd. Nor is it odd to be a few years apart, to a certain point.

I can't imagine not knowing people of all kinds of ages being in long term marriages.

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I would think you don't have to worry so much about hs romances and couples they usually don't last long as a senior in a year will be going off to college and meeting different people and most likely will not be interested in the one he or she left behind . And the one left behind will most likely be interested in someone else soonafter . That is the natural order of things .
Very few people meet the one they are going to marry in High school .
Yes, this.

I don't think 15-17 years is too much anyway. Where I live, the legal age is 18, so once one of them hits that age, things change relationships-wise anyway, never mind the going off to university.
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Old 01-02-2018, 07:35 AM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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It's only a 2 year age difference? I don't see why this would be a problem????
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Old 01-02-2018, 07:40 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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It's only a 2 year age difference? I don't see why this would be a problem????
Apparently it makes some raise their eyebrows.

Whoever said that adults are who have turned something that's been pretty much a very typical age difference since time immemorial into being "wrong" is correct.
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Old 01-02-2018, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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The only concern that I might have would be for my son/daughter being a senior is if the relationship is sexual and one becomes an adult with the other not having reached the age of sexual consent and someone presses charges. Some seniors will be 18 (sometimes even older these days) with a 15 year old partner. A senior should be looking to moving on from high school anyway.
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Old 01-02-2018, 08:19 AM
 
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The only concern that I might have would be for my son/daughter being a senior is if the relationship is sexual and one becomes an adult with the other not having reached the age of sexual consent and someone presses charges. Some seniors will be 18 (sometimes even older these days) with a 15 year old partner. A senior should be looking to moving on from high school anyway.
Quite a blanket statement.
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Old 01-02-2018, 09:07 AM
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Location: Foot of the Rockies
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30+ years ago it wasn't "wrong"... if it is today, it's because adults have simply decided it is.

Meanwhile, I know of nearly NO long term married couples who have less than 2 years age difference.
My brother-in-law just had a baby with someone 9 years his junior, and my own grandparents had 7 years age difference.

I wouldn't think twice about and dating within the high school levels. As for them not lasting, true in most cases... our best friends are HS sweethearts and have over 40 years married now. You never know.
My husband is a little more than a year older than me. We have been married 37 years. We are friends with two couples who were HS sweethearts. One couple is the same age, the other two years apart.

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I know a lot of people close in age to the person they married (and stayed with). I also know lots of people with age differences, even large age differences that have long and happy marriages.
Exactly!

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The only concern that I might have would be for my son/daughter being a senior is if the relationship is sexual and one becomes an adult with the other not having reached the age of sexual consent and someone presses charges. Some seniors will be 18 (sometimes even older these days) with a 15 year old partner. A senior should be looking to moving on from high school anyway.
Most states have laws that make exceptions if there is only a few years difference in ages.

I think it depends on the kids. Some are quite mature at 15, some immature at 17, and vice versa. 17 year olds are usually driving, at least in my state, which does add another dimension.
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Old 01-02-2018, 09:24 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I was wondering, is senior with sophomore inappropiate/wrong? I know senior/freshman is, but how is senior sophomore generally viewed?
It depends entirely on the individuals involved.
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Old 01-02-2018, 09:26 AM
 
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Not sure what the problem would be. My parents met at high school when Dad was 17 and a senior, and Mom was 15 and a sophomore. They married five years later and would have celebrated their 54th anniversary shortly after Mom died.

When PIN numbers for ATMs and such came in, Mom chose "1517" for her PIN, as it was so easy for her to remember--it was the ages at which she and Dad had met.

As for age differences, there are all kinds and they can all work. I'm two years younger than my husband, so I guess we are about "average," but I know two couples who were high school sweethearts (they were in the same grade, so about the same age as each other) and they've been married even longer than I have.
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Old 01-02-2018, 09:27 AM
 
Location: East of the Mississippi and South of Bluegrass
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I was wondering, is senior with sophomore inappropriate/wrong? I know senior/freshman is, but how is senior sophomore generally viewed?
Well, you didn't really specify the ages of this hypothetical senior and sophomore, so it begs the question of how many years difference there is. I've known 19 year old seniors as well as 14 year old sophmores. I would have a problem if their ages were more than 2 years apart, we're not speaking about two grown adults. My daughter is 10 years younger than her husband (great guy) BUT they obviously didn't meet in high school.

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When I was in HS, no dating in HS (even 9th and 12th) was considered "wrong". It was pretty normal, overall. But of course, it was almost always the male that was older then the female.

As a mom...I always worry a little bit about age difference in HS. But I wouldn't really worry about a 2 year gap unless there was something alarming about the person my kid was dating. I would get brushed up on the legal age of consent and romeo and Juliette laws in my state and let my kid know.
Yes, this!

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My husband is 18 months younger than I am. I hardly think being close in age is odd. Nor is it odd to be a few years apart, to a certain point.

I can't imagine not knowing people of all kinds of ages being in long term marriages.

Yes, this.

I don't think 15-17 years is too much anyway. Where I live, the legal age is 18, so once one of them hits that age, things change relationships-wise anyway, never mind the going off to university.
Yes, once one becomes legal age while the other is not changes the dynamics. We live in a different time now and what used to be acceptable is no longer the case.
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