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Old 01-02-2018, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Raleigh
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I knew a lot of sophomore girls that dated Senior guys. Some of it was a status thing, some of it a driver's license thing, some of it no doubt that girls are a bit ahead maturity wise than guys (on a broad scale,) and some of it had to do (in my high school) that as a sophomore you could only go to Prom as a sophomore if you had a Jr or Sr date.
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Old 01-02-2018, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Billings, MT
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Let me introduce myself then. Hi, I'm RP, married 30 years to a man I met in college who is one year my senior.
Just to cover the opposing view, allow me to introduce myself. Hi, I'm RR, married over 30 years to a very nice lady who is 15 years younger than me.
My parents (both deceased) had an age difference of 10 years.
"May/December" marriages are nowhere near as uncommon as some would like to think.
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Old 01-02-2018, 11:21 AM
 
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I see no issue with it and I dated a senior my sophomore year in high school. Granted it lasted for less than a year but we’re still friends today. I also wouldn’t have any issues with a 9th and 12th trader dating.
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Old 01-02-2018, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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The only concern that I might have would be for my son/daughter being a senior is if the relationship is sexual and one becomes an adult with the other not having reached the age of sexual consent and someone presses charges. Some seniors will be 18 (sometimes even older these days) with a 15 year old partner. (snip)
A lot of people mentioned "a two year age difference" but I would be a little concerned if it was a particularly young and immature sophomore and an older, much more mature senior. I could easily see the younger partner being taken advantage of in that situation.

But, it really is more about the individuals and not their ages. As a junior in HS, I briefly dated a senior. While he was less than a year older than me he was clearly, clearly FAR, FAR more sexually experienced and had FAR, FAR more sexual expectations than any of the other HS boys, or HS graduates that I had dated previously.

And, it isn't always the boy who is the sexual predator. In another situation that I am familiar with, it was the sexually experienced sophomore girl who pressured her boyfriend, a junior, who apparently was a virgin, into having unprotected sex. The only reason that people found out was because it resulted in an unplanned pregnancy and forced wedding.
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Old 01-02-2018, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Northern panhandle WV
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I was a freshman and my husband was a senior. I was 16 when we married and he was 18. We will have been married 50 years in September 2018.
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Old 01-02-2018, 01:25 PM
 
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I dated a senior when I was a sophomore, the relationship actually lasted around 4 years. He's a lovely person and we remained friends for many years afterward. I never felt extra pressure or anything because he was older.

All kinds of age differences can work well, my husband and I are 14 days apart, my parents (married 50 years) are 3mths apart. Our good friends are 15yrs apart. It can all work.
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Old 01-02-2018, 02:19 PM
 
Location: The analog world
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Just to cover the opposing view, allow me to introduce myself. Hi, I'm RR, married over 30 years to a very nice lady who is 15 years younger than me.
My parents (both deceased) had an age difference of 10 years.
"May/December" marriages are nowhere near as uncommon as some would like to think.
Nice to meet you! I know many May-December romances, too. I just wanted to pipe up and be counted. Close in age couples exist, too.
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Old 01-02-2018, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Texas
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In hs, I knew an 18 year old senior girl dating a 15 year old sophomore boy. The parents ended it because they felt it wasn't appropriate.


I guess it depends on the ages.
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Old 01-02-2018, 10:36 PM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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I know of nearly NO long term married couples who have less than 2 years age difference. My brother-in-law just had a baby with someone 9 years his junior, and my own grandparents had 7 years age difference.
When I was in high school my boyfriends were usually the same age or a year older, but I dated boys 2 years older when they asked me to their junior or senior proms.

Most of the couples I have known over the years since high school are either the same age or the woman is 3 to 13 years older than the man, but we are adults, often in long-term second marriages, not teenagers.
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Old 01-02-2018, 10:36 PM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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It wasn’t wrong per my judgement, last year, when both my twin girls dated Seniors during their Sophmore year.

The only bad part was that one of them lasted until the summer & they broke up before the kid went to college but I hadn’t thought it would last that long, initially.

But really; there are other much more important things to worry about. The seniors my girls dated were top in their class; clean as a whistle, involved in their communities & the arts ...

In contrast, prior to the Seniors, one of my daughters broke up with a fellow Sophmore because he was “pressuring” her (sexually). Her response? “Eww. Gross; how stupid does he think I am?”

The other one, also prior to the senior, broke up with a Junior because she found out he was smoking pot. She said “I’m trying to go into Aerospace engineering; I don’t need to hang out with losers.”

So, I trust their judgement based on their behaviors. Different kids, different circumstances ... & i may have felt ... differently.
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