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Old 01-12-2018, 08:45 PM
 
Location: St. Louis, MO
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There were certain elements of my childhood that were exceptional-

I got to travel a lot (internationally), I was involved in lots of wonderful extra curricular activities, I got to regularly go to the theater to see operas, musicals, ballets, plays, etc. My mother absolutely wanted the best for me...

However, I had a horrible time at school. I was a bit of a square peg and no matter how hard the teachers tried to make me fit the mold, I didn't. I was bullied relentlessly in high school and ended up rebelling against everything.

I want my children to have great opportunities in terms of extra curricular activities as I did, as well as exposure to the arts. I know that with how we stand financially, with 3 children the amount of global travel I got to experience as a child wouldn't be feasible, but hopefully we will be able to do some great trips domestically.

I really don't want them to experience bullying like I did though... I think it definitely factors somewhat into my decision to homeschool.

I don't want to shelter my children- but I don't want them going through what I did, either.
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Old 01-12-2018, 09:00 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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i would say yes and no , there is a certain aspects of my childhood like not doing that well at school as i would have liked that i wouldnt want my children to repeat but also i had at park outside my home growing up so my children could play for hours on end within walking distance.
Years of emotional, mental and physical abuse by an alcoholic father and a self-centered, enabling mother, followed by virtually being abandoned to find our own fates at age 18.

Having to sink or swim made me and my siblings strong and self-sufficient, but it's still not a childhood I'd wish on anyone, in particular people I love.
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Old Yesterday, 04:27 AM
 
Location: Forest bathing
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Hell, no! I was abused by a stepfather: emotionally, physically and verbally. I lived in an idyllic neighborhood, middle class, kids my age but home life was traumatic.
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Old Yesterday, 06:17 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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While there are aspects of my childhood that I liked or even loved, it was far from ideal. I prefer to give my children a better experience.

There are family challenges but I believe the three sons of mine have it better.
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Old Yesterday, 06:26 AM
 
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Absolutely, they would be very lucky.
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Old Yesterday, 07:03 AM
 
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I consciously tried to recreate a childhood similar to my own for my kids. We bought in a neighborhood with lots of children outside playing, and allowed them to roam all over town. We encouraged part-time jobs. Although we did vacation as kids,
our own went further and far more often.

The only major difference was the amount of religion in their lives. Our sons were taught the very basics and encouraged to make up their own minds as to whether or not they wanted to pursue it further.
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Old Yesterday, 07:13 AM
 
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i would say yes and no , there is a certain aspects of my childhood like not doing that well at school as i would have liked that i wouldnt want my children to repeat but also i had at park outside my home growing up so my children could play for hours on end within walking distance.
Overall I had a good/very good childhood so I would say yes. Of course times were different - no iPads, cell phones, etc. - but they wouldn't miss what didn't exist!
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Old Yesterday, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Where the sun likes to shine!!
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I might be satisfied but I don't think they would be.

To clarify I think I had a very good childhood. There were ups and downs and things that some kids today would not be happy about but I had a lot of good times, laughter, love and learning lessons. I had more responsibilities than the kids do today and of course I didn't have the electronics of today so I don't think "they" would like it.
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Old Yesterday, 09:30 AM
 
Location: The Northeast - hoping one day the Northwest!
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No kids yet, but I don't want to raise my kids the way I was.

My childhood wasn't really bad, but wasn't great. There are a to of things I would do differently, expose my kids to more things, etc. I grew up very sheltered.

The only thing I would want though that is the same is to stay home w/ the kids like my mom did.
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Old Yesterday, 09:52 AM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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My husband and I made a conscious decision that our kids would not have the childhood either of us had. We didn't want to pass on the abuse to the next generation, as our parents had done to us.
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