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When I was growing up, my parents made me do things that I didn't want to do. They made me go to school, do my homework, do the dishes, go to my aunt's house on Christmas, go to church on Sunday, and spend time with my family. My parents were authoritarian. They were my parents, not my friends. I also didn't get to choose my own dinner. I had to eat whatever my parents cooked.
Do you make your kids do things they don't want to do and/or go places they don't want to go?
My kids don't fuss about school or church or going to see family. They do fuss about homework and chores. I do make them do those things. As far as food...I am not a restaurant nor do I put out a menu. They will eat what is put in front of them whether they like it or not. Oldest son, 11, doesn't care for this but he has learned that he can either eat or miss the meal. Its his choice.
I hate cooking anyway, so when I do put in the effort, I expect my kids to eat it! They know the rule...if they don't eat it for dinner, it becomes their snack before bedtime. That gets them to eat it for dinner!
Good thread to start. First off, neither of my kids have any problem in doing things I tell them to do EXCEPT () eating! They are horrible when it comes to eating and I think since they obey at everything else, someone up there thought it would be funny to even that out with their refusal to eat.
My daughter's 4 and my son's 7. And they both take at least an hour (usually more) to finish a tiny plate of food at dinner. Whether it's what I want them to eat, or I made them what THEY wanted to eat, they still never finish their food.
So what did I start doing? I started putting half the food on their plate. Soooo... what do you think they started doing? Eating half of that! lol. (Not funny though when it's happening)
They have no problem with anything else though (except homework with my son, he has ADHD that's a whole different topic lol). They do their chores, clean up, etc... just can't get the boogers to eat.
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Good thread to start. First off, neither of my kids have any problem in doing things I tell them to do EXCEPT () eating! They are horrible when it comes to eating and I think since they obey at everything else, someone up there thought it would be funny to even that out with their refusal to eat.
My daughter's 4 and my son's 7. And they both take at least an hour (usually more) to finish a tiny plate of food at dinner. Whether it's what I want them to eat, or I made them what THEY wanted to eat, they still never finish their food.
So what did I start doing? I started putting half the food on their plate. Soooo... what do you think they started doing? Eating half of that! lol. (Not funny though when it's happening)
They have no problem with anything else though (except homework with my son, he has ADHD that's a whole different topic lol). They do their chores, clean up, etc... just can't get the boogers to eat.
I have never forced any of my kids to eat anything they did not want to eat on their plate BUT it was known that if they did not clean the plate, dessert and snacks were off limits for that night. I really did not have a problem. All mine actually liked Brussel Sprout and Spinach.
Do you make your kids do things they don't want to do and/or go places they don't want to go?
First, my mom didn't really make me do a whole lot. I had to go to school, but if I really didn't want to, or it was rainingl, or she wanted to take us places, well that was more important than school. Chores were looked at the same way. Once in a while she'd asked me or my sibilings to do something, and if we baulked at it we'd get into trouble. For me, eating wasn't an issue cuz I had such severe allergies that I couldn't eat most things till I was a pretty big kid. So that kinda thing didn't happen with me. We didn't go to church, and we never went to see family that we didn't all love. There were plenty of things I was told to do, an I got into trouble for whinging about it or not doing it.
Now, for my kids, it's a little different. They are homeschooled, so they don't have to go to school, but they do have to do certain school-work. Sometimes they give me grief, sometimes they don't. chores is usually not something they want to do, but once they get started they do it with little argument. We still don't go to see family that we all don't like, so that's not an issue, and we still don't go to church.
This brings me to food! LOL! When they babies, both of my boys would eat just about anything they could get their hands on. My youngest, was always eating, both hands full and eating stuff off the table in front of him. I have a picture of him at 1 1/2, sitting on a table, both hands full of food, cheeks popping of food, and his auntie and grandma with forks ready for him to eat.
Then he turned 4, and wouldn't eat anything! for a while I cooked different things for the adults, and each of my boys got what they wanted. Then they started eating more than me, so they had to choke down the food I made them LOL! After a year or so of makig them at least TRY other food, they started liking it. Now, both boys, 14 & 12, will eat just about anything that I make for them. So it has worked out nicely.
My daughter's 4 and my son's 7. And they both take at least an hour (usually more) to finish a tiny plate of food at dinner. They do their chores, clean up, etc... just can't get the boogers to eat.
Just keep trying to get them to eat things. Make them try one bit of something they don't like before they can eat something they do. It really does work. AFTER all the problems I had to deal with my boys on eating, and figuring out that I was just going to make them try stuff until they liked it, I saw a show on Discovery Health. "The Truth About Food" and they did a huge study on kids in England regarding just that. And they were able to prove that if you keep making a kid try something every day, then they will eventually like it or eventually eat it anyway! LOL! Very interesting show though.
School was mandatory, church was mandatory. Ditto homework and chores. Don't do them, get punished. Have a fit, get a whuppin.
LOL!! It's the same at my house! You will do what you are told to do. You go to school, do your homework, do your chores (in that order) and THEN you can play.
On Sunday you go to Sunday School. I don't care if you don't want to, it's one hour a week and it's the right thing to do. You can decide for yourself if you want to continue going after you move out of my house. Usually they enjoy church.
My husband is a real stickler for finishing your meal. Don't finish dinner, go to your room for the rest of the night, and no snacks! Your choice. Everyone eats whatever I make, and no, you aren't putting ketchup on that nice steak/roast!! LOL!!!
Just keep trying to get them to eat things. Make them try one bit of something they don't like before they can eat something they do. It really does work. AFTER all the problems I had to deal with my boys on eating, and figuring out that I was just going to make them try stuff until they liked it, I saw a show on Discovery Health. "The Truth About Food" and they did a huge study on kids in England regarding just that. And they were able to prove that if you keep making a kid try something every day, then they will eventually like it or eventually eat it anyway! LOL! Very interesting show though.
I think I saw that. It was interesting. I'm pretty lucky, my kids are not that picky. They eat green veggies, they even like asparagus! I have stopped allowing them to put ketchup on everything, though, and that was tough for about a month. Now they don't even ask or want it! They've realised the meat does taste pretty good without it. But they are now 9, 10, & 11. They're too old for that now. My hubby told them that ketchup is for hot dogs and burgers, maybe chicken tenders. NOT a nice piece of meat like steaks!
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First off, neither of my kids have any problem in doing things I tell them to do EXCEPT (
