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Old 01-22-2018, 02:56 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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There could be something to this. One of them is on Facebook mommy groups all day and she seems to spend a good amount of time trying to prove how she is the best mom and the others are terrible
Guess who's gonna raise the next generation of "mean girls"?

All this talk about stopping bullying will be worthless as long as there are moms who behave this way.
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Old 01-22-2018, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I’ve been in several playgroups since I’ve been a SAHM and I can’t relate to this at all. I’ve heard wives, in general, complain about their husbands but it’s usally when we all go out and share war stories. But it was always in fun and it has never been rampant.

Friends like to share their daily experiences. So if a group of moms get together and share their stories, then is it really complaining? My friends who work tell me about their work drama but it’s not necessarily to complain but rather to share what they are going through. Also, it’s not the only thing topic covered but one of many.

I don’t know. I guess I could just talk people’s ear off about how great my life is, but then there would be a “why do SAHMS brag so much about their life”.
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Old 01-22-2018, 03:00 PM
 
Location: New Yawk
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Fun times? Mom's groups? A whole day of baby & me; lalalala?

I woke up on a different planet. Late.
I was beginning to think it was just me. Once the third one came along, I pretty much spent every day shoveling <bleep> against the tide.

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Old 01-22-2018, 03:11 PM
 
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SAHM's often get stuck with a lot of boring, repetitive drudge work which is unfulfilling. While spending more time with the children can be fun and fulfilling, it can also be exhausting and demanding. Children in the home 24 hrs/day make a lot of messes and require a lot of constant attention! There may be a tendency for these marriages to be more traditional, where the husband never relieves her by taking on some of the childcare in the evening or on weekends. There may not be money for or a belief in using babysitters so she can get away at times.

The happiest SAHMs I've known were rather affluent. They had housekeepers, babysitters as desired, tutors and music teachers for the children, gardeners, etc. In other words they didn't actually stay at home all the time, but rather simply didn't work. They spent a lot of time shopping!
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Old 01-22-2018, 03:22 PM
 
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SAHM's often get stuck with a lot of boring, repetitive drudge work which is unfulfilling. While spending more time with the children can be fun and fulfilling, it can also be exhausting and demanding. Children in the home 24 hrs/day make a lot of messes and require a lot of constant attention! There may be a tendency for these marriages to be more traditional, where the husband never relieves her by taking on some of the childcare in the evening or on weekends. There may not be money for or a belief in using babysitters so she can get away at times.

The happiest SAHMs I've known were rather affluent. They had housekeepers, babysitters as desired, tutors and music teachers for the children, gardeners, etc. In other words they didn't actually stay at home all the time, but rather simply didn't work. They spent a lot of time shopping!
The happiest SAHMs I know were not particularly affluent. What they (we) had was the support of each other. Our kids were friends, and that made it easy for us moms to take an occasional break while another mother kept the kids for a few hours. Together we took many day trips. It was honestly among the happiest years of my life, and I appreciated the opportunity to stay home while my kids were young. I doubt I would feel the same if I was alone and isolated.

Interestingly enough though, once our kids got a bit older and were in school full time, every single mother in my group of friends went back to work, myself included.
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Old 01-22-2018, 03:24 PM
 
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Bored.
Bitter.
Too much time on their hands.
And the other reasons you mentioned.
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Old 01-22-2018, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Woodstock, GA
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I think it has to do with being fulfilled and happy with the life they chose. It goes both ways. I know SAHMs who absolutely love it and have never wanted to go back to work and others who hate it and resent their husband for not letting them go back. I also know working moms in both boats. Heck not just moms but dads too.
Yeah. I really hated going back to work full time after being a SAHD for so long. It took me 2, maybe 3 years before I finally settled back in to the work routine. But it was necessary for the family and the timing was right, so I saw it through.
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Old 01-22-2018, 04:17 PM
 
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Probably boredom. My sister is a working mom and while she loves her kids to death, she was going positively stir crazy during her maternity leave. I don't think everyone's cut out to be at home all day, and the ones who aren't are likely the ones doing most of the complaining.
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Old 01-22-2018, 06:39 PM
 
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I was beginning to think it was just me. Once the third one came along, I pretty much spent every day shoveling<bleep> against the tide.
Seriously, moms groups? um no, library story time - sure but yawn

Everyone needs to vent at some point and I don't hear the SAHM's doing so anymore than anyone else.

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Old 01-22-2018, 07:13 PM
 
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Op. Your observations are spot on.

I tend to give short time to a kept person . I figure they got a limited awareness of how blessed they are.
My dil doesn't complain..she loves her kids and knows how being a parent doesn't have to be yelling or smacking. She is tender and has an orderly schedule for the little ones. Maybe she is the exception. She accentuates the good moments with the kids.
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