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Old 02-08-2018, 06:49 PM
 
Location: NY to NJ
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As much as society slices and dices the role, is there any wonder why?

SAHM are devalued for the most part. Relegated to this position of perceived inferiority by many clueless males and guilt ridden working moms alike.

Just the comments tossed around in media and in society about women who choose such a job is down right cruel. Those are usually degrading in nature, petty, and often ripe with condescension.

Truly, I don't know how those women could keep from conplaining. I think a defense mechanism used to deflect, and also accentuate the utter and absolute difficulty and reality that is the JOB.
I have to admit, I've never once felt de-valued by anyone over being a SAHM. I've only ever had one noisey old buzzard question me about it and one relative who would make pa comments about me not "using" my degree. Again, not their degree or life to worry about. Being a mom, and the years I spent home with my kids full time,were and will always be the absolute best times in my life. Sorry, no feelings of being inferior to anyone either bc I didn't "work"outside the home. It's really only in internet land that I have ever seen these type of back and forth with moms who work vs. those who don't. And before I became I mom, when I came across a SAHM, my immediate thought was "gee, they are lucky." So I guess it's all about the outlook on things..
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Old 02-09-2018, 03:34 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I have to admit, I've never once felt de-valued by anyone over being a SAHM. I've only ever had one noisey old buzzard question me about it and one relative who would make pa comments about me not "using" my degree. Again, not their degree or life to worry about. Being a mom, and the years I spent home with my kids full time,were and will always be the absolute best times in my life. Sorry, no feelings of being inferior to anyone either bc I didn't "work"outside the home. It's really only in internet land that I have ever seen these type of back and forth with moms who work vs. those who don't. And before I became I mom, when I came across a SAHM, my immediate thought was "gee, they are lucky." So I guess it's all about the outlook on things..
This has been my observation of SAHM's in my extended family, too. And the OP never did respond to questions about where s/he heard all these complaining SAHM's. I don't believe there are that many.
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Old 02-09-2018, 05:50 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I have to admit, I've never once felt de-valued by anyone over being a SAHM. I've only ever had one noisey old buzzard question me about it and one relative who would make pa comments about me not "using" my degree. Again, not their degree or life to worry about. Being a mom, and the years I spent home with my kids full time,were and will always be the absolute best times in my life. Sorry, no feelings of being inferior to anyone either bc I didn't "work"outside the home. It's really only in internet land that I have ever seen these type of back and forth with moms who work vs. those who don't. And before I became I mom, when I came across a SAHM, my immediate thought was "gee, they are lucky." So I guess it's all about the outlook on things..
Well that's great to hear. And probably your location on the map has a lot to do with it. Your region is a possibility for different reaction, perspective, experience.
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Old 02-09-2018, 05:56 PM
 
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As much as society slices and dices the role, is there any wonder why?

SAHM are devalued for the most part. Relegated to this position of perceived inferiority by many clueless males and guilt ridden working moms alike.
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I've definitely experienced this. My family thinks it's great that I'm a sahm. My in laws do not and they have made those feelings known.
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