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A 29 72.50%
B 11 27.50%
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Old 01-24-2018, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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A.

“takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot”

With all that how would he/she have time for sex?

Teenagers...not like it takes a long time.
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Old 01-24-2018, 11:06 PM
 
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A.

“takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot”

With all that how would he/she have time for sex?
Maybe the sex is the part-time job?

A for me.
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Old 01-25-2018, 04:36 PM
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A.

“takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot”

With all that how would he/she have time for sex?


I did that in high school. I still had a ton of free time.


I'm also still a 24 year old virgin. I also don't smoke and don't really drink. I also volunteer a lot. Am 10 lbs overweight though. no one likes a fatty.
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Old 01-25-2018, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Brew Town
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A.

“takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot”

With all that how would he/she have time for sex?
We found time .
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Old 01-25-2018, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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It depends.

Which one is happy?

Why is B in the position they are in?

Which one is loving?

What chores is A doing?

Which one is in tune with God?

What is their personality like? Are the snotty? Distant? Rude? Sweet? Narcissistic? Condescending?

Do both of them bathe regularly?

I think I would lean towards B. First off I would never see A and not really know them. They would have not time for their family at all. I can take B camping (no phone service!). A is too busy. I can sit and chat with B (at least through text) A is too busy for that too. A is a tenant, not a family member.

If A smokes in the house that means they are not even living in my house. Where are they living? Do I ever see them or talk to them?

Is A having group sex at home? Furry Parties? Sex with trees (the new Eco-Sexual thing). Sleeping with octogenarians? BDSM set up in their bedroom? I know I am not supposed to care, but it would make a difference to me.

Which one eats tide pods. I would probably choose the one that does not eat tide pods.
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Old 01-25-2018, 05:35 PM
 
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I’ll take the goody-two-shoes slacker.

Its a lot easier to fix a lack of motivation than it is to fix an addictive/self-indulgent personality, no matter how intelligent/ driven.

Statistically the future does not bode well for kids that are already actively drinking (and smoking? Teens still do that?) at SIXTEEN.
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Old 01-25-2018, 09:57 PM
 
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I chose A. While I would prefer that teenagers not smoke, drink or be sexually active, if they are straight A students, work part time, volunteer, do chores etc. etc. I really doubt that they are doing an excessive amount of any of those other things.

My children are now adults and while I do not know when they lost their virginity (?16, ?17, ?18) I do know that they occasionally smoked and occasionally had a beer or two and they turned out to be great adults. They studied hard in school, had part time jobs, were active in many extra-curricular activities, volunteered, did chores so there was little time left over for those three vices.

Why didn't you ask them when they lost their virginity?

I agree with A though because the potential is there.

If need be, you could make the kid do a breathlyzer test every day and a drug test every week to prevent those 2 things.

If the kid is inherently lazy and uneducated, there's not much you can do there to fix that.
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Old 01-25-2018, 10:05 PM
 
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Teenagers...not like it takes a long time.

It takes a long time to find a decent partner.

The morally deficient people who would get with anyone won't be in the same social circles as people in the A category.
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Old 01-25-2018, 10:06 PM
 
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I did that in high school. I still had a ton of free time.


I'm also still a 24 year old virgin. I also don't smoke and don't really drink. I also volunteer a lot. Am 10 lbs overweight though. no one likes a fatty.


You had a ton of free time because you had no social life, which means no one you'd want to be with knew you.

If you had a social life with all that, there's no way you'd have time for a relationship too.
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Old 01-25-2018, 10:10 PM
 
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I’ll take the goody-two-shoes slacker.

Its a lot easier to fix a lack of motivation than it is to fix an addictive/self-indulgent personality, no matter how intelligent/ driven.

Statistically the future does not bode well for kids that are already actively drinking (and smoking? Teens still do that?) at SIXTEEN.

I couldn't disagree more.

Trying to make a lazy kid care is the hardest thing about working with kids because anything you use to punish them is irrelevant because they don't care.

A self indulgent personality is easy to steer because you have so many elements you can remove that they care about to point them in the right direction.

I know a girl who was drinking and doing drugs at 11 and she goes to a top university now with a tough major. It looks like she's still addicted to the drinking and drugs though.

But her future's probably fine.
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