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A 39 76.47%
B 12 23.53%
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Old 01-23-2018, 07:20 PM
 
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Would you rather have a 16-year-old son/daughter who:

A. is a straight-A student, takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot, and does lots of chores but smokes cigarettes, drinks beer, and is sexually active

B: Is a failing student, takes the most basic classes available, and does nothing but use their smartphone after school but would never smoke, drink, or have sex
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Old 01-23-2018, 07:52 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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I chose B because I think we can work on motivation to do better in school and do something with their life besides sitting on a Smartphone. A child who does well in school but is picking up bad habits is probably going to fail in life at some point if they continue down that destructive path. Just my opinion!
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Old 01-23-2018, 10:37 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I chose B because problems with addiction will cripple a person no matter how much potential they have for success.
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Old 01-24-2018, 12:14 AM
 
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I choose B...and I'd take AWAY the smartphone. That's an addiction in itself.
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Old 01-24-2018, 10:37 AM
 
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I would take A in a heartbeat. Besides cigarettes (why I would nearly omit from this due to its' severely declining usage), most kids are already doing these things. This kid is more likely to be a success later in life. Option B will still be in your basement at 30.
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Old 01-24-2018, 10:40 AM
 
Location: Austin
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I chose A because that was me, minus the smoking... I turned out well... I think...
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Old 01-24-2018, 04:25 PM
 
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B because people can always shape up and get more grounded and settle down mentally as they age. Not everyone is academic but they later end up in good, stable jobs. I know plenty of people like this. High school is only 3 years, but working is 40+ years.
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Old 01-24-2018, 04:36 PM
 
Location: STL area
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A was me, except for the smoking. I turned out well. I’d take that over a failing student with no motivation and a questionable future.
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Old 01-24-2018, 05:02 PM
 
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A.

“takes honors classes, has an after-school/weekend/summer job, participates in lots of extracarriculars, volunteers a lot”

With all that how would he/she have time for sex?
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Old 01-24-2018, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I chose A. While I would prefer that teenagers not smoke, drink or be sexually active, if they are straight A students, work part time, volunteer, do chores etc. etc. I really doubt that they are doing an excessive amount of any of those other things.

My children are now adults and while I do not know when they lost their virginity (?16, ?17, ?18) I do know that they occasionally smoked and occasionally had a beer or two and they turned out to be great adults. They studied hard in school, had part time jobs, were active in many extra-curricular activities, volunteered, did chores so there was little time left over for those three vices.
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