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Old 01-27-2018, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Sounds like your son is dumb. I would be pissed if I was his father.
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Old 01-27-2018, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Under Moon & Star
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My son is 27
Stop.

Enough said.
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Old 01-27-2018, 07:18 PM
 
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My son is 27 and has a girlfriend he has been dating for 2 years. She is easily the laziest woman I have ever met. Granted, my son is making stupid decisions about the relationship as well. He met her online and she moved into his apartment after just two months. He got her a job at the local Wal-Mart and though she didn't drive it was just about a ten minute walk. She quit that job after just three weeks saying it was too hard (she was working in dairy).

She then got another job as a hostess at red robins but quit that due to not liking her coworkers, she then got a job at a subway but quit that after a month. My son lost his job and he and his girlfriend moved in with me. He finally managed to get a job and got her another job at Macy's but shortly quit that one as well. So while my son was at work she would just stay in his room on her phone, computer etc not doing anything. When I would try to talk to her she would brush me aside, keep saying she was depressed and never felt well. Eventually his car broke down and when he got another one, come to find out he put her name on the title as well

She got ANOTHER job at a mazzios at which point my son managed to get a trailer about 20 minutes away. Well, he put her name on it too

It doesn't have any real furnishings aside from a bed, no washer/dryer etc. And, surprise surprise, after they moved she quit that job saying she didn't want to drive that far.

And now my son is telling me she has been talking about marriage and kids and he is considering it.

As you can see, this whole thing is a huge train wreck and this woman is all kinds of lazy, doesn't want to work and is taking my son for a ride. A ride he is always willing to keep getting on I might add. I just don't get why my son is being so stupid about all of this!

This woman doesn't want to work outside the home and HOPEFULLY she's going to be better as a homemaker and mother. I hope they get married before she gets pregnant so at least those kids will have a stable childhood free of want and fear. If it looks like your son is going along with that, then you should advise him to find a real job quick. Maybe the military????
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Old 01-27-2018, 07:19 PM
 
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Sounds like your son is dumb. I would be pissed if I was his father.

I hope he's not as pissed as I am. And mine's only 24.
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Old 01-27-2018, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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My son is 27 and has a girlfriend he has been dating for 2 years. She is easily the laziest woman I have ever met. Granted, my son is making stupid decisions about the relationship as well. He met her online and she moved into his apartment after just two months. He got her a job at the local Wal-Mart and though she didn't drive it was just about a ten minute walk. She quit that job after just three weeks saying it was too hard (she was working in dairy).

She then got another job as a hostess at red robins but quit that due to not liking her coworkers, she then got a job at a subway but quit that after a month. My son lost his job and he and his girlfriend moved in with me. He finally managed to get a job and got her another job at Macy's but shortly quit that one as well. So while my son was at work she would just stay in his room on her phone, computer etc not doing anything. When I would try to talk to her she would brush me aside, keep saying she was depressed and never felt well. Eventually his car broke down and when he got another one, come to find out he put her name on the title as well

She got ANOTHER job at a mazzios at which point my son managed to get a trailer about 20 minutes away. Well, he put her name on it too

It doesn't have any real furnishings aside from a bed, no washer/dryer etc. And, surprise surprise, after they moved she quit that job saying she didn't want to drive that far.

And now my son is telling me she has been talking about marriage and kids and he is considering it.

As you can see, this whole thing is a huge train wreck and this woman is all kinds of lazy, doesn't want to work and is taking my son for a ride. A ride he is always willing to keep getting on I might add. I just don't get why my son is being so stupid about all of this!


Well OP, he's a grown a@# man!

My brother moved in his lazy GF after a month. She didn't have a job so I actually got her one at my work but it was only part time. When a full time position opened and they offered it to her she declined stating she didn't need to work FT because her BF paid her bills!! Well, he married her and had a house built in a really bad area. After a few years it was worth practically nothing! They let it go into foreclosure and they moved out of state because SHE wanted to. They separated for awhile, but are now back together.


My point is, I warned my brother about his last GF and he got mad at me. Same with our mother and all his friends. He's an adult and needs to make his own decisions. Not much else you can do but be there for him when he needs to talk when she screws him over! If he wants to be pushed around, that's his business!
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Old 01-28-2018, 06:15 AM
 
Location: Norfolk, VA
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It must be good
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Old 01-28-2018, 07:39 AM
BMI
 
Location: Ontario
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It must be good
I’m thinking the same thing.

Anyway, shouldn’t this be in the relationships forum?
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Old 01-28-2018, 07:50 AM
 
Location: PVB
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If you had brought him up with better values you wouldn't be in this predicament. Since he is 27 and an adult, there is really nothing more you can do at this point. As others have said she might be the mother of your grandchildren so at this point don't antagonize and don't encourage and let the chips fall where they may.
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Old 01-28-2018, 08:24 AM
 
Location: 60630
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He's an adult. It's HIS choice!


Not if he is gonna live with his mom between jobs it's not HIS choice!
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Old 01-28-2018, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Norfolk, VA
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I’m thinking the same thing.

Anyway, shouldn’t this be in the relationships forum?
Yes it should. Should go into non romantic relationships since the OP is not the protagonist but I can easily see the son creating a new thread in romantic relationships once his sinuses are cleared and he is thinking with a clear head.
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