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Old 02-11-2018, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Both of my children had birthday parties when they were four and five years old and the parents dropped their children off. They were also invited to birthday parties when they were four and five years old and we dropped them off. I should point out that these were all small parties and we knew the parents, and they knew us, from play dates or school activities.
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This is not about kids being dropped off, though. It's about parents bringing the invited child's uninvited siblings to the party.
Yes, I know. I was responding to the poster who said that under age 7/8 (in their circle) the whole family stayed at birthday parties, including the siblings.

I was just pointing out that it never happened to our children.

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Old 02-11-2018, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Yes, I know. I was responding to the poster who said that under age 7/8 (in their circle) the whole family stayed at birthday parties, including the siblings.

I was just pointing out that it never happened to our children.
Right, that's just what seems to be the norm where I live. I know those things differ by area.
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Old 02-11-2018, 09:41 AM
 
Location: Texas
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When they were in grade school they had many mutual friends & youd be surprised how many times people thought they were inviting both of them by giving out just one invitation, so I could never assume either way..
To me, it is not a big deal if the siblings are close in age. But this is an issue with a 10 year old whose 5 year old sibling is attending parties with her. Parents drop both kids off. 5 year olds really don't have much in common with 10 year olds. It's not a good mix. It is also a deliberate grab for free childcare while the parents run errands or do other things for a couple of hours.
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Old 02-11-2018, 10:53 AM
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Location: Denver CO
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my experience has been that people will ask to bring a sibling if they have a baby sitter issue, and it's not a drop off party. I've never heard of someone dropping off toddlers at all, let alone toddlers that were not even invited to the party.

People are generally polite about it, call to ask if it's ok, and if it's at a venue, offer to pay the extra admission for a sibling. I've accommodated siblings, and not taken money even when at a party venue because there have usually been enough no-shows that I was still within the amount of kids I had paid for.
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Old 02-11-2018, 11:47 AM
 
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Because they're rude.

Even if the party is in say, Chuck-E-Cheese. Just because you think you can pay for your extra kid's stuff doesn't mean it's not a PAIN for we parents to have to have your kids there and making the event more crazy.

And completely disrespectful of the birthday KID.

If he WANTED them there, they would have been invited.

Part two of the question:

Are they bringing gifts from these extra kids? Probably 50 cent ones LOL.
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Old 02-11-2018, 12:02 PM
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Location: Foot of the Rockies
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I had to get used to clarifying when Id call to rsvp for anything one of my 2nd set of twins were invited to.

When they were in grade school they had many mutual friends & youd be surprised how many times people thought they were inviting both of them by giving out just one invitation, so I could never assume either way.

Id rather call & clarify; although its sort of awkward, than guess & have people think Im rude.
As far as awkwardness, I learned to say, "I'm going to ask you an indelicate question". It covers all situations.

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Yes, I know. I was responding to the poster who said that under age 7/8 (in their circle) the whole family stayed at birthday parties, including the siblings.

I was just pointing out that it never happened to our children.
Never happened with mine either, nor any of their friends. We let our other daughter invite a friend to her sister's parties, especially when we went somewhere, e.g. restaurant, roller rink, whatever. They had a sort of "mutual" friend in the back yard neighbor kid, who was more the younger one's age. We called her the "honorary cousin" at my older DD's parties. One time, we had an extra ticket to a kids' play for some reason, so we let the neighbor kid bring her brother too.
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Old 02-11-2018, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I wouldn’t care if someone brought a sibling to Chuck E. Cheese... as long as the parent stayed. It’s a public place, so it’s going to be crowded and crazy anyway, but I wouldn’t want to be responsible for watching a younger child.
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Old 02-11-2018, 12:27 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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To me, it is not a big deal if the siblings are close in age. But this is an issue with a 10 year old whose 5 year old sibling is attending parties with her. Parents drop both kids off. 5 year olds really don't have much in common with 10 year olds. It's not a good mix. It is also a deliberate grab for free childcare while the parents run errands or do other things for a couple of hours.
We quit inviting the families who did that. Some would do that for playdates too, send their 3 year old along with the 11 year old. I don't have toddlers, my house is not childproofed because I have no intention of running a daycare, free or otherwise.

I think some families are used to the older siblings being childcare for the younger siblings and can't imagine actually having to watch those younger kids themselves while the older sibling goes to a party.
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Old 02-11-2018, 12:32 PM
 
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My daughter had 3 siblings show up at her party. The parents just dropped off the kids and left, like it was free childcare for a couple of hours. The siblings were much younger than the other kids and one of them was a toddler and cried the whole time. My daughter went to another b-day party this week and the same thing happened to the parents who hosted the party: younger siblings dropped off, parents walked out real fast.


So for my child's b-day next year, instead of a party, we're going to do something alternative. I'm thinking maybe she can take a friend to a movie place to get their nails/hair done, then dinner.

wow, that's just SO rude of them
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Old 02-11-2018, 01:10 PM
 
Location: Texas
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We quit inviting the families who did that. Some would do that for playdates too, send their 3 year old along with the 11 year old. I don't have toddlers, my house is not childproofed because I have no intention of running a daycare, free or otherwise.

I think some families are used to the older siblings being childcare for the younger siblings and can't imagine actually having to watch those younger kids themselves while the older sibling goes to a party.
We're going to stop inviting one kid, whose parents always drop off the 5 year old sibling along with her. I don't want to make an avenue for that rudeness anymore.
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