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Old 04-04-2018, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Yes, because god forbid a child learn to deal with embarrassment and teasing in an appropriate way! ...
My son was embarrassed to learn to drive in my Subaru Outback. All of his friends were learning to drive in better cars. Right.
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Old 04-04-2018, 05:45 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I only wonder why the mom is posting old pictures. Post baby pictures when they are a baby not years later.
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Old 04-08-2018, 05:07 AM
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Location: Here and now.
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Embarrassed by baby pictures? Good lord - how immature! That’s your issue, not hers. I doubt your mother posted them to embarrass you but she isn’t going to let you dictate what she shares on her page. I’m sure she thinks they are really cute. You must be really young if this bothers you.
It is not immature. It's a valid concern, particularly given the ease with which social media can be abused.

I personally do not think it's okay to post anyone's pictures but your own without permission. It is an invasion of the other person's privacy, and if the pictures are of children with their names attached, could easily fall into the hands of someone who would use them to do harm: "Hi, Suzy, I went to school with your mom! Let's go get a milkshake, okay?"

Even if the person in question is now grown, think about it. Would you really want a prospective employer to see photos of you learning to do "number two" on a potty chair?

If you want to share baby pictures of your kids with actual friends, there are better ways to do it.

FWIW, I am 53.
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Old 04-08-2018, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Lots of my friends, now in their 60s, post pictures of themselves as children on FB.
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Old 04-08-2018, 08:29 AM
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It is not immature. It's a valid concern, particularly given the ease with which social media can be abused.

I personally do not think it's okay to post anyone's pictures but your own without permission. It is an invasion of the other person's privacy, and if the pictures are of children with their names attached, could easily fall into the hands of someone who would use them to do harm: "Hi, Suzy, I went to school with your mom! Let's go get a milkshake, okay?"

Even if the person in question is now grown, think about it. Would you really want a prospective employer to see photos of you learning to do "number two" on a potty chair?

If you want to share baby pictures of your kids with actual friends, there are better ways to do it.

FWIW, I am 53.
Hopefully mom and dad have taught Suzy to have a little common sense. At no point in my life would I have gone anywhere with a stranger because they claimed to know my mom. I taught my own children a “code word” and unless an adult used it, they were not sent by me, even if they said they were or even if my kids knew them - if I ever needed someone else to pick them up, that person would know the code. Hopefully little Suzy is not painfully stupid but if she is, infant pictures are the least of her worries.

While I would not be showing them off at the interview, I could not care less if a potential employer saw pics of me as an infant on a potty chair or any other childhood photos of me (and there are some doozies). There is literally no better way to share photos with your friends than Facebook! Well, maybe Instagram!
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Old 04-08-2018, 11:01 AM
 
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Lots of my friends, now in their 60s, post pictures of themselves as children on FB.

"Post pictures of themselves" that is the takeaway.
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Old 04-08-2018, 11:12 AM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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"Post pictures of themselves" that is the takeaway.
Oh I know. I was just saying. Point being there comes a time in life when you want to show pictures of yourself as a kid.

I admit to having posted a few pictures of my kids at much younger ages, as well. I never tagged them but it's fairly obvious to my friends, and our mutual FB friends, who they are. Other of my friends have done the same, especially on birthdays.
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Old 04-08-2018, 01:26 PM
 
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Kids can be sensitive. I ask my kid's permission before posting anything about them on my FB page. And I am totally locked down. I am not paranoid about people doing anything to them, but I want to respect their autonomy.

Years later, I doubt they will care. But right now they do. That matters to me.
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Old 04-08-2018, 01:47 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I occasionally post a little kid pic if it comes up on my memories app or on their birthdays. Neither kid has ever said anything about it. They tend to be pretty laid back and I’ve nevwr given them the impression that they should ask others not to do something completely benign because they don’t like it. So while I assume they truly do not care, I also think that they would not ask me to take a photo off of my own social media timeline because they didn’t want people (most of whom have known them since they were born) to remember what they looked like standing in front of a snowman when they were five years old.

I would not post potty or bath pics of them. Nor would I take a pic of them with chicken hair first thing on the morning now and post that. But a nice smiling photo of them now or any fully clothed pic of them in their early years is not an issue. I never took pics of them having tantrums or anything so that’s not even a possibility.
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Old 04-09-2018, 12:47 AM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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Lots of my friends, now in their 60s, post pictures of themselves as children on FB.
Yeah, because we think they're funny or cute now and/or we just don't care anymore! LOL. It's not the same for many young people. They get embarrassed. Case in point, back in the late 70s my mother sent a photo of me as a toddler to my school for a cute baby contest. This was in 7th or 8th grade. ALL of the parents sent a photo of their kid. Were all of the kids mortified by the photo their parents elected to send? I don't know but I suspect many were. I was! A zillion years later, if I could find that same photo I would post it on my FB page because it's really funny. Just wasn't funny to me at 13 or so!
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