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Old 04-06-2018, 11:13 AM
Status: "Blessed are the peacemakers..." (set 13 hours ago)
 
Location: Tennesee
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I can't stand the things, yet without talking to me my husband when he was out with our daughter got a mouse and everything needed to take care of it. My husband and our 12 year old daughter went out and stopped at a pet shop and came home with a mouse! Our daughter is really excited but I am not at all as I am sure you can tell.

Call me sexist but I wouldn't have a problem with her being stereotypically adverse to it. When I talked to my husband and he just says it really didn't cost much and our daughter wanted one.

It's setup in her room but just having it in the house bothers me!
I've read your other posts to this thread, and here are my reactions:

First of all, obviously, it's best if both parents are on the same page about pets. Did he know you had such a strong aversion? Is it actual fear, or simple distaste? If it's just distaste, I think you need to suck it up and let her enjoy her pet. If it's fear - real, deep-seated fear - and he knew that, this discussion probably belongs in a different forum.

Second, I'm not sure why you are okay with your daughter growing up with a fear of mice. I have kept and raised pet mice. They're cute. I have also shown little mercy when trying to rid a house of wild mice. They are cute, too, but not when they get in your pantry.

Third. Is this her first pet? If it is, I don't blame her for being excited. I would have been, too, at that age. Most kids want a pet at some point.

Fourth. A mouse wouldn't be my first choice, in terms of a "pocket pet." That would be a rat. Domestic rats are smart, clean (unless their owners let their cages get nasty), and capable of actually bonding with their people. They can learn their names, they can learn to do little tricks, and they really are wonderful pets, especially for people with limited space. I used to work at a pet store, and when people came in looking for a hamster for their kid, I almost always suggested that they consider a rat, instead. Some did. None were ever sorry, and several thanked me when they came back for supplies later. But if you are freaking out over a mouse, well...nevermind.

Fifth. I feel sorry for the mouse. It is probably lonely. Mice are not solitary animals, and the best way to keep them if you don't want to breed them is in small, all-female groups.
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Old 04-06-2018, 01:47 PM
 
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Guinea pigs are more fun. They enjoy being held and petted, seem to understand that the caged life is an easy life, and have very interesting personalities. They can also learn to poop in a cup.
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Old 04-06-2018, 02:19 PM
 
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My worst nightmare. My daughter wants a hamster. No way!
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Old 04-06-2018, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Dayton, OH
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I think OP should encourage her daughter's interest in her new pet. The young girl will learn to respect and protect such a fragile life. She will learn compassion for another living creature.

All of Nature's creatures have a place on this earth and deserve a place in our hearts.

This is so not a big deal. I suggest OP might benefit from therapy.

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Old 04-06-2018, 04:08 PM
 
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I can't stand the things, yet without talking to me my husband when he was out with our daughter got a mouse and everything needed to take care of it. My husband and our 12 year old daughter went out and stopped at a pet shop and came home with a mouse! Our daughter is really excited but I am not at all as I am sure you can tell.

Call me sexist but I wouldn't have a problem with her being stereotypically adverse to it. When I talked to my husband and he just says it really didn't cost much and our daughter wanted one.

It's setup in her room but just having it in the house bothers me!
It'll be dead in less than 1 year. My Mother let us have a hooded rat (Her name was Phyllis) and she was totally gentle. Never bit once. Guinea pigs, cats (One had kittens) and dogs and budgies....

This teaches children that this "Creature" is a living creature and requires care and feeding. That to "Forget" means they suffer....I think she'll learn a lot from this.

BTW the only time my Mother went up the wall on me was when I had snakes in my room...That was a huge "No way they are staying" (She had a major fear of them) I never pushed the issue.

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Old 04-06-2018, 04:30 PM
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Location: on the Plateau
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Like others have said: it won't live long. OTOH, count your blessings. She could have come home with an iguana! ��
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Old 04-06-2018, 07:10 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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One of my favorite memories is of my pet mouse Snowball that my dad got me when I was 5. She was a treasured pet, (I once forgot to take her out of my shirt pocket and she spent the night with me - I found her in the morning when I woke up) she went every where with me when, riding on my shoulder. I loved that mouse.

My mom did not enjoy pets( and certainly hated mice), but I am sure glad she put up with it for my sake....

Poor little Snowball only lasted a couple years (our dog munched on her one day).... but she was a dear little pet and, my first one....
Omg that was a great story...it made me spit out my coffee! To the OP just suck it up... I mean literally with a vacuum...
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Old 04-06-2018, 09:04 PM
 
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I get your horror...I hate mice. But kids need pets. They need something to care for and care about. A pocket pet is the easiest way to go. I had a Guinea pig when I was 9 & I loved her dearly.
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Old 04-06-2018, 10:00 PM
 
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I can't stand the things, yet without talking to me my husband when he was out with our daughter got a mouse and everything needed to take care of it. My husband and our 12 year old daughter went out and stopped at a pet shop and came home with a mouse! Our daughter is really excited but I am not at all as I am sure you can tell.

Call me sexist but I wouldn't have a problem with her being stereotypically adverse to it. When I talked to my husband and he just says it really didn't cost much and our daughter wanted one.

It's setup in her room but just having it in the house bothers me!
Is it a little white one? If so, not much different than a hamster, IMO. Only not as cute. But me? I'd never have a mouse as a pet!
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Old 04-07-2018, 02:08 AM
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Location: Tennesee
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Is it a little white one? If so, not much different than a hamster, IMO. Only not as cute. But me? I'd never have a mouse as a pet!
Just for the record, domestic mice, the kind sold in pet stores, come in lots of colors. Some even have dark colored "points" like a Siamese cat. There are also different coat types.

Here are some pictures and descriptions. They are all cute, but I think the Satins are especially pretty.

All About Mice Types & Varieties
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