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Old 04-09-2018, 02:07 PM
 
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OP here to answer some of your questions.

The board fell onto a train track(!) and was not able to be retrieved. Therefore no wheels to salvage.

I'm thinking he should refund them any overage but my son, a great debater, has made some valid points. Basically, he sees it as they're paying him for what he lost and how he decides to spend it is up to him; I see it as they're paying for the replacement.

I wish I’d done as Maliblue suggested, replace the board and then go to the family with the receipt. Lesson learned.

Someone asked who paid for the original board and said whoever did should decide what to do. My son paid for it and he made that very point, that it’s his decision. I told him to think long and hard about this and consider how he’d feel if shoe were on the other foot.

(Interestingly enough, I realized that if I had to pay for something I broke, I'll pay the full value and not worry about how it was spent. If I was receiving money for something someone broke, I'd refund the overage).
I am curious who exactly is the parent and running the household.
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Old 04-09-2018, 02:19 PM
 
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I am curious who exactly is the parent and running the household.
Parents aren't always right.
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Old 04-09-2018, 02:48 PM
 
Location: State of Denial
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The honorable thing to do would be to return the unused funds. Doing the honorable thing will never be wrong.
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Old 04-09-2018, 03:45 PM
 
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I am curious who exactly is the parent and running the household.
I listen to what my son has to say and don't automatically dismiss his opinion just because I'm older.
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Old 04-10-2018, 06:36 AM
 
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I listen to what my son has to say and don't automatically dismiss his opinion just because I'm older.
Which shows you are doing a good job.
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Old 04-10-2018, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Texas
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If someone hits and totals your car, and their insurance pays you $20k to replace it, but you buy a car for $10k, are you going to send the insurance company $10k back? I highly doubt it.
This is different since it is a personal relationship.
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Old 04-10-2018, 07:10 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I think it's great these people offered to pay for a replacement. Many people would not make such an offer. I've had lots of kid comes to our home, break things. Just recently, an overweight 9 year old sat on a tricycle at our home and broke it. We had to throw it out. She also eats tons of our food, all of the ice cream and cones, sodas. I had to make more trips to the store whenever she came by. We finally stopped her from coming over to our house and her parents are upset, but I'd rather just not have her over any more. It really does cost money to entertain children in your home. It's even harder when they freely use and abuse resources.
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Old 04-10-2018, 07:23 AM
 
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That is what I would do also. To keep the extra money, to me, would be "taking advantage" of the friend. This type of thing will come up often later in life and I would want my child to learn that it is not right to try to cheat a friend. The best example in adulthood would be if you are able to get something for free, such as concert tickets or meals at restaurants and you take your friends with you to the concert or meal and charge them the full price (even though it cost you nothing).To me that is not capitalism that is cheating a friend.

Although, I would have encouraged my son first to try to fix the old skateboard or use the old wheels, or whatever and then say "It cost $70 to fix/repair" . In many families paying out $170 for a broken toy can be a real hardship.

The cost to replace was $170. THAT'S what the friend's parents covered. To me, that's the end of the story. The boy can spend the money as he pleases. It's stealing nothing, because it's what he was owed.
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Old 04-10-2018, 07:43 AM
 
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Meh... I'd say give back the balance. While an argument could certainly be made to pocket the $100 (see previous 6 pages), what is your son being taught by doing so? Take advantage of every situation? I suppose in some respects, that's a good way to go through life.

But, if your son had broken Bobby's skateboard and it got back to you that Bobby (or whatever the kid's name was) had pocketed the difference, I think you and your son would be mightily pissed off.

The exchange of the $170 showed a value of the damage to the skateboard as $170. Honestly, if your son replaced the skateboard for $165, I'd still have the kid fork over the $5. Maybe some don't see it that way, but if your kid isn't going to replace the board for $170, then the amount asked for replacement was wrong.
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Old 04-10-2018, 08:05 AM
 
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There is a good lesson here to teach your son.
Yup, if you want to teach ethics, give the money back.
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