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Old 04-06-2018, 10:06 PM
 
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My son's friend broke his skateboard and the kid's parents graciously paid the full cost of the board which was only a few months old. Total of $170.

Took my son shopping for a replacement board today and he only bought part of it (cost of $70) claiming that he's going to get the wheels, etc from a friend for free. Therefore he's pocketing the remaining $100.

I say that's wrong but he says it's up to him how he replaces the board. I see what he's saying but I'm still torn.

Thoughts?
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Old 04-06-2018, 10:14 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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My son's friend broke his skateboard and the kid's parents graciously paid the full cost of the board which was only a few months old. Total of $170.

Took my son shopping for a replacement board today and he only bought part of it (cost of $70) claiming that he's going to get the wheels, etc from a friend for free. Therefore he's pocketing the remaining $100.

I say that's wrong but he says it's up to him how he replaces the board. I see what he's saying but I'm still torn.

Thoughts?
Sounds smart to me.
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Old 04-07-2018, 01:58 AM
 
Location: Tennesee
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My son's friend broke his skateboard and the kid's parents graciously paid the full cost of the board which was only a few months old. Total of $170.

Took my son shopping for a replacement board today and he only bought part of it (cost of $70) claiming that he's going to get the wheels, etc from a friend for free. Therefore he's pocketing the remaining $100.

I say that's wrong but he says it's up to him how he replaces the board. I see what he's saying but I'm still torn.

Thoughts?
Were any parts of his old board salvageable?
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Old 04-07-2018, 02:01 AM
 
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Personally I would make him give the $100.00 back to the parents.
Your son is essentially stealing from them by not using the entire amount for the replacement skateboard.
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Old 04-07-2018, 05:16 AM
 
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There is a good lesson here to teach your son.
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Old 04-07-2018, 05:35 AM
 
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Personally I would make him give the $100.00 back to the parents.
Your son is essentially stealing from them by not using the entire amount for the replacement skateboard.
Stealing from them? No way.

They damaged or destroyed an item. They paid you the value for the item they damaged or destroyed. That is the end of the transaction. It is all about the value of the item that was destroyed. No one is under any obligation to use that money for any specific purpose.

That being said, if they gave you the money to REPLACE the skateboard, they should only pay your new out of pocket cost.

The OP described the situation as the former. There is a difference.
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Old 04-07-2018, 07:02 AM
 
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Stealing from them? No way.
They damaged or destroyed an item. They paid you the value for the item they damaged or destroyed. That is the end of the transaction. It is all about the value of the item that was destroyed. No one is under any obligation to use that money for any specific purpose.
That being said, if they gave you the money to REPLACE the skateboard, they should only pay your new out of pocket cost.
The OP described the situation as the former. There is a difference.
I stated what I would do if it were my child.
You obviously can do what you wish with your child.
I personally would choose to do as I stated and in my opinion, if something other than what I stated is done it is stealing.
The OP did state the *new out of pocket cost* which is $170.00 and the OP also stated the money given was given specifically to *replace* the broken skateboard.
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Old 04-07-2018, 07:12 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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They damaged or destroyed an item. They paid you the value for the item they damaged or destroyed. That is the end of the transaction. It is all about the value of the item that was destroyed. No one is under any obligation to use that money for any specific purpose.
Absolutely.

They owed a debt, and they settled it. How he uses the money is his choice. If he figured out how to get a replacement skateboard for less, then he is smart. It's not stealing. It's capitalism.
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Old 04-07-2018, 07:27 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Personally I would make him give the $100.00 back to the parents.
Your son is essentially stealing from them by not using the entire amount for the replacement skateboard.
That is what I would do also. To keep the extra money, to me, would be "taking advantage" of the friend. This type of thing will come up often later in life and I would want my child to learn that it is not right to try to cheat a friend. The best example in adulthood would be if you are able to get something for free, such as concert tickets or meals at restaurants and you take your friends with you to the concert or meal and charge them the full price (even though it cost you nothing).To me that is not capitalism that is cheating a friend.

Although, I would have encouraged my son first to try to fix the old skateboard or use the old wheels, or whatever and then say "It cost $70 to fix/repair" . In many families paying out $170 for a broken toy can be a real hardship.
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Old 04-07-2018, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The best example in adulthood would be if you are able to get something for free, such as concert tickets or meals at restaurants and you take your friends with you to the concert or meal and charge them the full price (even though it cost you nothing).To me that is not capitalism that is cheating a friend.
The ticket example IS cheating and taking advantage. It's not the same thing.

So .... if you bought a Waterford crystal vase at a store for $100, and when you went to return it they said, "This vase is currently selling at $50, and that is all we will give you..." you would be fine with that?

If a friend broke a $100 crystal plate at your home and offered you $50 because that's the price she saw for one on eBay, that would be OK?

It's about the price you paid, not your friend's perceived value of your item. They pay for the replacement value because their actions kept you from using the item. How you use that money is totally up to you.
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