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Old 04-10-2018, 12:30 PM
 
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My son said "that means sex" when he saw a boy do the "rabbit ears" behind a girls head in class. The teacher overheard and called the counselor. After speaking with him in the hallway he was told to go back in and apologize, which he did.

My son said that he learned from a fellow classmate earlier this year that the bunny ears meant "sex" when held behind someone's head . He admittedly did not know anything else associated with the word, thats why he spoke freely about it when saw the gesture.

It was all innocent. He had no clue that he was opening a can of worms. I just found it a bit odd that he had to say he was sorry to the other kids. I would have just told him "that's not something we talk about here so let's not say that anymore okay?"

He's not upset and I'm not upset, I just think that was a weird way to handle it, having him to say "i'm sorry" when he didn't even know what it meant.

Thoughts?
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Old 04-10-2018, 12:35 PM
 
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It sounds like you are upset, and I guess I would be too.

On the other hand, I looked it up on urban dictionary, and apparently he's right.

So the teacher and counselor learned something that day. ;D
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Old 04-10-2018, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Nescopeck, Penna.
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"Political Correctness" run amuck -- courtesy of the teachers' desire to turn the entire school system into their personal fiefdom.

These are first graders (six-year-olds)!; and we're supposed to let the urban dictionary impose adult(?) standards?
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Old 04-10-2018, 01:04 PM
 
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Ignorantia juris non excusat or ignorantia legis neminem excusat.

Sounds like you failed to learn a valuable lesson about modern jurisprudence.
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Old 04-10-2018, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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He's not upset...
I think this is all that matters.

You will encounter more than a couple of "weird ways of handling things" as a parent. If he learned something and wasn't harmed, it's better to let this kind of thing go.
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Old 04-10-2018, 05:08 PM
 
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"It sounds like you are upset, and I guess I would be too."


"He's not upset and I'm not upset, I just think that was a weird way to handle it,"

Last edited by Aboom; 04-10-2018 at 05:18 PM..
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Old 04-10-2018, 05:32 PM
 
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This already concerns me:

"the teachers' desire to turn the entire school system into their personal fiefdom."

As a single, custodial dad, i already have endured being spoken to as if i dont know what im doing (i most certainly do). When this occurs, i smile and go along in agreement not being defensive but raising my inner eyebrow.

Its a line i walk on so as to not make myself more of a target. This "sex" comment, got me concerned but i think its much ado about nothing at this point. We just dont want any more attention like this. Lol
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Old 04-10-2018, 06:04 PM
 
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This already concerns me:

"the teachers' desire to turn the entire school system into their personal fiefdom."
I was with you until this. Look at it from the teacher's point of view. All she needs is one kid going home and making bunny ears to a sibling, and telling her/his parent that it means sex because Aboom's child told her/him so, for the fires to rain down. Yeah, I find the whole reaction a bit over-zealous, but teachers have to be that way it seems.

Let it go.
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Old 04-10-2018, 06:22 PM
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Location: Foot of the Rockies
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"It sounds like you are upset, and I guess I would be too."


"He's not upset and I'm not upset, I just think that was a weird way to handle it,"
In fairness, since you started a thread about it here on CD, I'd guess you're upset. In any event, you're not just blowing it off.
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Old 04-10-2018, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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This already concerns me:

"the teachers' desire to turn the entire school system into their personal fiefdom."

As a single, custodial dad, i already have endured being spoken to as if i dont know what im doing (i most certainly do). When this occurs, i smile and go along in agreement not being defensive but raising my inner eyebrow.

Its a line i walk on so as to not make myself more of a target. This "sex" comment, got me concerned but i think its much ado about nothing at this point. We just dont want any more attention like this. Lol
It would help your son (and you) if you view his teachers as allies instead of persecutors.

I know it's taxing to be talked down to as a single parent. But don't punish all his teachers for the past actions of others. It already sounds like you're downplaying your son's actions based on your mistrust of the school officials. That's a dangerous path to travel down as a parent of a child who has a LOT of school left.

He said something he shouldn't have, and they handled it. He doesn't sound traumatized. Hopefully he has learned from this.
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