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Im 29 yrs old, I have one child , a 3 year old. My very close friends all do not have kids yet, which is fine. When I initially told my friends of my pregnancy they were ecstatic helped me with almost EVERYTHING imaginable. I love my friends and Its not weird me being the only parent, but my only concern is they can be slightly judgy at times which is a peeve for example last week I visited my friends who are twin sisters, one of them noticed my son had on mismatched socks ( I couldn't find the other one in the suitcase and was in a rush so I was winging it) so she made a comment jokingly, but I could tell she was judging me as well. So I made a remark to her telling her "I hope once you have children , you have it all together".
Another example is one of my friends called while visiting the twins and she made a comment saying the reason she hadn't came to visit either cause she knew my son would be there and it would be too much for her to want to deal with... I lowkey felt insulted. He is 3 what do they expect? Hes not a nuisance , or throwing tantrums all over the place, but he is still at a toddler. Im not expecting them to understand personally how I feel until they have their own children, but I still wonder am I overthinking things. I haven't said anything to them personally about how I feel, but was wondering should I say anything or just let it go?
Let it go. No point in ruining the visit. Take comfort in knowing that if they have kids, they too will realize mismatched socks are the least of your worries. It's just not worth the battle.
I would let it go, but I would try and find friends that had toddlers so you could do toddler friendly things with people that understand that lifestyle. I would do things that didn't involve your child with your close friends. It may be hard but you are at different stages of life. Kind of like when everyone is single and that one friend gets married. You can no longer do the same things as when everyone is single. Don't take it personally, they just don't know and won't know or understand until they have kids. Having a child changes everything and this is one of the things it is changing. You sound like a normal parent with a normal toddler by the way...
Let it go. No point in ruining the visit. Take comfort in knowing that if they have kids, they too will realize mismatched socks are the least of your worries. It's just not worth the battle.
Good points.
BTW, did you realize that mis-matched socks are a fashion statement for children? They even sell mis-matched socks as pairs of socks in high end stores (at least they did a few years ago),
BTW, did you realize that mis-matched socks are a fashion statement for children? They even sell mis-matched socks as pairs of socks in high end stores (at least they did a few years ago),
Lol Yes but they were completely different one was all red, the other was like black with pink, blue and yellow stripes
I wouldn't really say anything to them unless they were rude to your son or excessively rude. But you might look for more "mommy" friends if you don't have any. They are such a blessing when you have little ones.
It's a different kind of visit if it's you with your child vs just you. Can't blame them if this is not the kind of day they want and it's not that they are judging. I have certain friends that I won't take a walk with if they are bringing their dog because it's too slow and too much about the dog but I will be happy to have a morning walk sans the pet Kind of the same thing - only a little worse really.
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I, too, was the perfect parent before having children.
