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Old 05-03-2018, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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OP, set the boundaries up front, a lot easier to relax the limits later than to enforce the rules once he's used to all that screen time.
Thanks, Moonwalkr. That's kind of our situation right now. He's been off of screens during the week but now that his school year is winding down I was considering cutting him some more slack.
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Old 05-03-2018, 04:08 PM
 
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If he's playing games or watching youtube videos it's cuz' I'm there with him, giving some guidance, answering questions or, providing supplemental information.

If the weather is good, we go outside and play. No games before homework. I teach him "play" only comes before "work" in the dictionary. I also add in homework. You on't win the prize by being equally fast as others, you must be faster!

Sounds harsh but we're all smiles. When all the work is done we play, run, laugh, make fart sounds. Screen time like pizza isn't inherently bad but, it is if it excludes a few other things.
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Old 05-04-2018, 06:11 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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If he's playing games or watching youtube videos it's cuz' I'm there with him, giving some guidance, answering questions or, providing supplemental information.

If the weather is good, we go outside and play. No games before homework. I teach him "play" only comes before "work" in the dictionary. I also add in homework. You on't win the prize by being equally fast as others, you must be faster!

Sounds harsh but we're all smiles. When all the work is done we play, run, laugh, make fart sounds. Screen time like pizza isn't inherently bad but, it is if it excludes a few other things.
Can I ask if your son is an only-child? I think what you're doing is great, but it may be tricky for folks with larger families to have that sort of one-on-one guidance all the time.
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Old 05-07-2018, 12:55 PM
 
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Can I ask if your son is an only-child? I think what you're doing is great, but it may be tricky for folks with larger families to have that sort of one-on-one guidance all the time.
Yea, he is. So yes, my guidance is mostly applicable to an individual child as opposed to a group of kids.
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Old 05-07-2018, 06:55 PM
 
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Why buy your kids the Xbox or whatever plays these video games in the first place? My kids are 2 and 4 so we're not there yet..but they do love certain shows already and are mesmerized by the screens. I'm not getting rid of my phone or my tv...but why bring more into the house that will encourage screen time or cause more whining to watch etc.
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Old 05-08-2018, 09:40 AM
 
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My grandkids would be on their devices 24/7 if allowed. My kids make sure they get more outside play with friends than indoor solitary screen time.

My son is an online game developer, but even he knows the kids need fresh air, sunshine, imagination and exercise. He uses the devices as rewards (after homework, play, chores, whatever) and will take them away as a punishment.

Thinking back to my dad, fifty years ago. It was absolutely unacceptable to turn the tv on during the day, he would tell us to get outside. And if we said we didn't know what to do outside, he'd say, I'll find you something to do, which meant chores. Happy memories.
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Old 05-08-2018, 11:55 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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Thinking back to my dad, fifty years ago. It was absolutely unacceptable to turn the tv on during the day, he would tell us to get outside. And if we said we didn't know what to do outside, he'd say, I'll find you something to do, which meant chores. Happy memories.
Haha my mother used to drop the same line
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Old 05-16-2018, 12:05 PM
 
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Here is another approach, might be good for certain families.

Wing it.

Just go with gut feeling.

Some days no screen time, too busy, kid is bad, etc
Some days tons of screen time, at home sick, weather, kid is good, etc
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Old 05-16-2018, 01:26 PM
 
Location: Charlotte Area
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My son is 10 and in 4th grade. He goes to an afterschool program 3 days a week and then the other 2 days he is with family members until I or his dad get home. We don't have a limit. My son gets good grades and his homework gets completed nightly. He plays sports and he plays with his friends. Summer is coming up and our neighborhood pool opens so we will be there most weekends and he will be in summer camp during the week when we aren't on vacation.
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Old 05-16-2018, 04:19 PM
 
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Thanks, maciesmom. How did they end up handling screens/video games when they moved out? I'm concerned that if I don't expose him to screens now, he's going to go nuts when he goes off to college lol. But seriously, I have friends whose grades took a big hit in college because they did nothing but play video games...
One of my friends kids is a paid video game athlete while in engineering school. Esports or something.

Video games are not all created alike, and should not be treated as one thing. Minecraft and its ilk are very different than Halo. Even Halo has a social aspect, but hopefully not in 4th grade. Also, speaking of socializing, is playing video games a way to hang out with his friends after school?

All kids should have screen time monitored, but I have no inherent dislike of video games vs TV. Especially if they are skills based games like minecraft or also serve a social aspect.
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