My 18 y/o just moved out-I was clueless. (ADHD, autism, wife)

[Missdallasamy]

i wanted to give an update on everything.
She does NOt have access to any of my credit cards or Debit Card. Passwords to the bank websites and to my cards have been changed. My Paypal, gmail, and google account have been changed. too. HER password to gmail was saved at some point on my computers so I can see her activity. I can also see *about* where her phone is. It's a track phone but google tells me where it is.

She stopped texting me back about a week ago, BUT, she will reply to most emails.

She lives in Chicopee, MA, but all I know is the general intersection, and not real address, and yes, she met some guy online and they email a LOT. HE is a farmer that travels to VT and then back to MA. For some reason, she spends a lot of time at his parent's house. He asks if it *awkward* talking to them. THeir emails are NEVER sexual in ANY way, talks more about music videos, movies, they like, etc.

She did have a job for a short time, but I see she is applying to other jobs. Guess she didn't like that job.

THanks, again, GUys!!!!

[KaraG]

That's great that you can see her emails.

[YorktownGal]

Thanks for the update. Good news! Hoping everything works out for you and your daughter.

[ItIsWritten.]

Originally Posted by ClaraC

OP, DON'T cancel the cards.

That's the only way you'll know where she is, and if she's ok.

I don't know what she's up to, but she is extremely fragile, and if you cut off her access to money, who knows what will happen to her.

It sounds like she's having a mental health break.

Does mental illness run in your family or your late husbands?

what she said

[tamajane]

Originally Posted by Missdallasamy

i wanted to give an update on everything.
She does NOt have access to any of my credit cards or Debit Card. Passwords to the bank websites and to my cards have been changed. My Paypal, gmail, and google account have been changed. too. HER password to gmail was saved at some point on my computers so I can see her activity. I can also see *about* where her phone is. It's a track phone but google tells me where it is.

She stopped texting me back about a week ago, BUT, she will reply to most emails.

She lives in Chicopee, MA, but all I know is the general intersection, and not real address, and yes, she met some guy online and they email a LOT. HE is a farmer that travels to VT and then back to MA. For some reason, she spends a lot of time at his parent's house. He asks if it *awkward* talking to them. THeir emails are NEVER sexual in ANY way, talks more about music videos, movies, they like, etc.

She did have a job for a short time, but I see she is applying to other jobs. Guess she didn't like that job.

THanks, again, GUys!!!!

Keep us updated. Glad she is ok - A farmer, that is different. Wonder what he farms... Did you look up the intersection on google street view? Chicopee can be sketchy in some areas.

[JackF]

Any updates?

[Missdallasamy]

She agreed to answer texts, within a few hours. And she has, mostly.

She has been working...I saw the emails from upwork showing payments into a bank acct.

I DID offer the use of a credit card, that has a LOW balance, for her to use for emergencies. I told her I reserve to the right to LOCK if, if I fell so. She agreed. She used it for a bus fare and uber. Not exactly emergencies, but at least she isn't using it at the GAP store.

She is volunteering for WWOOF, which is an organic farm outfit. YOu volunteer 4 hrs a day, in exchange for working on their farm. She told me a weeks ago that she milked a cow and such. I remember a couple months ago, she told me she could work on a farm, that "sounded like fun."

I saw some pictures from an email with the BOY/MAN. His arm was around her shoulders, and hers was tucked inside her pocket. Clearly, she isn't real comfortable with him, in a dating sense. SHE NEVER DATED, never even went to her prom. Another picture, showed the male, walking about a foot in front of my daughter. My daughter IS a slow walker. If that was ME, I would be holding his hand.

It seems to be friends, from my daughter's point.

I found out the guys REAL name. My daughter knows what his real name is, I don't know why he uses this fake name on a weird email, if my daughter knows it. Did a background check. found nothing. THe BF's mom is the one who sends the emails, and refers to them, as their real names.

Will report MORE, when I have more details.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Airborneguy]

Very strange. Good luck.

[Larry Siegel]

It's a little strange but better than I feared. Glad to hear she is in one piece and it's just about a boy/man she ran off with, something that 18 year olds do (I am not condoning stealing).

[KaraG]

Thanks for updating us. It really is strange and I'm wondering how the new bank accounts she set up, the fake job you drove her to and the lying is all connected. So glad you are able to stay in contact now.