Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:20 PM
 
1,195 posts, read 974,309 times
Reputation: 991

Advertisements

What would fathers of an adult son like to hear from his son? There are thoughts or feelings that we never share.

I bring this up because he's a bit distant from his extended family at times and at 61 I feel he wants to maintain a social life. My stepmother stresses him out sometimes with her issues. I don't get along with her but want nothing but peace for my own sanity and to keep a strong relationship with my father. There's really no gift I can give him since he has everything, just words or other help. What do you wish your adult son would do for you?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
6,793 posts, read 5,629,877 times
Reputation: 5660
just call me ever so often.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Willowbrook, Houston
1,442 posts, read 1,547,266 times
Reputation: 2086
Since I left home, there was a 6-month stretch where my father and I didn't talk. We weren't at war with each other, it's just that I wanted time to get used to being on my own. Now, I go back to my old neighborhood to see my father and we picked up where we left off. I tell my pops all the time, I probably wouldn't make it on my own if he wasn't hard on me as a child. Thanks for showing me what manhood is all about. If I can be half the man you are, I would be doing good. My father hit me with the following statement: Son, don't be like me, be better than me.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:30 PM
 
13,975 posts, read 25,832,127 times
Reputation: 39851
Quote:
Originally Posted by mco65 View Post
just call me ever so often.
My husband, father of three adult sons, would say the same thing.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:50 PM
 
6,432 posts, read 7,726,983 times
Reputation: 15931
Quote:
Originally Posted by mco65 View Post
just call me ever so often.
+1.

And take him out to dinner sometimes, your treat. Just you and him - it'll be nice time and will demonstrate that you are independent and mature, which is what every father wants for their kid.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Texas
44,256 posts, read 64,082,245 times
Reputation: 73913
My dad would love to spend more time with my brother.

Sad, really.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 04:32 PM
 
1,195 posts, read 974,309 times
Reputation: 991
My father has actually said to call him, so it's not always him calling. We speak frequently, like 4 times per week but it's usually him, giving me little chance to do the calling. Lately I been taking more initiative and it's a good thing to remember.

Taking out to eat together is a good idea, as well as saying how all I really want to be a bit like him by working hard and have the same level of achievements as I seen him earn.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 06:54 PM
 
4,985 posts, read 3,918,856 times
Reputation: 10145
What do you wish your adult son would do for you?
1. make his mother proud.
2. visit his remaining grandmother.
3. lay off Facebook.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-30-2018, 11:46 PM
 
9,446 posts, read 6,523,113 times
Reputation: 18898
My husband asks me almost every day if any of the "boys" called.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-31-2018, 06:17 AM
 
13,256 posts, read 8,339,924 times
Reputation: 31427
Find a common hobby and plan to experience it together. One son bought an old corvette and called his dad over to work on it. They both enjoy working on old cars. Another son loves fly fishing...so he called up his dad to learn the skill. The father had been military and stationed world wide...missed a lot of kid moments. As adults they understand that time shared is feelings spared.
My one son could call his Dad every day and he'd only get shunned. It's sad really. His Dad thru out the years has openly favored the older son. I stopped encouraging my youngest to build a bridge...his Dad is there to torch it.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:


Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top