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What would fathers of an adult son like to hear from his son? There are thoughts or feelings that we never share.
I bring this up because he's a bit distant from his extended family at times and at 61 I feel he wants to maintain a social life. My stepmother stresses him out sometimes with her issues. I don't get along with her but want nothing but peace for my own sanity and to keep a strong relationship with my father. There's really no gift I can give him since he has everything, just words or other help. What do you wish your adult son would do for you?
Since I left home, there was a 6-month stretch where my father and I didn't talk. We weren't at war with each other, it's just that I wanted time to get used to being on my own. Now, I go back to my old neighborhood to see my father and we picked up where we left off. I tell my pops all the time, I probably wouldn't make it on my own if he wasn't hard on me as a child. Thanks for showing me what manhood is all about. If I can be half the man you are, I would be doing good. My father hit me with the following statement: Son, don't be like me, be better than me.
And take him out to dinner sometimes, your treat. Just you and him - it'll be nice time and will demonstrate that you are independent and mature, which is what every father wants for their kid.
My father has actually said to call him, so it's not always him calling. We speak frequently, like 4 times per week but it's usually him, giving me little chance to do the calling. Lately I been taking more initiative and it's a good thing to remember.
Taking out to eat together is a good idea, as well as saying how all I really want to be a bit like him by working hard and have the same level of achievements as I seen him earn.
Find a common hobby and plan to experience it together. One son bought an old corvette and called his dad over to work on it. They both enjoy working on old cars. Another son loves fly fishing...so he called up his dad to learn the skill. The father had been military and stationed world wide...missed a lot of kid moments. As adults they understand that time shared is feelings spared.
My one son could call his Dad every day and he'd only get shunned. It's sad really. His Dad thru out the years has openly favored the older son. I stopped encouraging my youngest to build a bridge...his Dad is there to torch it.
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