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Old 04-30-2018, 04:39 PM
 
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I feel like my heart has just been broke.
Up until 3 weeks ago we were a fine single family. Father deceased 10 years ago.
Just me and her. THen about 3 weeks, She began stealing mt debit card #'s (JUST found that out.0
She lied about working at the mall (I dropped her off and picked her up-she doesn't drive)

3 days ago she CLAIMED to was going out of state for a work conference in VA (LIE), just so happened to check my banking account and there was a airfare charge and airbnb. Called the companies, and they confirmed my daughter charges this to MASS. She only took a backpack and didn't pack toiletried and I think she only has 1 pr of shoes. It was well calculated, but she didn't pack what she needed.

She took her id, SSN, and BC. She claims she is not going out to the country, but every word is a lie.

She stated she needs to explore her independence, and has leased a place (SOMEWHERE) and has plenty of cash (from my acct), and not to worry

She won't give me any answers of what she is doing, claims, she is 18 I don't have to tell you.
She WILL reply to my texts, but after about 10 hours.

She just finished a semester at college with a 3.7 (so she claims- could be a lie, but stuck to this story for 34 months.

She was due a stipend, but if she was still attending.

No friends, she has had a social anxiety FOREVER.
I don't think she does drugs....she took classes online and I was always home. She doesn't like needle, has nasal issues, so wouldn't snort anything.

I just so worried. Being, she is 18, I guess there is nothing i can do legally, just wait to see if comes clean and PRAY she doesn't meet foul play.

I just needed to vent.....
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Old 04-30-2018, 05:40 PM
 
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Cancel the cards. I don't have much other advice. I hope she stays safe.
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Old 04-30-2018, 05:48 PM
 
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I understand how worried you must be, But an 18 yr old, with no job, no friends, and an online degree from the comfort of home doesn't sound healthy either. She sounds like she's striving for independence, and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Of course, the way she went about it was decidedly immature. Keep the fragile line of communication open. Encourage her to text daily to let you now she is safe for your own peace of mind. And tell her you will support her independence if she returns.

BTW, that was 3-4 months of telling you she had a 3.7 gpa, right? She didn't start college at 15 did she?
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Old 04-30-2018, 05:49 PM
 
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Likely met a guy online.
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Old 04-30-2018, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Likely met a guy online.
Yep, while she was home doing "online school" all day.

Sorry, OP. This is very sad.
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Old 04-30-2018, 06:01 PM
 
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Likely met a guy online.
Met 1, 2, 3, or more, needs independence to balance them all and get the attention she craves.
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Old 04-30-2018, 06:39 PM
 
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OP, DON'T cancel the cards.

That's the only way you'll know where she is, and if she's ok.

I don't know what she's up to, but she is extremely fragile, and if you cut off her access to money, who knows what will happen to her.

It sounds like she's having a mental health break.

Does mental illness run in your family or your late husbands?
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Old 04-30-2018, 08:51 PM
 
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I know how worried you must be, I can only say keep the communication going and let her know that you love her and suggest that by coming home you could guide her and help her plan a budget and plan to get out on her own.

Find out what she wants to do with her life. She may feel pressured , Sometimes college isn't for everyone. Not that I think you are pressuring her.
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Old 04-30-2018, 11:29 PM
 
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Want her back? Press charges for unauthorized use of your bank funds. Sounds harsh yet if she wants to play adult...this is an adult result to her actions.
My sister drained my moms acct and drained her trust in her daughter. It was sad all around.
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Old 05-01-2018, 01:47 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Have you actually spoken to her since she has been gone or just texts? Also, how does she withdraw money with just a debit card number and not the actual card itself?
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